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    Re: Double Standard?

    Quote Originally Posted by vasuderatorrent View Post
    This really isn't a problem like you are making it out to be.
    Actually it is. Stats say that 38-44% of domestic abuse cases are men being attacked by women and the number is growing. In 86% of those cases women use some type of weapon. Women are not arrested as much and statistics show that most men don't report abuse because it isn't manly. So the number could be even higher than 38-44%.
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    Re: Double Standard?

    Quote Originally Posted by vasuderatorrent View Post
    You can say that the way outsiders view the situation is slanted to be funny when men are abused and to be tragic when women are abused. To be fair, law enforcement officers are not outsiders. They have to analyze the situation and consider the specifics of the case. They don't operate with vague generalities. If the husband is a 350 pound body builder who get's beat up by his 110 pound anorexic girlfriend, I don't think she will be hauled off to jail. He is free to laugh it off as a cute thing. If the wife is a 350 pound muscle lady and beats up on her 110 pound sickly husband then I am sure she is going to jail for domestic assault.

    It's a case by case basis. If we are going to operate in the big picture by using generalities then yes. Logic would dictate that woman on man violence is laughable because most men are stronger and larger than women.

    This really isn't a problem like you are making it out to be.
    There are women who use law enforcement's obvious bias against men to their advantage every day. They instigate the fight and then report they've been attacked. They should be horse-whipped.

    Tom knows a guy who's on parole. His girlfriend is always beating the crap out of him . . . he runs for the hills. The only defense he feels he's allowed in the eyes of the law.

    Why is he with her? Probably the same reason a woman stays with an abuser.

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    Re: Double Standard?

    Quote Originally Posted by Removable Mind View Post
    Interesting proposition, but there's much more updated information. "Gender symmetry violence" is the term used to describe all of the statistical relationships regard violence between so-called "Intimate Partners Violence".

    Curious, Bod...why is the topic in the forefront of your mind?
    I was watching Jerry McGuire for the umpteenth time and it suddenly hit me that it really isn't funny... that, and 5 years ago or whenever it was my wife assaulted me and the cops shrugged it off even though she knows and used Judo against me in front of our girls. I was backing away and blocking so it was kinda like Jet Li versus Jackie Chan.
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    Re: Double Standard?

    Quote Originally Posted by MaggieD View Post
    There are women who use law enforcement's obvious bias against men to their advantage every day. They instigate the fight and then report they've been attacked. They should be horse-whipped.
    Good point Maggie...
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    Re: Double Standard?

    Quote Originally Posted by Muhammed View Post
    Well, I think it has a lot to do with the seriousness of the threat. Generally, men are much bigger and stronger than women.
    Right, but isn't physical violence against another illegal regardless?
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    Re: Double Standard?

    Quote Originally Posted by Your Star View Post
    Yeah, none of that is true.
    I hate to tell you, but it is. I've been to feminist meetings. I've met feminists. I've joined feminist groups. Most of the women involved are more concerned with their own twisted double standard than any sort of equal rights. It's a sad truth.

    I'm not a feminist, get over it. Even if modern feminists weren't all caught up in the empowerment nonsense, I still wouldn't be one. I don't support "womens' rights." I don't support "gay rights." I don't support "black rights." I don't support "asian rights." I support individual rights. I support the right of every individual to have equal rights and treatment no matter their race, sexuality, or gender. I feel like focusing on minorities is part of the problem. "Oh we need to cater to the minorities." No, actually, we don't. Being a gay woman, I have grown up being told that society owes me something that I have not gotten. I was told that I will never amount to anything unless I'm a militant a**hole and shove my gender and sexuality down everybody's throats. I believed it for a long time. But eventually I ditched the whole "woe is me, I'm a minority" crap and just went my own way. I realized that, while there are sexists and homophobes out there, if I just leave everyone alone for the most part I don't have any problems.

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    Re: Double Standard?

    Quote Originally Posted by Bodhisattva View Post
    Right, but isn't physical violence against another illegal regardless?
    Sometimes. Sometimes not.

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    Re: Double Standard?

    Quote Originally Posted by MaggieD View Post
    There are women who use law enforcement's obvious bias against men to their advantage every day.
    I guess I didn't think about it that way. Great point.

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    Re: Double Standard?

    Yes it is a double standard, and it's no laughing matter whether the man or the woman initiates it. Women get arrested too if the man says he hit her. I know it used to not be that way.

    I agree with a pp that society doesn't really see it as a national problem. You don't see too many people getting fired up over it. I also think it has to do with how males and females interact. Take for instance an adult mother and son joking about who's football team is better. The mom might slap the son on the arm(jokingly) while saying her team is better. The son laughs it off. Take two adult siblings. The sister might jokingly punch the brother over a lighthearted disagreement or some sibling name calling. They both laugh it off. You rarely see this the other way around. You see women jokingly hit men all the time, but never see men do it. We have just been ingrained that men can take it(and they cN when it's playful). There may be a correlation with how ppl process it.

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    Re: Double Standard?

    Quote Originally Posted by Bodhisattva View Post
    I was watching Jerry McGuire for the umpteenth time and it suddenly hit me that it really isn't funny... that, and 5 years ago or whenever it was my wife assaulted me and the cops shrugged it off even though she knows and used Judo against me in front of our girls. I was backing away and blocking so it was kinda like Jet Li versus Jackie Chan.
    I don't think violence is funny no matter who instigates it. Obvious women can and some do engage in significant violence against men. I think that the dynamics involved are more complex than most know or understand.

    Reports that are disseminated from various agencies and organization - most will make the disclaimer that certain aspects or types of violence aren't included. So I personally don't know who provides all inclusive correlations verses specific types of violence statistics which are somehow manipulated to attempt to give us a "big picture" depiction of domestic violence.

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