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To be fair here, one can rationalize just about anything to themselves after the fact, especially if there's nothing they can do to really change it.
What else is a person going to do? Wallowing in self pity simply isn't productive way to live one's life.
That's the beauty of the human spirit. We can overcome and adapt to such forms of adversity.
However, that being said, I think it's kind of hard to argue that "adversity" of this sort is intrinsically valuable or useful. It simply makes things more complicated than they have to be and causes unnecessary problems.
But I think that perspective is begging the question; it's assuming these conditions are undesirable. I'll grant there are some conditions for which this is true - let's say, cerebral palsy. People who were just dealt a ****ty hand and are trying to make the most of it. If such a person says that they're perfectly happy with their life and don't regret being born the way they were, while I commend the positive attitude I don't think they're being truly honest with themselves (perhaps as a psychological defense mechanism).
But there are also "conditions" for which that's not necessarily true. For example, I wouldn't want to have been born a woman instead. I don't think there's anything wrong with being a woman, it's just that I am content with my gender and wouldn't want to be different in that regard. That doesn't mean I view women who say they are happy with being women as people who are just lying to themselves and just "making the best of a ****ty hand". I believe they are legitimately content with who they are, even if it's not the way I would want to be.
I view homosexuality as closer to the latter. I wouldn't want to be homosexual, but I think that homosexuals who are content with their orientation are genuinely so. That they aren't just "making the best out of a ****ty hand". In which case I don't view homosexuality as something that ought to be prevented any more than being a woman ought to be prevented.
If everyone could be born "normal," I'd say that it'd be better if they were.
I think the determining factor is not whether a condition is "normal" but whether it's a condition that's inherently bad. I agree that homosexuality is not "normal", but I don't agree that the experience of being homosexual necessarily be bad, even though it's not the way I would want to be.