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Is it a good idea to sent this Christmas Card to the person(s) who fired me?

Is it a good idea to send this Christmas Card to the person(s) who fired me?

  • Yes, explain your answer

    Votes: 4 18.2%

  • No, explain your answer

    Votes: 18 81.8%
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vasuderatorrent

vasuderatorrent

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As some of you may know from other threads, I was fired from a job on May 26, 2011. I was thinking of sending a Christmas Card to the four suspects who made the decision to fire me. The Question I have is: Is it a good idea to send a Christmas Card to the person(s) who fired me with the following wording?

The Words on the Christmas Card said:
It is with hesitancy that I send this letter. My unpleasant departure is an experience I shall never forget. It is a life event that many people never see. As odd as it may seem, the broadening of my life experience through this event is something that causes me to be grateful. Although the pain and anger was often times unbearable, over time these wounds have healed. I have tried with great futility to explain and understand what happened to bring my life to such disaster. I learned many things about myself and about my work ethic during my time of employ. I know that life holds a healthy amount of chaos. Some of the details relating to this situation will forever remain a mystery. It is with deep regret that these lessons were learned the hard way. I have no doubt that I am more mature and more developed as a decent contributing member of society. Since my departure I have made many outstanding accomplishments such as graduating from college, publishing a book, running for public office, enjoying a trip to Disneyland with my family and finding a job where I have excelled. I do apologize for any unpleasant feelings that I have invoked because of my actions. I do wish you the best and hope that you harbor no ill feelings toward me because I most certainly hold no ill feelings toward you. May your holidays and the New Year ahead be filled with great peace and abundant joy. Thank you so much for allowing me the opportunity to work for you. Again, I do apologize for any and all unpleasantries that I have caused.

With the deepest of sincerity,

vasuderatorrent

P.S. I apologize for sending this so late but I have been on a very long journey. God Bless!
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While appropriate for an "exit interview", immediately upon your departure, it is far too late for it to be a good idea today.
 
I know you want closure, but it really can only cause problems. I would just bury it and move on. We all have to get over the stupid things we've done in life.
 
vasuderatorrent said:
As some of you may know from other threads, I was fired from a job on May 26, 2011. I was thinking of sending a Christmas Card to the four suspects who made the decision to fire me. The Question I have is: Is it a good idea to send a Christmas Card to the person(s) who fired me with the following wording?
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2 years late? You're an idiot.
 
ttwtt78640 said:
While appropriate for an "exit interview", immediately upon your departure, it is far too late for it to be a good idea today.
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My feelings were way different at the exit interview. If I wrote a sincere letter at that point it would have been much different.
 
RabidAlpaca said:
I know you want closure, but it really can only cause problems. I would just bury it and move on. We all have to get over the stupid things we've done in life.
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Thank you for your advice.
 
vasuderatorrent said:
As some of you may know from other threads, I was fired from a job on May 26, 2011. I was thinking of sending a Christmas Card to the four suspects who made the decision to fire me. The Question I have is: Is it a good idea to send a Christmas Card to the person(s) who fired me with the following wording?
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Usually it probably is not a good idea. It does depend on the circumstances though. If the company went down or closed the product line you were in?Why carry a grudge and you might have common interests again sometime.
 
vasuderatorrent said:
As some of you may know from other threads, I was fired from a job on May 26, 2011. I was thinking of sending a Christmas Card to the four suspects who made the decision to fire me. The Question I have is: Is it a good idea to send a Christmas Card to the person(s) who fired me with the following wording?
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never do it ,vas
 
vasuderatorrent said:
My feelings were way different at the exit interview. If I wrote a sincere letter at that point it would have been much different.
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Let's say for a minute when you left the job that you hated them with the fury and passion of a thousand burning suns. You've now moved on, forgave them, and bear them no ill will. To you this may have been a huge part of your life that you were very bitter about for a long time, but to them it may not have been that big of a deal. Do they realize exactly how upset you were with them that would even warrant an apology letter?

I've been through a phase of my life very similar to yours. I was so bitter, for so long, and I picked up binge drinking to try to deal with my anger. I considered for a long time writing to the people who wronged me, but I eventually decided no good could ever come from it.
 
vasuderatorrent said:
I'm trying to express the end of my grudge. Was I that off base with my intent?

:confused: What kind?
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Then send the card. Talk with him on the street, when you meet. Have a coffee shop coffee with him or her.

I have seen guys employ their earlier bosses or a previous boss call to offer a job from a different company.
 
Let me add - I know that it's hard to let go of something like that. I was let go from a job.. sheesh, 12 years ago now? When the bottom fell out immediately after 9/11, I was let go. I was an Assistant Manager in a BMW Collision Department, and was let go so they could hire a kid who worked for $5 an hour. He didn't know my job, but didn't need to. :shrug: I was crushed, and I grieved over that for years. Loved the job. I understand why they let me go but I held on to that for a long time.

Honestly - I always dreamed of going back in there, showing them how well my life turned out and thumbing my nose at them. Then I realized that they probably didn't even remember me, and all I'd be doing is making myself feel worse, because I was holding on to something that they clearly were not. :lol:
 
vasuderatorrent said:
As some of you may know from other threads, I was fired from a job on May 26, 2011. I was thinking of sending a Christmas Card to the four suspects who made the decision to fire me. The Question I have is: Is it a good idea to send a Christmas Card to the person(s) who fired me with the following wording?
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Anyone who can't make up their mind whether or not to send a Christmas card without help from others probably deserved to be fired.

In any case, why would anyone use a Christmas card which usually bring wishes of joy and happiness to send a message like this?
 
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joG said:
Usually it probably is not a good idea.
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 It does depend on the circumstances though. If the company went down or closed the product line you were in?Why carry a grudge and you might have common interests again sometime.
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Correct.

It's not a good idea to blow up a bridge which you may want to cross back over sometime in the future.
 
shrubnose said:
Anyone who can't make up their mind whether or not to send a Christmas card without help from others probably deserved to be fired.

In any case, why would anyone use a Christmas card which usually bring wishes of joy and happiness to send a message like this?
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You say something as cold hearted as that, then turn around in the very next post and call someone else's post a little harsh?

Pot, meet kettle.
 
Superfly said:
Let me add - I know that it's hard to let go of something like that. I was let go from a job.. sheesh, 12 years ago now? When the bottom fell out immediately after 9/11, I was let go. I was an Assistant Manager in a BMW Collision Department, and was let go so they could hire a kid who worked for $5 an hour. He didn't know my job, but didn't need to. :shrug: I was crushed, and I grieved over that for years. Loved the job. I understand why they let me go but I held on to that for a long time.

Honestly - I always dreamed of going back in there, showing them how well my life turned out and thumbing my nose at them. Then I realized that they probably didn't even remember me, and all I'd be doing is making myself feel worse, because I was holding on to something that they clearly were not. :lol:
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I had a very similar experience after 9/11.

Guess what? management at the company that laid me off helped me to get a better job making more money.

Sometimes you just have to move on and do the best that you can do in life.

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None of us are the only person on this planet.

Hiring and firing decisions involve a lot of people other than the person hired and fired.

IOW: It's not all about you.

Here's a good way to look at your past:
 
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RabidAlpaca said:
You say something as cold hearted as that, then turn around in the very next post and call someone else's post a little harsh?
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Pot, meet kettle.
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I could have said that it was very harsh.

Some people have a problem facing reality.

I don't.

What has happened in the past is over and done with.

We have to accept that simple fact and move on and make the best of our life.

Or walk around looking at the ground all of the time.

Everyone has to make their own choice.

I choose to enjoy my life as much as possible, I don't worry about things which happened in the past which I can't change.
 
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vasuderatorrent said:
As some of you may know from other threads, I was fired from a job on May 26, 2011. I was thinking of sending a Christmas Card to the four suspects who made the decision to fire me. The Question I have is: Is it a good idea to send a Christmas Card to the person(s) who fired me with the following wording?
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It is a bad idea to send that card.It could be interpreted as you still holding a grudge.
 
shrubnose said:
Correct.

It's not a good idea to blow up a bridge which you may want to cross back over sometime in the future.
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Ceasar thought differently on that point and in the long run.... ;)
 
shrubnose said:
I'm not trying to say anything, I'm saying that the past is the past and you can't change it so you might just as well accept reality and get on with your life.
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I was just messing around.
 
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