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  • I am a woman and I regularly cook dinner.

    1 3.70%
  • I am a man and I regularly cook dinner.

    11 40.74%
  • I am a woman and I regularly do the dishes.

    1 3.70%
  • I am a man and I regularly do the dishes.

    11 40.74%
  • I am a woman and I regularly do the laundry.

    1 3.70%
  • I am a man and I regularly do the laundry.

    11 40.74%
  • I am a woman and I regularly do yard work.

    0 0%
  • I am a man and I regularly do yard work.

    14 51.85%
  • We maintain more traditional roles in our relationship / parenting.

    3 11.11%
  • We maintain more cooperative roles in our relationship / parenting.

    21 77.78%
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Thread: For those that are married or in long term relationships, how traditional are you?

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    Re: For those that are married or in long term relationships, how traditional are you

    I give thanks to our modern Information Age and being able to practice not judging women by the clothes they may not be wearing on the Internet and porting it to real life whenever i have the presence of mind to do so; as an ethic, if not a moral in modern times.

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    Re: For those that are married or in long term relationships, how traditional are...

    Coming up on 15 years married. We both work and share most of the duties in the home with the exception of a few that are strictly mine. I am solely responsible for most maintenance duties including washing the outside of the house. I also do all of the sewing. The one I don't understand is why having a penis is required for taking out the garbage. She sees to be completely incapable of it.

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    Re: For those that are married or in long term relationships, how traditional are you

    Quote Originally Posted by SouthernDemocrat View Post
    I should have been more clear. I don't mean traditional as in monogamous and not in some open marriage. I mean traditional as in the old 1950s nostalgic view of marriage where the man is the breadwinner, the wife does most of the housework, the man does the yard work, the wife does most of the day to day parenting, and the man is the head to the household.
    Okay...I take on the traditional male aspects of keeping the home, but also love to cook and she loves that I do. My wife generally does the laundry, because she has very nice clothes and simply does not trust me to wash them (probably a good idea). All children are grown, but I tried to be as involved as possible when they were young. We now both work to live the lifestyle we enjoy, and because we can....she however makes more than I do, which has never been an issue.

    I do not think the Ozzie and Harriot/Leave it to Beaver examples were ever reality...and do not think they should be.

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    Re: For those that are married or in long term relationships, how traditional are you

    Quote Originally Posted by SouthernDemocrat View Post
    Just wondering how traditional are you in your marriage / parenting roles. How important is this to you? You can also indicate in your posts whether you are a stay at home parent or not, or if you both work.

    (this goes along with the would you marry an American question in another poll)
    I am a doting dad. I love kids, particularly mine, but I'm also a big guy and there is an animus against men with respect to children. I feel it, it just is what it is. I work from home and I'll see all of the moms taking care of their kids and playing on the street and they never invite me until my wife is home. When it was time for the baby shower, I WANTED to be there. The traditional baby shower TENDS to exclude men, I think that is a STUPID ****ING RULE.

    This doesn't mean my wife doesn't cook. She does. It doesn't mean I don't do yard work, I do.....So, I tend to think that we're in the middle.

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    Re: For those that are married or in long term relationships, how traditional are you

    I was married for a long time, and it was pretty traditional by American standards. I did the indoor cooking- he did outdoor cooking. I did dishes and laundry (by choice), and other chores were shared. He cut the grass, but I kept the gardens (also by my own choice). He did car and boat maintenance, and was a hunter and fisherman (for food, not just pleasure). He was also a builder and had excellent life skills, and he taught me how to build and repair things, including our building our own house, and he taught me to shoot, which is a great skill for anyone to have imo. Overall, it worked out pretty well, and I learned enough to be able to take care of myself, now that he's gone.

    As for the kids, I did most of the child-rearing when they were young, and he did more as they got older, because they were boys, and he felt it was important to teach them how to hunt, fish, and do the things he was taught as a child. It worked out well, and the boys fortunately got a balanced mix of doting and teaching, lol.
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    Re: For those that are married or in long term relationships, how traditional are...

    We both do what needs to be done. If dishes need to be washed or clothes need to be washed and I'm not busy, I wash them. I don't worry about whose job something is, I do what needs to be done and so does she.
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    Re: For those that are married or in long term relationships, how traditional are...

    When I was living with a woman; she did her thing, I did mine. No rules, guidelines or 'she does this/I do that'.

    She cooked more then I did because she enjoyed it and I burned everything. She looked after her children (not mine - though I love them to this day) more then I did.

    Otherwise, we just lived.
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    Re: For those that are married or in long term relationships, how traditional are you

    We both work, my wife exclusively from home and I halftime from home. I do most of the coking because I like it and am hood at it. She does most of the baking. The housework is shared probably 75/25, she does the 75. I do most of outside work and most of the repair work. Everyone, including the kids, are responsible for their bedrooms and their own laundry.
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    Re: For those that are married or in long term relationships, how traditional are you

    Quote Originally Posted by Gardener View Post
    and you expect us to just believe that, Arcana?

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    Re: For those that are married or in long term relationships, how traditional are you

    Quote Originally Posted by SouthernDemocrat View Post
    Just wondering how traditional are you in your marriage / parenting roles. How important is this to you? You can also indicate in your posts whether you are a stay at home parent or not, or if you both work.

    (this goes along with the would you marry an American question in another poll)
    I've always done the cooking. Tom is the orderer-outer/picker-upper of the family. I love to cook, and I like to eat what I want to eat. If I cook it? I pick it. I do laundry or Tom does his own. I wouldn't let him touch my laundry. Tom does everything outside except sprinkling (which I enjoy). If it's heavy, I don't lift it. If it's strenuous, I don't do it. Tom vacuums in between the cleaning lady.

    Tom used to clean up after dinner until I relieved him of that responsibility. I like a clean kitchen. He likes "clean enough." Sometimes, when you want it done right? Ya' just has to do it yo-self.

    I'd say we're pretty traditional. Works for me.

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