And where am I blaming men? I have spent hours on DP hammering on the fact that it is primarily the responsibility of feminism to deal with the complications of slow social change. I have spent hours on DP talking about the inequality of the court system in divorce and child custody. I have seen other feminists do the same, and I have had great success changing the minds of feminists who simply don't realize how big of a problem these things are.
Women who like patriarchal advantages are not feminists. The fact that divorce has made it possible for these patriarchal ideas to hurt men is not the fault of feminism, although it is their responsibility to insist that the implementation of the law reflect equality, both for the dignity of women and the fair treatment of men.
How things pan out in university largely depends on what program you're taking. Many of the liberal arts are not friendly towards men, but they also aren't friendly towards white people in general. However, go to the sciences, and it's a very unfriendly and demeaning world for women, who are viewed as uniquely incompetent, and they are also very unkind towards the disabled. It also depends on what school you're going to.
Reality is complex. And you simply choose to view it as heroes versus villains, villains apparently being over 50% of the population, most of whom are just trying to live their lives.