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    Re: Do you think fathers have a legal right to see thier child born or be in the room

    Quote Originally Posted by vesper View Post
    Once upon a time you were admitted, taken to a room, your muff was shaved then you were given a friggen enema. You want to talk about stress? Labor pains and having to run to the friggen toilet ever 10 minutes. You want to talk some more stress? Then they rolled you into a closet size room, left you there to go through the process of dilating every so often coming in to check your blood pressure and no one was allowed back there with you. In pain, scared and alone, that's stress!
    Ah yes, the good old days! At one point, I could have sworn that the guys washing the windows outside came in to check on me to see how far along I was in the dilating process! I was veryhappy to see my doctor at that point!

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    Re: Do you think fathers have a legal right to see thier child born or be in the room

    Most women don't even SEE the baby come out. They are too busy being in pain and pushing. Also, if a woman has a cesarean section, she most certainly doesn't see anything and nobody else is allowed into the operating room because sterility is essential. So, if you really think about, there is no "right" for anyone to watch to the baby be born, not even mom.

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    Re: Do you think fathers have a legal right to see thier child born or be in the room

    Quote Originally Posted by ChrisL View Post
    Most women don't even SEE the baby come out. They are too busy being in pain and pushing. Also, if a woman has a cesarean section, she most certainly doesn't see anything and nobody else is allowed into the operating room because sterility is essential. So, if you really think about, there is no "right" for anyone to watch to the baby be born, not even mom.
    Actually, dads are allowed in the OR with a C-section depending on hospital policy.

    I was to have a C-section with and epidural. He was scrubbed dressed and ready. We both would have "witnessed" the birth, but I had complications and they escorted him out and put me under in a flash.

    The idea was a stable C-section with epidural was ok, unstable and/or with general anesthesia not ok.

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    Re: Do you think fathers have a legal right to see thier child born or be in the room

    Quote Originally Posted by year2late View Post
    Actually, dads are allowed in the OR with a C-section depending on hospital policy.

    I was to have a C-section with and epidural. He was scrubbed dressed and ready. We both would have "witnessed" the birth, but I had complications and they escorted him out and put me under in a flash.

    The idea was a stable C-section with epidural was ok, unstable and/or with general anesthesia not ok.
    Interesting, I've never heard of that before. I don't think I'd really want to watch them pull a baby out of an incision in my belly though. Yeesh, that would freak me out I think.

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    Re: Do you think fathers have a legal right to see thier child born or be in the room

    Quote Originally Posted by ChrisL View Post
    Interesting, I've never heard of that before. I don't think I'd really want to watch them pull a baby out of an incision in my belly though. Yeesh, that would freak me out I think.
    From what I understand, if the mother remains awake, they will usually put a short screen up so that she can't see the operation.

    She can request to go without, of course, but I can't imagine why she would. Lol

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    Re: Do you think fathers have a legal right to see thier child born or be in the room

    Quote Originally Posted by Peter King View Post
    I was just saying that being welcome is something that is absolutely imperative for the mother to be (during labor). And I was not saying an estranged couple but (and I know that would not happen), you made it like that.
    All I said was it means something to dads to be there when the child is born. You're reading way to much into it.

    Quote Originally Posted by Peter King View Post
    The only point is that people just do not want people in the delivery room that they are comfortable with.
    I was just giving a personal experience. I wasn't making a general statement. Sheesh.

    Quote Originally Posted by Peter King View Post
    That was not what I was asking, where they in the delivery room during the entire birthing process or did they come in especially for the cutting of the cord?
    The whole process. We had an appointment to induce labor, and both adopting parents were there from check-in to birth the whole time. This was her (my ex's) wish so that in her mind she was basically a surrogate for someone else's child and wouldn't change her mind at any point, which many moms do.

    Quote Originally Posted by Peter King View Post
    That is what I feel too, I just do not understand one thing, if the doctor and the mother do not have a problem with the father being in the delivery room, who are the others who he has to "assert against"?
    Other family. My mother in-law didn't want me in the delivery room. She said it was a mother-daughter moment and husbands should wait by the nursery. She claimed some 'right to be with her daughter during birth'. The staff would only let one of us be there and married spouses > parents due to being next-of-kin, so I was there and the in-law wasn't. She never forgave me for that but that's ok because we didn't get along anyway.
    Last edited by Jerry; 03-20-14 at 12:37 PM.

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    Re: Do you think fathers have a legal right to see thier child born or be in the room

    Quote Originally Posted by Gathomas88 View Post
    From what I understand, if the mother remains awake, they will usually put a short screen up so that she can't see the operation.

    She can request to go without, of course, but I can't imagine why she would. Lol
    I have no desire to watch, and even if I didn't get to, I would not ABANDON my baby over it, like some people are saying they would do. HORRIBLE, HORRIBLE and selfish, rotten people they must be!

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    Re: Do you think fathers have a legal right to see thier child born or be in the room

    Quote Originally Posted by ChrisL View Post
    I have no desire to watch, and even if I didn't get to, I would not ABANDON my baby over it, like some people are saying they would do. HORRIBLE, HORRIBLE and selfish, rotten people they must be!
    I agree. Abandoning your child outright over the inability to be present during delivery is simply absurd.

    Frankly, I'm not even sure why a man would even want to be present under these particular circumstances anyway. His ex clearly doesn't like him, and he doesn't like her either.

    Even if she did allow it, you'd think that the experience would just be incredibly awkward and uncomfortable more than anything else.
    Last edited by Gathomas88; 03-20-14 at 02:19 PM.

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    Re: Do you think fathers have a legal right to see thier child born or be in the room

    Quote Originally Posted by Jerry View Post
    Other family. My mother in-law didn't want me in the delivery room. She said it was a mother-daughter moment and husbands should wait by the nursery. She claimed some 'right to be with her daughter during birth'. The staff would only let one of us be there and married spouses > parents due to being next-of-kin, so I was there and the in-law wasn't. She never forgave me for that but that's ok because we didn't get along anyway.
    How dare they interfere in something that is only between a husband and his wife to decide. Other people have zero to do with this, mother in laws especially have totally nothing to say about that. You have done nothing that deserves forgiveness, you were absolutely in the right and your mother in law was not.
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    Re: Do you think fathers have a legal right to see thier child born or be in the room

    Quote Originally Posted by Gathomas88 View Post
    I agree. Abandoning your child outright over the inability to be present during delivery is simply absurd.

    Frankly, I'm not even sure why a man would even want to be present under these particular circumstances anyway. His ex clearly doesn't like him, and he doesn't like her either.

    Even if she did allow it, you'd think that the experience would just be incredibly awkward and uncomfortable more than anything else.
    I don't get that either. I would feel very uncomfortable knowing that a person did not want me there and would certainly never impose myself on another person in that way.

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