“To do evil, a human being must first of all believe that what he’s doing is good" - Solzhenitsyn
"...with the terrorists, you have to take out their families." - Donald Trump
If you're not ready to die for it, put the word 'freedom' out of your vocabulary. - El-Hajj Malik El-Shabazz
I think so many modern marriages fail because the people go into them with the attitude that if it doesn't work out, we'll just get a divorce and that will be that. Or they go into it for self gratification rather than to form an inseparable one out of the two.
But as many have said, there are plenty of women around who want the 'what God has joined together' scenario of sharing lives together, being a witness to each other's lives, and for better or worse having each other's back. And they look for men with the same values.
Those kinds of marriages rarely ever end in divorce.
"I think the best way of doing good to the poor, is not making them easy in poverty, but leading or driving them out of it." --Benjamin Franklin 1776
These days, however; they simply tend to be the exception, rather than the rule in demographics under thirty.
Frankly, the fact that it is even necessary to basically bend over backwards to find anyone interested in something halfway serious (and even then, the vast majority of such relationships ultimately wind up ending in divorce) should really tell you something about the state of gender relations in our current society in and of itself.
Last edited by Gathomas88; 02-26-14 at 04:10 PM.
"Men did not love Rome because she was great. She was great because they had loved her." -- G.K. Chesterton
I made a statement about myself, not about your comment. You aren't addressing my points, and so I'm not addressing yours; which in turn proves my argument that Americans do not act in good faith towards each-other.
Better is to believe in a magic sky fairy than be so self-centered and naive.
Marriage is at-will, not a commitment for life. Your wife can walk away at any moment, the sooner your realize that, the better.
Last edited by Jerry; 02-26-14 at 04:11 PM.
Is this really a surprise? I'd dump him too for cheating. More women would (and should IMO) except for the kids' sake.
Top 10 Reasons Why Women Divorce | Cindy Holbrook | YourTango
Not all have it at Number 1 but it's always in the short list. However the other top reasons certainly show *why* the blame doesnt all fall on the woman. Again..men are just pissed off that women now HAVE more options and independence and dont have to accept bad marriages anymore. (that 'control thing.)
Why Are Most Divorces Filed by Women?
"A generation ago, women were less likely to file for divorce if in an unhappy or abusive marriage. Most were financially dependent on their spouse and feared the social stigma of divorce.
Today women are more likely to have careers of their own, are less financially dependent on their spouse and no longer fear the social stigma of divorce. Women are more educated and more empowered, which keeps them from accepting abuse or a marriage that is not meeting their needs.
Below Are A Few Reasons Why Most Divorces Are Initiated By Women:
1. Seeking Relief From a Bad Marriage
2. Escape Domestic Abuse
3. Women are Less Tolerant of Infidelity"
Men want to be able to be crap husbands and now have much less power to stop women from having to deal with them. They dont like the 'less power' thing.
White women prefer white men to the exclusion of everyone else—and Asian and Hispanic women prefer them even more exclusively. These three types of women only respond well to white men. More significantly, these groups’ reply rates to non-whites is terrible. Asian women write back non-white males at 21.9%, Hispanic women at 22.9%, and white women at 23.0%. It’s here where things get interesting, for white women in particular. If you look at the match-by-race table before this one, the “should-look-like” one, you see that white women have an above-average compatibility with almost every group. Yet they only reply well to guys who look like them.