the less the dominant person understands what the subordinate one is feeling.
If this is the attitude you used to raise your daughter, then I feel sorry for her. No wonder she broke free.But I notice you didn't answer the question. Given that apparently you know American's daughter and how to raise her better than he does, how many children have you, yourself, raised?
Because the answer that you gave indicates that number is zero, and that you are still caught in the teenage angst of being angry at mommy and daddy.
Do not even try this "I'm a parent and your not, so I know better" BS with me. That is an absurd lie and is rooted deeply in patriarchy. As I said before, that sounds like one of the many excuses child abusers give. Don't misunderstand me, I'm not accusing you of being a child abuser, but I am saying that that rationale is absolutely pathetic.