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  • like it's the 1700's - dependent and submissive

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  • as princesses

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  • no different than how we raise our sons

    17 17.17%
  • to be independent and strong individuals

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Thread: How We Raise Our Daughters - 21st Century [W:87,158,368]

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    re: How We Raise Our Daughters - 21st Century [W:87,158,368]

    Quote Originally Posted by Tigger View Post
    Yes, that is a place where our philosophies diverge dramatically. You seem to prefer the idea of standing before your Maker at the end of your life and sing.... "I DID IT MYYYYYYY WAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYY!" whereas I prefer to be able to stand there and say "I did it the Right Way." At least in my mind, the response of our Maker to those two concepts will be very different.
    That's my guess too. But you've omitted one option: "I tried to do it Your way, Father."

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    re: How We Raise Our Daughters - 21st Century [W:87,158,368]

    Quote Originally Posted by nota bene View Post
    That's my guess too. But you've omitted one option: "I tried to do it Your way, Father."
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    re: How We Raise Our Daughters - 21st Century [W:87,158,368]

    Quote Originally Posted by Tigger View Post
    Do or Do Not. There is no Try. - Yoda
    Wow, Tigger. I'm appalled.

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    re: How We Raise Our Daughters - 21st Century [W:87,158,368]

    Quote Originally Posted by nota bene View Post
    Wow, Tigger. I'm appalled.
    It's Tigger - I think he just likes saying stuff to irritated and shock people.
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    re: How We Raise Our Daughters - 21st Century [W:87,158,368]

    Quote Originally Posted by Tigger View Post
    I definitely believe we must answer at the end of our lives. Just not to a deity such as yours. Instead it is to a deity which has no interest in Love or Hate but rather Obedience and Order.
    So I guess I cant throw stones, since my belief in God is based on faith, not fact.

    But let's face it, you have invented your own deal based on how *you choose to live your life* and created the 'afterlife dude and his philosophy' after the fact. Meaning just something to reinforce your desires, not the other way around. You are completely doing as you choose and making the rules...and then creating some greater authority whom you infuse with validating YOUR lifestyle. (In other words, you are really the ultimate authority.)

    That's fine. It really means you have no accountability since you make all the rules, but we would all like to live that way (probably).
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    I have felt pain when I was in the womb. So when you say they are incapable of feeling pain, that is based on junk science.
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    A murderer putting a bullet through someone's brain is a medical procedure too.

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    re: How We Raise Our Daughters - 21st Century [W:87,158,368]

    Quote Originally Posted by Tigger View Post
    Interesting. Especially since my fiance and I live quite pleasantly on my roughly $65,000 a year salary less than 15 miles outside the second largest city in New England. I don't have a Master's or PhD to my name. I have an Associate's Degree from what may as well have been a trade school. It's possible to do, so long as you are willing to be practical and intelligent about how you do things.
    Would definitely agree that that would be plenty to raise a kid on.
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    I have felt pain when I was in the womb. So when you say they are incapable of feeling pain, that is based on junk science.
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    A murderer putting a bullet through someone's brain is a medical procedure too.

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    re: How We Raise Our Daughters - 21st Century [W:87,158,368]

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    I am 32 year old single mother of three girls. Two in primary/middle and one 1st year of college. I am not a religious person and my daughters know I'm bisexual. I have never hit or struck them, nor humiliate them. I'm perhaps too open minded and permissive. I've allowed them and a few times, prevented them, from making certain mistakes.

    A perfect mother I am not but I take pride in the way they've developed their own uniqueness.

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    re: How We Raise Our Daughters - 21st Century [W:87,158,368]

    Quote Originally Posted by Paxaeon View Post
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    32 year old single mother...one 1st year of college.

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    re: How We Raise Our Daughters - 21st Century [W:87,158,368]

    Quote Originally Posted by Lursa View Post
    But let's face it, you have invented your own deal based on how *you choose to live your life* and created the 'afterlife dude and his philosophy' after the fact. Meaning just something to reinforce your desires, not the other way around. You are completely doing as you choose and making the rules...and then creating some greater authority whom you infuse with validating YOUR lifestyle. (In other words, you are really the ultimate authority.)
    After my father's death in 2001 I went on a spiritual search. It took me almost two years but I found that no organized religion held anything useful for me. Then I started looking for something that did make sense. It took me another 18 months to find what made sense to me.

    Quote Originally Posted by Lursa View Post
    That's fine. It really means you have no accountability since you make all the rules, but we would all like to live that way (probably).
    That's interesting since I'm not even able to totally live up to the ideals that I believe in.

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    re: How We Raise Our Daughters - 21st Century [W:87,158,368]

    Quote Originally Posted by Dragonfly View Post
    How should we be raising our daughters these days?

    Should we try to instill independence, strength, common sense, confidence, perseverance, self worth, and a strong desire to achieve great things?


    Or should we raise them to be dependent, submissive, shy, and always in need of protection? Wallflowers?


    Should we push them towards greatness?

    Or should we teach them that their place is always in the background?

    Should we have a desire for them to be the leader, the captain, the driver?

    Or should we teach them to accept always being the passenger, along for the ride but never making the decisions or steering the boat?


    Should we raise our daughters as achievers? CEO's? Entrepreneurs? Bosses?

    Or should we raise them to be followers?


    Should we tell our daughters they can be ANYTHING they wish to be? Whether it be a mother of 5 kids, or the scientist that cures cancer while stationed on Mars after having piloted the first mission to Mars?

    Or should we tell our daughters their place is to be a good, quiet, and submissive "second" to their spouse?

    Should we raise your daughters to be strong?
    Or are they to be weak and defenseless?


    How do you think our daughters should be raised today?

    I'm glad I'm not in the child raising business any longer. Drive past any prom. The girls are dressed like French whores. It's hard to fathom that their mothers let them out of the house looking the way they do.
    Redneck, hillbilly, fundie, Bible thumper, cracker, split tails, geezer, loon, xenophobe, islamaphobe, and homophobe are not words of tolerance.

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