You apparently have a pretty narrow window on the world. Don't take that as an insult because most people are like this. Our social worlds are very heavily restricted into fairly narrow categories. For instance, most couples with an IQ of 115 don't really have any IQ 85 people in their social world. The gaps between them are too large to bridge and there is less in common upon which to base a friendship.
Originally Posted by Gina
Your daughters interact with young men, that's no surprise, but it doesn't tell us anything, nor does it tell you anything, to observe this fact. What you're not observing is the young men that your daughters don't want to have anything to do with, young men like these guys - The New York Times:
North Carolina, with a student body that is nearly 60 percent female, is just one of many large universities that at times feel eerily like women’s colleges. . .
Jayne Dallas, a senior studying advertising who was seated across the table, grumbled that the population of male undergraduates was even smaller when you looked at it as a dating pool. “Out of that 40 percent, there are maybe 20 percent that we would consider, and out of those 20, 10 have girlfriends, so all the girls are fighting over that other 10 percent,” she said.
Needless to say, this puts guys in a position to play the field, and tends to mean that even the ones willing to make a commitment come with storied romantic histories. Rachel Sasser, a senior history major at the table, said that before she and her boyfriend started dating, he had “hooked up with a least five of my friends in my sorority — that I know of.” . . .
“It’s awesome being a guy,” admitted Garret Jones, another North Carolina senior, but he also lamented a culture that fostered hook-ups over relationships. This year, he said, he finally found a serious girlfriend.
Indeed, there are a fair number of Mr. Lonelyhearts on campus. “Even though there’s this huge imbalance between the sexes, it still doesn’t change the fact of guys sitting around, bemoaning their single status,” said Patrick Hooper, a Georgia senior. “It’s the same as high school, but the women are even more enchanting and beautiful.”
Think about that. Women are bemoaning the gender imbalance 60:40 and they're still cutting out about half of the guys on campus as not being date-worth, so now the imbalance grows to 60:20, a 3:1 ratio. When your daughter introduces you to her male friends, it's a pretty good bet that her male friends are not drawn from the pool of men near the bottom of the totem pole. You don't get to see them. Imagine how much it burns for these guys, a sea of women and the women are all setting their sights on the top guys, not just the girls who are 10s being interested in men who are 10s, but even the 6s are setting out on getting the 10s. Read the article because I didn't quote the parts about what these women put up with in terms of cheating from their men in order to keep a hold of their guys. They'd rather be walked all over than sink into the gutter and pair up in a 5 to 5 or a 7 to 7 or a 3 to 3 relationship.