View Poll Results: Marraiges with large age gaps should be banned

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Thread: Large age gap marriages - Icky?

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    Re: Large age gap marriages - Icky?

    Quote Originally Posted by tres borrachos View Post
    Totally OT, but your avatar is adorable.
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    Yup, love is from the heart, and it doesn't care how old the other person is. If you find your soulmate, it's not relevant if the person is 1 day younger than you or 30 years younger, assuming the younger person isn't 3.
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    Re: Large age gap marriages - Icky?

    Quote Originally Posted by Superfly View Post
    Meh, a piece of paper doesn't make you an intact family unit. My husband and I lived together for 4 years before we got married, and our children were just as well taken care of before we got married as after. They were fed, they were clothed, and they didn't feel any less loved once we had the piece of paper than when we didn't have it.
    It's really not the piece of paper itself that matters to me, but the commitment that it implies. I know there are plenty of people who never bother to marry who actually DO commit, but what I am talking about is the tendency to not even live together, not have a serious relationship, and not give children an intact family. I just view marriage and commitment (whether or not the piece of paper is there) as essentially the same thing.
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    Re: Large age gap marriages - Icky?

    Quote Originally Posted by Scrabaholic View Post
    You can't have 'an intact family environment' without being married. Tell that to SIL's mother, who lived with her partner for over 40 years until he went into a nursing home.
    No offense, but you're really not getting the point that I was making. Meh....
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    Re: Large age gap marriages - Icky?

    Quote Originally Posted by lizzie View Post
    It's really not the piece of paper itself that matters to me, but the commitment that it implies. I know there are plenty of people who never bother to marry who actually DO commit, but what I am talking about is the tendency to not even live together, not have a serious relationship, and not give children an intact family. I just view marriage and commitment (whether or not the piece of paper is there) as essentially the same thing.
    Gotcha, girlie. I see what you mean.

    I used to work with a girl. Such a comical couple, she and her husband were. Extremely large white woman, probably 6', 300#. Extremely tiny black man, probably 5'4", 125#. But they couldn't have been more in love. Been together over 20 years, with a house full of kids. We used to tease her about why they never married. "Why jinx it?" was her answer. "We've been happy for over 20 years. If we get that piece of paper now, it might jack it all up."

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    Re: Large age gap marriages - Icky?

    Quote Originally Posted by Mason66 View Post
    Can you please tell me what you see as "obviously icky" about this relationship?
    He's old enough to be her grandfather. You don't think that's icky at all?
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    Re: Large age gap marriages - Icky?

    Quote Originally Posted by tres borrachos View Post
    What's icky about a 51 year old man? My husband is 51 and there is nothing icky about him.
    Are you 16 years of age?
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    Re: Large age gap marriages - Icky?

    Quote Originally Posted by obvious Child View Post
    He's old enough to be her grandfather. You don't think that's icky at all?
    I would say more natural than icky.

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    Re: Large age gap marriages - Icky?

    Quote Originally Posted by obvious Child View Post
    He's old enough to be her grandfather. You don't think that's icky at all?
    Icky is a relative term. What is icky for you is obviously not icky for others.
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    Re: Large age gap marriages - Icky?

    Quote Originally Posted by tres borrachos View Post
    What's icky about a 51 year old man? My husband is 51 and there is nothing icky about him.
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    I agree. Some of the best looking men I have seen are 50 and older. While I appreciate the point that OC is trying to make, I am increasingly becoming upset with his calling 50+ year old men, and May-December romances "icky," seeing as how mine has lasted for almost 19 years.
    My husband is 13 years older, and turned 49 last month. He is my best friend.

    The only time it ever gets remotely "icky" is when we listen to old music together & do the "What/Where were you then?" routine...

    I find it hilarious! I tease him endlessly with those questions. "1985? Let's see... I was 20." My response..."I was in 3rd grade!"

    I always say it was the "starting-to-go-gray" hair & Boston accent... I was done for!
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    Re: Large age gap marriages - Icky?

    Quote Originally Posted by Doppelgangirl View Post
    My husband is 13 years older, and turned 49 last month. He is my best friend.

    The only time it ever gets remotely "icky" is when we listen to old music together & do the "What/Where were you then?" routine...

    I find it hilarious! I tease him endlessly with those questions. "1985? Let's see... I was 20." My response..."I was in 3rd grade!"

    I always say it was the "starting-to-go-gray" hair & Boston accent... I was done for!
    I think the age difference really becomes an issue when one of the two is really young when they meet or at least when the relationship begins, due mainly to the developmental stages that each person is most likely to be in. My husband is almost 4 years younger than me. We met when I was 24 and he was 21 (he had just turned 21, I was going to turn 25 within weeks of us meeting). We were both in the same developmental stages of our lives, the same basic place. Had we met when we were younger, such as our teens, we wouldn't even have went to high school together. There is a much bigger difference between someone who is a teenager and someone who is an adult than there is between two adults, even if the age gap is the same. My father is married to a woman 13 years older than him. He has known her all his life. In fact, she babysat him when he was really little. They didn't start their relationship (as far as I know) until he was in his 50s.
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