Excuses are worthless. Self pity is worthless. Sitting in a puddle of mud and blaming others for it while staying there is ignorant - but that is what you demand people do - because your views are fundamentally bigoted and racist.
My friends - as you put it - come to our house. Ours is the largest and most costly, because my wife and I both play our cards in life particularly well and we both have a life history to expending the efforts to improve the hand we have. We also are better at manipulating and organizing people to our benefit.
Your view is to just rage that the game is unfair and accuse everyone of cheating. Its called being dedicated to being a loser - and demanding everyone else be a loser too.