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    Re: Do you think fathers have a legal right to see thier child born or be in the room

    Quote Originally Posted by vesper View Post
    I found my spouse to be invaluable during labor. He kept track of the contractions, coached me to breath, rubbed my back during hard contractions, wiped my face with a cool cloth, and the look in his eyes of how much he wished he could take the pain from me if he could was priceless. I'll never forget how excited he would get when he first saw the head and discovered the baby had hair.
    My sister was actually a much bigger help than my husband. Not that I didn't appreciate him being there for that extra. It was just easier for my sister to help me.

    My husband was very happy and excited to hold our child. He did find it amusing though when I commented that I thought I delivered an Alien baby. And I thought he was going to punch one or more of the doctors after they told me to finally stop trying to push for a few minutes so that the 5 of them could decide what would work best at helping me deliver after bringing a tray full of instruments into the room. He absolutely hated seeing me in pain.
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    Re: Do you think fathers have a legal right to see thier child born or be in the room

    Quote Originally Posted by polgara View Post
    I had a woman ob/gyn. She and I both didn't care if my husband was in the room or not, but he felt he would just be in the way, and opted not to be there. That's probably for the best, since there were times during the labor, especially with my first child, that I entertained thoughts about killing him! : After my son was delivered, he came with the biggest bunch of roses I had ever seen, and we celebrated starting a family. He and the other dads were out there pacing the floor, and he told me that was one of the worst periods of time he had ever spent, since he felt helpless to help. The old saying about "if men had the babies, they would only have one" is probably true!

    Greetings, Vesper.
    And what if you knew this about your husband and didn't want him in the room with you for that reason. Do you think it's appropriate that he be able to be there regardless of your wishes?

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    Re: Do you think fathers have a legal right to see thier child born or be in the room

    Quote Originally Posted by ChrisL View Post
    And what if you knew this about your husband and didn't want him in the room with you for that reason. Do you think it's appropriate that he be able to be there regardless of your wishes?
    No I don't! The mother-to-be's wishes take precedence, IMO. Can you imagine how the Queens of old must have felt knowing that every man in her administration felt they had the right to witness the birth of an heir to the throne? She had no choice in the matter, and I guess I understand the reason, but talk about being on display when you're stressed and in pain! Sheesh!

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    Re: Do you think fathers have a legal right to see thier child born or be in the room

    I witnessed the birth of my son and, personally, I wish this ban on men in the birthing room was universally applied, regardless of the mother's wishes to include her husband. What has been seen cannot be unseen.
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    Re: Do you think fathers have a legal right to see thier child born or be in the room

    Quote Originally Posted by tecoyah View Post
    Would you be comfortable with an ex watching you get a colonoscopy? What if you specifically stated you did not want here there, but they invited her in anyway?
    Excellent point, and one I also thought of, but I was thinking along the lines ot a man having a vasectomy. Both are unique to the sex involved, and personally I would not be interested in witnessing that medical procedure. Yikes!

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    Re: Do you think fathers have a legal right to see thier child born or be in the room

    Quote Originally Posted by tecoyah View Post
    Would you be comfortable with an ex watching you get a colonoscopy?
    Hell yeah! The bitch deserves to have to watch my asshole on a big screen!
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    Re: Do you think fathers have a legal right to see thier child born or be in the room

    It shouldn't be a legal issue. If you are having kids with someone the two of you should be able to work this out on your own or you shouldn't be having kids with that person.
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    Re: Do you think fathers have a legal right to see thier child born or be in the room

    Quote Originally Posted by Tucker Case View Post
    I witnessed the birth of my son and, personally, I wish this ban on men in the birthing room was universally applied, regardless of the mother's wishes to include her husband. What has been seen cannot be unseen.
    Maybe you could file a PTSD lawsuit?

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    Re: Do you think fathers have a legal right to see thier child born or be in the room

    Quote Originally Posted by roguenuke View Post
    Actually this is kinda funny because it suggests that men might even get a very mild form of (what sounds like to me) PTSD from watching childbirth, especially their loved one going through it.
    That wouldn't surprise me at all. I think the OBGYN in the article is probably reaching a bit with his conclusions (sounds kind of like some grouchy old fart pissing on about the 'good old days' when doctors had absolute control over every aspect of the birthing process, to be frank), but labor is honestly pretty damn freaky.

    A relatively smooth birth might not be all that bad, but a hard one would likely be rather traumatic to watch. Just watching a video of an operative delivery (along the lines of what you described having) was more than enough to weird me the Hell out for a few weeks.

    I couldn't imagine watching it happen to someone I was personally involved with.

    However, as Vesper pointed out...

    Quote Originally Posted by vesper View Post
    I found my spouse to be invaluable during labor. He kept track of the contractions, coached me to breath, rubbed my back during hard contractions, wiped my face with a cool cloth, and the look in his eyes of how much he wished he could take the pain from me if he could was priceless. I'll never forget how excited he would get when he first saw the head and discovered the baby had hair.
    There is a flip side to these things as well. The husband actually can play some beneficial role.

    He simply has to have something to do and some idea of what's going on, so he's not hanging around like a clueless third wheel.
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    Re: Do you think fathers have a legal right to see thier child born or be in the room

    Quote Originally Posted by ChrisL View Post
    Maybe you could file a PTSD lawsuit?
    I should. There should be some sort of warning given when it's a forceps birth.
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