Yes, he has a legal right and my opinion agrees with that.
Yes, he has a legal right and in my opinion he shouldnt.
No, he has no legal right and my opinion agrees with that.
No, he has no legal right and in my opinion he should.
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There are only really three reasons why a father should be in the delivery room in the first place; to deliver the child in the highly unlikely event that no one better qualified is available to do so, to comfort / bond with the mother during the birth of their child, and to advocate for the mother's medical wishes in the event that the doctor tries to go "off script," and she becomes too preoccupied with the labor to really be able to speak for herself
However, if a woman doesn't want the father to be present, he won't be accomplishing any of these goals.
He's going to be doing the exact opposite of the former, as all his presence will accomplish is to make the mother upset and resentful of his intrusion. This will make the delivery harder for her, and strain their future relationship.
If they're already in an estranged relationship, she really wouldn't want him medically advocating for her either. This makes his presence useless in that regard as well.
You could argue that he might be able to advocate for the child itself, I suppose. However, even that argument ultimately fails, as the best thing that can be done for the child is to ensure that the mother has an optimal environment in which to deliver it.
Basically all a father's going to represent under the circumstances specified by the OP is a "third wheel," whose presence ultimately winds up doing far more harm to the situation than good.
It might hurt his feelings, but the basic fact of the matter is that any potential father-child "bonding" which might take place as a result of watching it emerge from the mother's birth canal simply pales in comparison to the additional stress and potential risks this particular father's actions introduce into the equation. IMO, he should keep his distance as such.
You would think this would be common sense.
However, even then, I don't think I'd file a law suit over it.
Last edited by Gathomas88; 03-20-14 at 03:56 PM.
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I actually don't understand the voting options... I would say he should have the legal right to be in the room just after delivery. The mom being stressed by him in there could affect both the mom and the baby.