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Large age gap marriages - Icky?

Marraiges with large age gaps should be banned


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True, but that's not the point. Also, allegedly they're back together.

Anywho, this isn't about where they went, it's about the function of icky-iness, they are just a good example.

What's icky about a 51 year old man? My husband is 51 and there is nothing icky about him.
 
What's icky about a 51 year old man? My husband is 51 and there is nothing icky about him.

I agree. Some of the best looking men I have seen are 50 and older. While I appreciate the point that OC is trying to make, I am increasingly becoming upset with his calling 50+ year old men, and May-December romances "icky," seeing as how mine has lasted for almost 19 years.
 
I agree. Some of the best looking men I have seen are 50 and older. While I appreciate the point that OC is trying to make, I am increasingly becoming upset with his calling 50+ year old men, and May-December romances "icky," seeing as how mine has lasted for almost 19 years.

My father was 18 years older than my mother. There was nothing icky about their union, and when my mother was 33 and my father was 51, I can guarantee she didn't consider him "icky". If she was only 16 the time, she still wouldn't consider him icky. She was in love, as I'm sure you are as well.
 
I think there should be no restrictions on the marriage decisions of legal adults. That being said, 16 is not a legal adult and this guy belongs in prison.

Why in prison?
 
She looks pretty old for 16.

That is what I thought too.

Looks she has had a pretty hard life already or the pictures and story if fake.
 
No. The point of the thread is to show that some people are behaving irrationally by being against marriage on the notion of icky, aka, same sex marriage.

If it's okay for this obviously icky marriage to be approved....why not same sex? Just because we may find it unappealing and gross does not dictate that we prohibit such a marriage.

See WHC who voted no for banning but is strongly against same sex marriage. I guess it's icky but okay if they're straight, but its icky and not okay if they're gay.

Can you please tell me what you see as "obviously icky" about this relationship?
 
Plus someone has to break the law to be in prison. He didn't break the law. Her mother consented.

I understand the OP was trying to push the gay agenda here using this but it didn't work.
 
It is, and what is even more disturbing (imo) is that so many people never even bother to get married and give their children an intact family environment in the first place.

You can't have 'an intact family environment' without being married. Tell that to SIL's mother, who lived with her partner for over 40 years until he went into a nursing home.
 
My father was 18 years older than my mother. There was nothing icky about their union, and when my mother was 33 and my father was 51, I can guarantee she didn't consider him "icky". If she was only 16 the time, she still wouldn't consider him icky. She was in love, as I'm sure you are as well.

My dad was 18 years older than his second wife, too. Their marriage lasted till she died 28 years later and they were more in love on their 28th anniversary than on their wedding day.
 
My dad was 18 years older than his second wife, too. Their marriage lasted till she died 28 years later and they were more in love on their 28th anniversary than on their wedding day.

Totally OT, but your avatar is adorable.

Yup, love is from the heart, and it doesn't care how old the other person is. If you find your soulmate, it's not relevant if the person is 1 day younger than you or 30 years younger, assuming the younger person isn't 3.
 
It is, and what is even more disturbing (imo) is that so many people never even bother to get married and give their children an intact family environment in the first place.

Meh, a piece of paper doesn't make you an intact family unit. My husband and I lived together for 4 years before we got married, and our children were just as well taken care of before we got married as after. They were fed, they were clothed, and they didn't feel any less loved once we had the piece of paper than when we didn't have it. :shrug:

I think love makes an intact family environment. Stability. Dinner on the table at night. Game nights. Listening to the kids.

In my opinion, those are much more important to an intact family environment than a piece of paper.
 
You can't have 'an intact family environment' without being married. Tell that to SIL's mother, who lived with her partner for over 40 years until he went into a nursing home.

There should be a ? at the end of the first sentence, it's too late for me to edit.
 
Totally OT, but your avatar is adorable.

Thanks! I love horses, too, as well as dogs.


Yup, love is from the heart, and it doesn't care how old the other person is. If you find your soulmate, it's not relevant if the person is 1 day younger than you or 30 years younger, assuming the younger person isn't 3.

Agreed!
 
Meh, a piece of paper doesn't make you an intact family unit. My husband and I lived together for 4 years before we got married, and our children were just as well taken care of before we got married as after. They were fed, they were clothed, and they didn't feel any less loved once we had the piece of paper than when we didn't have it. :shrug:

It's really not the piece of paper itself that matters to me, but the commitment that it implies. I know there are plenty of people who never bother to marry who actually DO commit, but what I am talking about is the tendency to not even live together, not have a serious relationship, and not give children an intact family. I just view marriage and commitment (whether or not the piece of paper is there) as essentially the same thing.
 
You can't have 'an intact family environment' without being married. Tell that to SIL's mother, who lived with her partner for over 40 years until he went into a nursing home.

No offense, but you're really not getting the point that I was making. Meh....
 
It's really not the piece of paper itself that matters to me, but the commitment that it implies. I know there are plenty of people who never bother to marry who actually DO commit, but what I am talking about is the tendency to not even live together, not have a serious relationship, and not give children an intact family. I just view marriage and commitment (whether or not the piece of paper is there) as essentially the same thing.

Gotcha, girlie. I see what you mean.

I used to work with a girl. Such a comical couple, she and her husband were. Extremely large white woman, probably 6', 300#. Extremely tiny black man, probably 5'4", 125#. But they couldn't have been more in love. Been together over 20 years, with a house full of kids. We used to tease her about why they never married. "Why jinx it?" was her answer. "We've been happy for over 20 years. If we get that piece of paper now, it might jack it all up." :lol:

She was probably right.
 
What's icky about a 51 year old man? My husband is 51 and there is nothing icky about him.

I agree. Some of the best looking men I have seen are 50 and older. While I appreciate the point that OC is trying to make, I am increasingly becoming upset with his calling 50+ year old men, and May-December romances "icky," seeing as how mine has lasted for almost 19 years.

My husband is 13 years older, and turned 49 last month. He is my best friend.

The only time it ever gets remotely "icky" is when we listen to old music together & do the "What/Where were you then?" routine...

I find it hilarious! I tease him endlessly with those questions. "1985? Let's see... I was 20." My response..."I was in 3rd grade!" :mrgreen:

I always say it was the "starting-to-go-gray" hair & Boston accent... I was done for! :2razz:
 
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My husband is 13 years older, and turned 49 last month. He is my best friend.

The only time it ever gets remotely "icky" is when we listen to old music together & do the "What/Where were you then?" routine...

I find it hilarious! I tease him endlessly with those questions. "1985? Let's see... I was 20." My response..."I was in 3rd grade!" :mrgreen:

I always say it was the "starting-to-go-gray" hair & Boston accent... I was done for! :2razz:

I think the age difference really becomes an issue when one of the two is really young when they meet or at least when the relationship begins, due mainly to the developmental stages that each person is most likely to be in. My husband is almost 4 years younger than me. We met when I was 24 and he was 21 (he had just turned 21, I was going to turn 25 within weeks of us meeting). We were both in the same developmental stages of our lives, the same basic place. Had we met when we were younger, such as our teens, we wouldn't even have went to high school together. There is a much bigger difference between someone who is a teenager and someone who is an adult than there is between two adults, even if the age gap is the same. My father is married to a woman 13 years older than him. He has known her all his life. In fact, she babysat him when he was really little. They didn't start their relationship (as far as I know) until he was in his 50s.
 
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