Interesting. Women are doing this too you know. I think I may fit that pattern, except I'm pretty happy with my piece of the American Dream. What makes the author think that these men are missing out on 'their' American Dream? (I havent read it, it may be covered.):
Men on Strike: Why Men Are Boycotting Marriage, Fatherhood, and the American Dream - and Why It Matters: Helen Smith: 9781594036750: Amazon.com: Books
We chose to live together, we decided we didnt want kids, so werent all that motivated to get married. It didnt mean all that much to us. For 11 of 13 yrs, we had a very good relationship. Then it was just basically over....kinda quietly, no drama, etc. We went our separate ways. The separation actually gave me more opportunity to pursue what I'd always wanted.
I opted out of marriage, and kids. No regrets. I have several female friends in similar situations. Several women, but I can only think of one man. Interesting.
However I think it's indicative that not only men are 'opting out' of traditional roles.' Altho I suppose the OP and the book are implying that it's American women's faults that men are doing so.
Edit: and btw, I cant knock it. I think way too many people are pressured into marriage...and kids...by family and by society. Too early and too much. Not everyone is cut out for it.