View Poll Results: Which would you rather date?

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  • Bad boy!

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  • Nice, sensitive, caring guy.

    8 24.24%
  • Handsome guy, nice or bad.

    4 12.12%
  • Funny, trusting guy.

    6 18.18%
  • Something in between.

    3 9.09%
  • I'm confused.

    0 0%
  • Other.

    14 42.42%
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Thread: Would you rather date a nice, sensitive guy or bad boy?

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    Re: Would you rather date a nice, sensitive guy or bad boy?

    Quote Originally Posted by Gipper View Post
    There's a whole lot of grey area between "assertive" and "asshole".
    To me, the question would be whether or not his motivation is to dominate, or to preserve his own integrity.

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    If he just wants to show that he can dominate a woman, that is a sign of weakness. If he is maintaining his own sense of worth, and asserting his own actual desires, he's not being an asshole.
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    Re: Would you rather date a nice, sensitive guy or bad boy?

    A nice, sensitive, caring guy with a good brain...who is and always was a woman.

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    Re: Would you rather date a nice, sensitive guy or bad boy?

    in my experience, many women prefer to not work on their pickers, get used by all of the other ones, and then complain they can't find any nice guys. is it any wonder some of us are looking for girl friends in modern times.

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    Re: Would you rather date a nice, sensitive guy or bad boy?

    Quote Originally Posted by lizzie View Post
    To me, the question would be whether or not his motivation is to dominate, or to preserve his own integrity.
    I'm the latter.

    In relationships, I'm rather passive and, at times, indecisive. If a girlfriend asks me where I want to eat, I usually say something like "wherever you want is fine, dear"...but she also know that saying McDonalds or something like that will not be well met. If she asks me what movie we should go to, I say "your choice, babe"...but she also knows "no Twilight or Notebook, hell with that".

    I create a wide berth like that, and you can consider me a pushover if you want. You'll just meet some resistance with crappy fast food or a chick flick.

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    Re: Would you rather date a nice, sensitive guy or bad boy?

    i don't mind having some priorities regarding menu options whenever money is going to be involved.

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    Re: Would you rather date a nice, sensitive guy or bad boy?

    Quote Originally Posted by Gipper View Post
    Most frequently given answer: I want a good guy.

    The truth: I want an asshole.
    Heh. No, not really. No woman in her right mind wants to be with an asshole. We want to be with an exciting guy. The problem is that a lot of exciting guys are assholes. Not all, though. I found a couple.
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    Re: Would you rather date a nice, sensitive guy or bad boy?

    Quote Originally Posted by Arcana XV View Post
    Heh. No, not really. No woman in her right mind wants to be with an asshole. We want to be with an exciting guy. The problem is that a lot of exciting guys are assholes. Not all, though. I found a couple.
    I think you're right on the money with that. What is interesting to me, is that often, the exciting guy isn't really an asshole- he just marches to his own drum, and doesn't much concern himself with what others think, so he is perceived as an asshole, when he isn't. I think that we often refuse to give people like that a chance by getting to know and understand them. I can't tell you how many times I've been warned that one of my patients was going to be a jerk to deal with, and in reality, I found that I actually liked him as a person, because I found him to be genuine in spite of his ways which tend to put other people off, and keep them at a distance.
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    Re: Would you rather date a nice, sensitive guy or bad boy?

    Quote Originally Posted by lizzie View Post
    I think you're right on the money with that. What is interesting to me, is that often, the exciting guy isn't really an asshole- he just marches to his own drum, and doesn't much concern himself with what others think, so he is perceived as an asshole, when he isn't. I think that we often refuse to give people like that a chance by getting to know and understand them. I can't tell you how many times I've been warned that one of my patients was going to be a jerk to deal with, and in reality, I found that I actually liked him as a person, because I found him to be genuine in spite of his ways which tend to put other people off, and keep them at a distance.
    Yeah, it's a very fine line between the two. We're not very good at defining where that line is exactly, but we always know when a guy crosses it into assholedom.
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    Re: Would you rather date a nice, sensitive guy or bad boy?

    Quote Originally Posted by Superfly View Post
    Gorgeous as he may be, Johnny Depp doesn't shower regularly. Can't imagine anyone being OK with that, regardless of who it is.
    He must be doing something right, his latest fiancee is half his age and gorgeous.

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    Re: Would you rather date a nice, sensitive guy or bad boy?

    Quote Originally Posted by Superfly View Post
    Wrong. Most women want a little bit of both.
    The point Gipper is making is that there is a HUGE difference between the Expressed Preferences of women and their Revealed Preferences. They say they want one thing but their actions reveal something else entirely.

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