After just a short time, I started getting a lot of calls from the girls he had met, which was annoying at first. But then I had a good idea - Whenever a girl called up, I played along as if I were him. When they asked how I was doing, I told them "Things are great! In fact, I just got a raise and a promotion. And I'm going to be in your town next week. (Truth is, I usually didn't even know what state they were calling from) How about I stay over for the weekend and we'll meet up on Friday night. I'll pick you up around 8. We'll go have a nice meal and then hit the clubs and party all night!"
After a few weeks, and not showing up to countless fake dates, the sales guy came into the office from out of town. He sees me and say "Sangha, what are you doing to me?!!". I put on my most innocent face and asked "What do you mean?" He then tells me that he was out at a club and one of the girls he had met there previously walked up to him and started shouting at him about how he didn't show up for the Big Date he had set up with her.
"Oh, that!!" I said. "Oh yeah, I meant to tell you. You've stood up a lot of women all over the country"
It started happening all over the country. After a while, he got scared to go to the clubs. He kept meeting up with the angry women he stood up.
No. Absolutely not.
However, some Asian women do find American men to be legitimately appealing. Ironically, that attraction often has just as much to do with culture as the reverse.
By and large, Westerners will treat their women better than many Asian men. Some Asian women appreciate that.
I actually heard something similar from a black woman in my old Army unit once. She said she was thinking about dating a white man, simply because she thought a white man would be a lot less likely to hit her.
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But the thing is, these kinds of guys aren't going to be the type Asian women looking for a higher standard of relationship want. These kinds of guys are the stragglers of the West who want to treat their woman as badly as the local Asian men treat them.
That's why they have to do stuff like resort to mail order.
Men need respect in a marriage the way women need love in a marriage. If your culture isn't designed to teach men to be loving towards women, and to teach women to be respectful towards men, well, one or more likely both of those genders isn't going to be getting their emotional needs filled, and it's going to poison the relationship.
Worth noting before anyone decides to launch a collective bra-burning, "respect" =/= "subservience".
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