How do you think our daughters should be raised today?
A lot of what you're citing aren't 'instilled values of self' - a lot of this is personality driven traits.
1) Values you try to instill in your children: independence, strength, common sense, confidence, perseverance, self worth, and a strong desire to achieve great things.
2) Personality traits and
other values to be embraced or decided by each individual according to how they feel about their self, what they want in life, and what they want for their self in their relationship:
Dependence, submissiveness, shyness, needing of protection, wallflower, greatness. Being the leader, the captain, the driver. Being the achiever, CEO's, Entrepreneur, Boss. Follower.
Should we tell our daughters they can be ANYTHING they wish to be? Whether it be a mother of 5 kids, or the scientist that cures cancer while stationed on Mars after having piloted the first mission to Mars?
Or should we tell our daughters their place is to be a good, quiet, and submissive "second" to their spouse?
Yes -
They can be anything they wish to be, even if they decide that they are more comfortable being submissive and second to their spouse.
And this message has been lost. We're at a point where those who are shy, subservient, and submissive - even if
they're not and just come across that way in the eyes of certain people - are treated like 2nd rate crap by women who don't approve.
Instead, we're sending the very wrong message that
: it is not okay to be yourself if you are of these 'negative' traits.
People claim that we've gone away from defining women and what they can do but that's not true. We still do it all the time, it's just polar opposite of how it used to be in the past. Why can't people just piss off? Leave them alone and let them be whatever they want to be?