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  • I am a woman and I regularly cook dinner.

    1 3.70%
  • I am a man and I regularly cook dinner.

    11 40.74%
  • I am a woman and I regularly do the dishes.

    1 3.70%
  • I am a man and I regularly do the dishes.

    11 40.74%
  • I am a woman and I regularly do the laundry.

    1 3.70%
  • I am a man and I regularly do the laundry.

    11 40.74%
  • I am a woman and I regularly do yard work.

    0 0%
  • I am a man and I regularly do yard work.

    14 51.85%
  • We maintain more traditional roles in our relationship / parenting.

    3 11.11%
  • We maintain more cooperative roles in our relationship / parenting.

    21 77.78%
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Thread: For those that are married or in long term relationships, how traditional are you?

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    For those that are married or in long term relationships, how traditional are you?

    Just wondering how traditional are you in your marriage / parenting roles. How important is this to you? You can also indicate in your posts whether you are a stay at home parent or not, or if you both work.

    (this goes along with the would you marry an American question in another poll)
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    Re: For those that are married or in long term relationships, how traditional are you

    Quote Originally Posted by SouthernDemocrat View Post
    Just wondering how traditional are you in your marriage / parenting roles. How important is this to you? You can also indicate in your posts whether you are a stay at home parent or not, or if you both work.

    (this goes along with the would you marry an American question in another poll)
    Not sure what "Traditional" implies....But we are committed to each other, and completely monogamous with no inclinations otherwise.

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    Re: For those that are married or in long term relationships, how traditional are you

    Quote Originally Posted by tecoyah View Post
    Not sure what "Traditional" implies....But we are committed to each other, and completely monogamous with no inclinations otherwise.
    I should have been more clear. I don't mean traditional as in monogamous and not in some open marriage. I mean traditional as in the old 1950s nostalgic view of marriage where the man is the breadwinner, the wife does most of the housework, the man does the yard work, the wife does most of the day to day parenting, and the man is the head to the household.
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    Re: For those that are married or in long term relationships, how traditional are you

    We maintain cooperative roles. We both work but also both help out around the house. The only primary things I do would be the laundry and certain duties with my daughter like bathing.
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    Re: For those that are married or in long term relationships, how traditional are you

    Our relationship is cooperative with each contributing what they are best suited to do. He does the major home repairs while I do minor fixes. He does the lawn work, trimming hedges, pruning, cutting grass, edging, while I'll work the flower beds, planters, and raking leaves. I cook, he does the dishes. I do the laundry, he carries the baskets of clothing and clothes on hangers up two flights of stairs and puts them away. I do the windows he power washes the siding and walkways. I wash the cars and he keeps the maintenance up on them. You get the idea. But at anytime one can not fulfill their part due to long hours at work or illness, the other picks up the slack and tries not to bitch about it.

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    Re: For those that are married or in long term relationships, how traditional are you

    Quote Originally Posted by SouthernDemocrat View Post
    Just wondering how traditional are you in your marriage / parenting roles. How important is this to you? You can also indicate in your posts whether you are a stay at home parent or not, or if you both work.

    (this goes along with the would you marry an American question in another poll)

    Married 10 years, husband recently medically retired from the military so we have a new dynamic. It used to be that he worked at least 10 hours a day and could be deployed or sent on missions at random. He might wake up, go to work, and then go to France and be back next week. So for a long time I did *everything* and he worked.

    Now:
    We cook 50/50 (or whatever: who ever feels like cooking mozies in there)
    The kids do the dishes and trash (same as always)
    I and my older son mow the lawn (I really enjoy doing it)
    My husband keeps after the garden and flowers (always his hobby)
    I was a stay a home mom and now I'm a college mom (With 4 kids I found it nearly impossible to actually work full time and do everything when he was gone so much so I focused on school instead. We're going to open a business together using my business management degree now that he's retired)
    We now do things like grocery shopping, deal with school issues, attend school functions (etc) together.
    I do all the home improvement (remodeling, cabinetry - all that)
    He used to do vehicle maintenance but due to his health issues I took that over.

    - Since his retirement I've been able to relax for once.

    [oh - laundry. I used to deal with most of it but lately he's been tossing clothes in the wash. The kids are responsible for their own clothes. Our family's always split the tedious things like cleaning]
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    Re: For those that are married or in long term relationships, how traditional are you

    Due to our schedules {no children at home} I do a lot of the cooking while she 'prefers' to do our laundry. Yardwork requires both of us.
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    Re: For those that are married or in long term relationships, how traditional are you

    Quote Originally Posted by SouthernDemocrat View Post
    Just wondering how traditional are you in your marriage / parenting roles. How important is this to you? You can also indicate in your posts whether you are a stay at home parent or not, or if you both work.

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    My family is very traditional. Since I met her overseas, she had to live with me when she first came over to the US. We didn't have to talk about responsibilities much at all, because we each took initiative in the traditional role. I did explicitly tell her that I was going to be the head of household, but that came with a promise to put her and the kids before myself. I work full-time, plus do a bunch of side jobs for extra money. She teaches only part-time and takes care of the family. We both got the lifestyle we wanted and we're passing these values on to our kids.
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    Re: For those that are married or in long term relationships, how traditional are you

    I think my marriage is pretty traditional but not for traditions sake. We were both working and then we had our son and she wanted to be home with him. Once he got a little older we discussed putting him in daycare but decided we didn't want some daycare or nanny raising him so she stayed home. We felt, and still do, it is more important to raise our kids than to make money.

    As for cooking she does most of it largely because she is home. I cook a couple days a week (it varies). I don't touch laundry and hopefully never will. Yard work is kind of mixed depending on who wants to do it. We both enjoy yard work for the most part so it doesn't really come up beyond talking about things we want to do.
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    For those that are married or in long term relationships, how traditional are...

    Quote Originally Posted by SouthernDemocrat View Post
    Just wondering how traditional are you in your marriage / parenting roles. How important is this to you? You can also indicate in your posts whether you are a stay at home parent or not, or if you both work.

    (this goes along with the would you marry an American question in another poll)
    Never been much for tradition. All of my relationships settle into whatever suits the two personalities involved.

    For example, last time around she cooked, we both did house hold chores (but she did most) and we both did yard work (but I did most)

    This time around, I do all the cooking and grocery shopping (because somehow it became fun for me). She does most of the house work and almost exclusively does the work of raising her daughter while I do most of the raising for my kids.
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