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    Re: Parents: Punishing Kids

    Quote Originally Posted by Nilly View Post
    I was (open handedly) spanked as a child, I 'turned out fine' and don't blame my parents in the slightest (it's what they thought was best), I think that discipline by force is an outdated practice. It promotes fear rather than respect and we now know there are other effective means of raising a child.
    Sadly, fear is a timeless tactic to get other people to obey your command. Why earn their respect, when you can just beat their ass and make them scared? Hell, most people think they are getting respect when they spank a kid, but sorry, that is not true.

    An interesting thing about this discussion is that politics and parenting style have a strong correlation.

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    Re: Parents: Punishing Kids

    Quote Originally Posted by Henrin View Post
    I don't believe assault corrects behavior in the way you think it does.
    Have you seen the way bears treat their offspring, by any chance?

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    Again, I would be inclined to say that human parents possess many of the same instincts for a reason.

    It is harmless if done properly.
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    Re: Parents: Punishing Kids

    Quote Originally Posted by Henrin View Post
    I don't believe assault corrects behavior in the way you think it does.
    Do you have any kids?
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    Re: Parents: Punishing Kids

    Quote Originally Posted by Henrin View Post
    Sadly, fear is a timeless tactic to get other people to obey your command. Why earn their respect, when you can just beat their ass and make them scared? Hell, most people think they are getting respect when they spank a kid, but sorry, that is not true.

    An interesting thing about this discussion is that politics and parenting style have a strong correlation.
    I feared and respected my father. Yet, he never laid a hand on me. Ever.

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    Re: Parents: Punishing Kids

    Quote Originally Posted by disneydude View Post
    I would say the same for a parent who uses an "open hand".

    In my experience, adults who use physical force against children usually do so for one of two reasons: 1. They are ill equipped to be a parent and have not taken the time to learn proper discipline methods or 2. They become extremely frustrated and act out of rage.
    An open handed pop on the butt to get ones attention is one thing, but the conversation is stemming form Adrian Peterson beating the crap out of his kid with a switch.
    He needs help if he thinks its OK.

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    Re: Parents: Punishing Kids

    Quote Originally Posted by iacardsfan View Post
    With the recent news of Minnesota Vikings running back Adrian Peterson being charged with child abuse in possibly two separate cases, I thought it would be a good time to pose the question of where to draw the line in punishing a child. It was always acceptable for me to get a spanking or slap when I was out of line as a kid, and that wasn't overly long ago. Now all of a sudden, Mr. Peterson is in hot water as a result. Granted, I was never spanked with a stick, but there were always some interesting objects involved. I just wanted to know if you believe it is allowable for an adult to use force that does not cause permanent damage in order to teach/ discipline their children. Please explain you answer.
    The only strike I believe in is the spank, with the intent to shock their attention and not as a punative punishment, only in serious situatiins.

    Small child playing with a knife = 1 swat.

    Not moltiple swats, not out of anger, with the open hand only.

    That's where I draw the line on phisical punishment.

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    Re: Parents: Punishing Kids

    Quote Originally Posted by iacardsfan View Post
    It was always acceptable for me to get a spanking or slap when I was out of line as a kid, and that wasn't overly long ago.
    It was not acceptable when I was a child, I'm 43. It's been illegal in Sweden for decades. Using personal anecdote to apologize for child abuse is simply an attempt to legitimize ones own experience; everyone wants to believe what happened to them is okay, that's human nature and void of intellectual consideration.


    Teaching a child to use violence to get what they want is wrong.

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    Re: Parents: Punishing Kids

    Quote Originally Posted by Jerry View Post
    The only strike I believe in is the spank, with the intent to shock their attention and not as a punative punishment, only in serious situatiins.

    Small child playing with a knife = 1 swat.

    Not moltiple swats, not out of anger, with the open hand only.

    That's where I draw the line on phisical punishment.
    Pretty much my thoughts. It's nonverbal communication to show displeasure with one's offspring, not to instill fear or pain.

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    Re: Parents: Punishing Kids

    Quote Originally Posted by CRUE CAB View Post
    Only with an open hand.
    If you need a weapon, you are a loser and have no control over your children.
    ...or yourself.

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    Re: Parents: Punishing Kids

    Yes, I think there are instances where physical punishment is a reasonable thing a parent should be able to do. Children are diverse individuals who all learn, adapt, and react to different stimuli and methods of teaching/corrective action. Is it possible to go absolutely overboard? Yes, yes it is. However, it's similarly very easy to go overboard in terms of the reaction towards any level of physical punishment. But we live in a society that more and more has to box everything into little extremes as a means of being able to get on ones high horse and declare oneself superior.

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