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All part and parcel of it, along with lack of teaching personal responsibility.
Would you care to elaborate more on that?
All part and parcel of it, along with lack of teaching personal responsibility.
I don't think having a dad or not has a major effect. Considering the general lack of moral guidance even shows up in homes where both parents are present, I'm thinking peer pressure to " man up" along with previously noted influences are more likely.
Having a father can have a big effect. I know there were things that some of my friends would do that I was totally terrified of doing, and did not do because of fear of my father. As I mentioned previously, shoplifting was one.
Many bullies are actually abused physically and/or mentally and/or neglected by their parents, particularly male bullies and their fathers. And there are plenty of fathers who simply are not feared by their children. There are also plenty of children who fear their mother more than their father. The key is having involved parents who take an active role in their child's life, not being abusive or neglectful themselves, and actually listening to their children and being there for them.
I agree with that. My point is that having a father can have a big effect, contrary to what it appeared the poster was putting forward. I speak from experience on that.
Having good parents can have a big effect, not just having a "father". As I've said, many of these kids do have fathers, they just aren't worth crap.
Having good parents can have a big effect, not just having a "father". As I've said, many of these kids do have fathers, they just aren't worth crap.
I can't prove it, but I think adolescent males are more prone to violence than females. Honestly, I'm not so sure that I would have said no if all my friends were doing it.
BTW, I wasn't into shoplifting. I was afraid of my father.
Of course we're more prone to violence.
That's why we have football, cowboys and indians, BB guns, snowball fights, the high-in fastball, etc.
If, however, your whole intention is to purposefully inflict harm on someone who doesn't know they're playing your game you're a damned psychopath.
I just remember, doing things I didn't like and/or didn't agree with, just to fit in. So I can't say for certain that I would not have done it.
Everyone has a father. The question is, how many know who their father is ?
My only problem with what you are saying is that it appears that you want to minimize the role that a good father can play. I had a very good mother as well. They both played a very good role in my development. But there were things that my father did, and the way that he did them, that only my father could do. I'm sorry if you don't like that, but it's the truth.
IMO there should be at least 2 parental figures involved in the raising of a child because you've got to sleep at some point.And you are trying to reduce the role of one parent to their gender, as many try to do. Parents are not defined or a necessity based on their gender, but rather what they bring to the raising of a child. I guarantee you that there is nothing that your father brought to raising you that was only because of his gender. It was because he is who he is. His gender may be part of that, but it was not a vital part of that. I turned out well, as did my siblings, and our father had very little to do with that fact, despite the fact that my parents were married and living together for all of my childhood.
IMO there should be at least 2 parental figures involved in the raising of a child because you've got to sleep at some point.
I look at the knockout game and think is so ridiculous and cruel. However I remember being a teenager and doing stupid things because of peer pressure. I wonder if I would have played the knockout game because of peer pressure. Would you have played the knockout game as a teenager because of peer pressure?
Man attacked in suspected 'knockout game' in Manhattan - NY Daily News
Again, I don't have stats to prove it, but there may be more violence these days. I was getting my hair cut by this younger guy. He was telling me how he saw these two girls get into a fight in high school. One had knocked the other to the ground and had gotten on top of her. The one of the bottom pulled a razor from her purse and started cutting the girl really bad. He said he went and grabbed the girl with the razor and she started cutting him. I didn't see it, but I don't think he was lying. Also I have a nephew who was stabbed at a nightclub. Then I was talking to this guy that does UFC. He used to work as a bouncer at a club. He told me he saw a guy slit another guy's throat right in front of him. Honestly, one reason why I stopped messing with that whole club scene was that I perceived it was becoming too violent. People start fighting and sometimes killing each other over very small things. Very dangerous.
Just saying.
Additionally, I think that one part of a child's development involves watching it's parents/guardians interact with each other. This would obviously not happen as much as much if only one parent is involved.I agree for the most part. A single parent could do it, depending on their personal financial situation and the availability of others to help them, while they maintain the primary parenting figure, but it is difficult for many.
And you are trying to reduce the role of one parent to their gender, as many try to do. Parents are not defined or a necessity based on their gender, but rather what they bring to the raising of a child. I guarantee you that there is nothing that your father brought to raising you that was only because of his gender. It was because he is who he is. His gender may be part of that, but it was not a vital part of that. I turned out well, as did my siblings, and our father had very little to do with that fact, despite the fact that my parents were married and living together for all of my childhood.
That's the thing though - there is no way I would consider it reasonable given my background, even as a child that kind of thing would have thrown up red flags all over the place.The "knockout game" typically seems to target the elderly, the sick or weak or drunk or otherwise "safe" targets... in my day we would have called that cowardly and despicable. Our idea of badass cool was walking up to the toughest guy around and telling him to come get some.
That's the thing though - there is no way I would consider it reasonable given my background, even as a child that kind of thing would have thrown up red flags all over the place.
But without the background, maybe it would seem normal? I dunno.
No way. Not only have I always been against violence, but I don't think I ever succumbed to peer pressure. In fact, I used to call people out when they seemed to be. Didn't endear me to some folks, but kept my integrity.