Stop being daft. "New money" is always viewed negatively.
"We all of us know down here that politics is a tough game. And I don't think there's any point in being Irish if you don't know that the world is going to break your heart eventually."-Daniel Patrick Moynihan, December 5, 1963
When I was in school, I was pretty poor. When I got out of school, I was still pretty poor. Got married. Still pretty poor. Changed jobs a few times and got some promotions and made some ridiculously stupid mistakes on the job.
I think you could argue pretty persuasively that I was not a very good person after I had doubled my income compared to the person who was living in the condemned duplex in the ghetto.
This is not to say I did not do stupid and incredibly selfish crap at every turn regardless of my income. It's just that my pettiness and insecurity as an immature manager came through in the way I managed people. As I matured and got a better grip on what a business was and how to work with and for people, I got far less stupid.
Now I'm older and with age comes wisdom which is French for experience. Having made almost every mistake and stupid move previously, I can feel when it's about to happen again.
The perspective of age lends understanding in viewing the actions of others as well as my own actions. There is something to be said for the mercurial flights and crashes of passion. The highs and lows are like working without a net.
Right now, I generally like boredom. Does this make me a better person? Does having enough money make me a better person?
"Most men live their lives in quiet desperation"- Thoreau
"The wild regrets and the bloody sweats, None knew so well as I"- Wilde
I am not of the mind that a man is either of science or of religion. At his best and his worst, man exists in the misty glimmering where the falling angel meets the rising ape. That he chooses a direction from that point defines him as human.
I voted but now need to give an explanation. So: More money gives people an additional opportunity to change the person they are. What are you going to do with that opportunity? We have more money now. Most if not all of our changes are due to getting older and being retired. More money just allows us more choices. It also adds a lot of complexity to our lives since we can do so much more.
OP, havent you posted on the topic of $$ before of your difficulties accepting...and your church/community accepting (at least in your mind)...your wife making more $ than you?
To the point of bringing suicide into the conversation?