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The purpose of parenthood

The purpose of parenthood

  • To agree with your political and cultural values

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  • To get them out of the house ASAP

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Since gender roles has been a big topic here lately. I am curious how DP feels about this topic.

I am aware that for the most honest answer, this would be a multiple answer poll, but I am more curious about top priorities.

Edit: Also the second option has a typo (before should be become) (if a mod sees that, would they be willing to fix it?)
 
To build a family, supply genetic variation, experience joy and pain (life), and share love with others.
 
(Spoken as a non-parent)

I would have answered 1-5 had this been a multiple choice poll (although if you explained what you meant by "free spirit" I would likely disagree with you). As it is I answered 3, since all authentic happiness, morality, freedom, and right-minded politics is of God.
 
(Spoken as a non-parent)

I would have answered 1-5 had this been a multiple choice poll (although if you explained what you meant by "free spirit" I would likely disagree with you). As it is I answered 3, since all authentic happiness, morality, freedom, and right-minded politics is of God.


In other words.....you should have chosen #5.
 
Other: She found the state I moved to and discovered my alias.
 
option #2

Being a good person is more important than being healthy and happy.

It's also important to understand the difference between options 2 and 5.
 
(Spoken as a non-parent)

all authentic happiness, morality, freedom, and right-minded politics is of God.


I truly hope you remain a non-parent for as long as you have that philosophy.
 
I truly hope you remain a non-parent for as long as you have that philosophy.

And I hope you get better at coming up with somewhat original insults.
 
Since gender roles has been a big topic here lately. I am curious how DP feels about this topic.

I am aware that for the most honest answer, this would be a multiple answer poll, but I am more curious about top priorities.

Edit: Also the second option has a typo (before should be become) (if a mod sees that, would they be willing to fix it?)

I rather like this: "Give them roots and give them wings."
 
I rather like this: "Give them roots and give them wings."

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To nurture, guide and instill with the aim of seeing children maximize their life's highest potential for success and happiness. This involves many things that include, to the greatest extent possible trying to offer:

- A life filled with culturally enriching experiences.
- The best possible education that I think is maximized with access to technology in the home, support for extra-curricular involvement, working to get them in the best schools and making learning entertaining.
- Spiritual guidance, both taught and caught through example.
- Installation of values
- Self-esteem and confidence building.
- Stable home life.
- Support for proper nutrition and health
- Monitoring influences and supporting the positive while blocking the negative.
- etc.

I also think society shows and the Bible also supports the idea that intact 2 parent homes provide the best home environments, all things being equal. The most obvious reason is raising kids properly with the aim of seeing the best possible life outcomes is work. In 2014 most people work fulltime jobs outside of the home in order to afford the necessities of life. It takes 2 parents just to have the manpower (or womanpower ;)) to effectively do all the work of parenting.

I also think there are some innate abilities only a mother can contribute in the child rearing experience and certain innate abilities only a father can contribute. For example recent research has shown girls respect the advise the get from her mother. This is especially true when encouraging adolescent girl to delay becoming sexuality active and overall advice in relationships, provided she has a close relationship with her mother that is not likely to exist if she grows up in another home. Boys learn to respect and defend women based on how he witnesses his father relate to his mother and sisters. Girls who don't have a healthy relationship with her father often seek the affirmation and affection of males often in inappropriate ways often with numerous partners in revolving door fashion and/or are exploited by older men. Some boys are wired to only see legitimate leadership as coming from a male. If there is no father present, those males will never truly respect the leadership of their mother in the home and extension her discipline and might even gravitate to embracing the leadership of gang leaders.

Of course, there are exceptions. There are kids who come from horrible backgrounds are turned of successful. There are kids who have every advantage in life and have had horrible life outcomes. Just talking about the most likely outcomes.
 
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And I hope you get better at coming up with somewhat original insults.

I wasn't really trying to be insulting, but when you say things like the below, that come off as highly arrogant and pedantic, I'm not sure what you'd expect otherwise.

since all authentic happiness, morality, freedom, and right-minded politics is of God.
 
I wasn't really trying to be insulting, but when you say things like the below, that come off as highly arrogant and pedantic, I'm not sure what you'd expect otherwise.

How is it "arrogant and pedantic"?
 
I wasn't really trying to be insulting, but when you say things like the below, that come off as highly arrogant and pedantic, .

I have to disagree as I didn't see his statement as pedantic at all. In fact the statement would indicate he wasn't trying to flaunt any knowledge or intelligence at all since such a statement was so completely bereft of either.

I would agree with the word "chauvenistic", however.
 
I would never raise my child for the purpose of them agreeing with me politically or spiritually. I want my child to be successful but at the same time walk his own path.
 
I have to disagree as I didn't see his statement as pedantic at all. In fact the statement would indicate he wasn't trying to flaunt any knowledge or intelligence at all since such a statement was so completely bereft of either.

I would agree with the word "chauvenistic", however.

You don't think "all authentic" is pedantic?

So those of us who don't believe in god, his god specifically I'm sure, can't ever experience "authentic" happiness, freedom, and we have no morals and our political ideologies are "wrong"????


It's the "all authentic" part. Arrogant. Pedantic.

pedant: a person who adheres rigidly to book knowledge without regard to common sense
 
Answered #1 but also believe parents are responsible for raising a kid that, if not a contributor to society, at least does it no harm. Parents should be held accountable for any of that until the kid is at least 18....and while I dont understand why children are allowed on parent's insurance plans until 26 now....then why not until then?

Cuz alot of parents really suck and the rest of us have to pay for their incompetancy, laziness, self-centeredness, addictions, whatever.
 
The poll should have been multiple choice.

If it had been, I would have selected A, B, and C (though, to be honest, I'm not sure about the 'above all else' aspect of that last option).

It is a parent's job to provide society, and the human race in general, with the next generation. In doing so, they provide its hope for the future.

As such, those children need to be raised well enough to not only be "happy," but productive and moral individuals who contribute something of value to our civilization as a whole.
 
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option #2

Being a good person is more important than being healthy and happy.

It's also important to understand the difference between options 2 and 5.

Miserable sick people rarely do good.

Happy people are people that wish to see others happy.
 
You don't think "all authentic" is pedantic?

So those of us who don't believe in god, his god specifically I'm sure, can't ever experience "authentic" happiness, freedom, and we have no morals and our political ideologies are "wrong"????


It's the "all authentic" part. Arrogant. Pedantic.

pedant: a person who adheres rigidly to book knowledge without regard to common sense

Perhaps you need to read what I said a second time, or perhaps even a third if you actually think I am defending him.
 
Regardless of what you THINK is going to happen, what he/she learns and observes from your example is what's gonna stick.
 
You don't think "all authentic" is pedantic?

So those of us who don't believe in god, his god specifically I'm sure, can't ever experience "authentic" happiness, freedom, and we have no morals and our political ideologies are "wrong"????


It's the "all authentic" part. Arrogant. Pedantic.

pedant: a person who adheres rigidly to book knowledge without regard to common sense

The supreme form of happiness is in experiencing the beatific vision. To live in a manner which is not directed to that end cannot result in a life of true spiritual joy, although it can produce temporary emotional feelings of happiness.

Authentic freedom is freedom from sin. While no one can be completely free from sin in this world, all freedom from it which does exist is by God's grace.

Natural moral virtues exist among unbelievers, however even these have their origin in God, although this is not recognized by the individuals in question.

Any political ideology supporting secularism or the establishment of a false religion is extremely wrong-headed. While it is possible for an unbeliever to support the establishment of the true religion, such would only be because he recognized, by the grace of God, that it was better for society on a natural level.
 
The supreme form of happiness is in experiencing the beatific vision. To live in a manner which is not directed to that end cannot result in a life of true spiritual joy, although it can produce temporary emotional feelings of happiness.

Authentic freedom is freedom from sin. While no one can be completely free from sin in this world, all freedom from it which does exist is by God's grace.

Natural moral virtues exist among unbelievers, however even these have their origin in God, although this is not recognized by the individuals in question.

Any political ideology supporting secularism or the establishment of a false religion is extremely wrong-headed. While it is possible for an unbeliever to support the establishment of the true religion, such would only be because he recognized, by the grace of God, that it was better for society on a natural level.

All of the above is pure mumbo-jumbo.

How'd you feel about a similar post made by a muslim-extremist over what they think "authentic" happiness is based on the crap they've learned and been fed????

Parenthood shouldn't be about teaching that kind of morbid nonsense.
If your child finds that sort of thing comforting on their own when they get older then fine, but parenthood isn't about brainwashing.
 
The answer is first and foremost about survival.... at least for anyone willing to observe nature. Procreation for the continuation of the species is a natural trait that is imprinted into the minds of all creatures. Everything after that is secondary.
 
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