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    Re: Is it a good idea to sent this Christmas Card to the person(s) who fired me?

    I want to say no, because they don't deserve it.

    But, if you send it, they will feel guilty for firing you. And Christmas is the spirit of giving (even though it's supposed to also be all-year round, also - just that it's a time for it's own special way too).

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    Re: Is it a good idea to sent this Christmas Card to the person(s) who fired me?

    Do not send that card or attempt to contact them. They might conclude that your behavior is atypical and they might have their lawyer respond to you with a threat of a restraining order.

    I think you are trying to resolve a possibly subconscious feeling you have of "Unfinished Business" with that company or individuals.

    With all respect, it sounds like you've developed some obsession over this issue and need professional help sorting out your emotions. Get that help now so that you can get over this and move on without that incident as part of your daily consciousness.

    Beyond the professional help, the absolute best thing you could do for your feelings is to be successful and surpass them in every way. They don't deserve your good wishes and you deserve to be happy. Take affirmative steps to make that happen. You deserve just as much goodness and happiness in your life as anyone else. Don't let their BS be your defining moment, it is not.
    Last edited by Ray410; 12-16-13 at 03:18 AM.

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    Re: Is it a good idea to sent this Christmas Card to the person(s) who fired me?

    Quote Originally Posted by Ray410 View Post
    Do not send that card or attempt to contact them. They might conclude that your behavior is atypical and they might have their lawyer respond to you with a threat of a restraining order.

    I think you are trying to resolve a possibly subconscious feeling you have of "Unfinished Business" with that company or individuals.

    With all respect, it sounds like you've developed some obsession over this issue and need professional help sorting out your emotions. Get that help now so that you can get over this and move on without that incident as part of your daily consciousness.

    Beyond the professional help, the absolute best thing you could do for your feelings is to be successful and surpass them in every way. They don't deserve your good wishes and you deserve to be happy. Take affirmative steps to make that happen. You deserve just as much goodness and happiness in your life as anyone else. Don't let their BS be your defining moment, it is not.
    Very nice sir. I do admit, "You need professional help." sounds like an empty comment for someone that is being uncreative. In your case I was able to overlook that comment. The rest of what you said was very appropriate, helpful and inspiring. This is a very good post and I really appreciate it. I won't be sending this letter. Some of the post that I have been reading have made a lot of sense. Even the critical ones were very good. Thanks again Ray410. Why do I need professional help when I can glean the help from amateurs on DP? It's much cheaper and much more abundant. The anonymity factor insure that I am getting honest advice too. Some things have been said that I therapist wouldn't have the guts to say. Thanks everybody. You have help me not only make a decision but to feel confident about my decision.

    Note to all concerned: I will not be seeking professional help. It's just not my thing.
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    Re: Is it a good idea to sent this Christmas Card to the person(s) who fired me?

    Quote Originally Posted by joG View Post
    Ceasar thought differently on that point and in the long run....
    I am not a history buff. Can you fill me in on this reference?

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    Re: Is it a good idea to sent this Christmas Card to the person(s) who fired me?

    Quote Originally Posted by vasuderatorrent View Post
    At first I was hired on through a temp agency. I worked there for 4 months as a temp. I knew the company sucked gigantic emerald-colored equestrian male genitalia but I was willing to deal with it if I was offered $13 an hour. I knew what I was worth and I knew what the job was worth.

    My manager treated me like God all of the time. The HR Manager and my manager offered me the job at $10.25 an hour. I told them that I wanted to stay on as a temp and wasn't interested in coming on permanently. The HR manager said, "We'll, every once in a while the District Manager gets rid of all the temps." I politely told them that I had to think about it. This was on Friday. I thought they were joking. These bastards were serious. They tracked me down and made the same offer on Tuesday. My gut said, "Smile, lay down your time card, leave the building, say thank you and then leave very quickly." That's not what I did.

    I accepted the job and my manager acted like she just one the lottery. I felt like I just got smacked hard across the face.

    That regret just built. They started firing people like crazy all around me. The workload just got bigger and bigger. My resentment just got bigger and bigger. It was a disaster waiting to happen. And the worse thing? I knew it was a filthy, disgusting and horrible company to work for a long time beforehand.

    I'll never work for a disgusting company like that ever again. I'll see to it that my wife, children and me all die of starvation before I'll ever take a job that sucks.

    So relax. You won't have to fire me. I'll never allow myself to be abused. I currently have a job that pays $8.00 an hour. The amount of work I do is probably worth about $2.00 an hour. I'm not getting screwed. I've been there since July 2011 and it's working out perfect.

    Nobody knows what I went through at that place except for people that have worked for that company. They would believe me and understand my situation but they don't dare talk to me. They don't won't their head taken off.

    Try to be fair MaggieD. I'm not as bad as you are making me out to be.
    Quote Originally Posted by KevinKohler View Post
    Even if you sent it, it won't even get read. I've gotten mail at work from people I've fired before. Goes right in the trash.



    No offense, but everyone's got a job to do, and firing people is part of some peoples jobs. Fun? No. But we all gotta eat. Remorse is bad enough when you have to look a person in the eye and tell them they are now unemployed...reminders aren't really needed.


    If I may...this is two years old...what were the circumstances around your term?
    Hopefully this explains it.

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    Re: Is it a good idea to sent this Christmas Card to the person(s) who fired me?

    Quote Originally Posted by vasuderatorrent View Post
    I am not a history buff. Can you fill me in on this reference?
    Ceasar crossed the Rubion in the civil war and burned the bridge behind him , so there was no retreat. He went on to bigger things. But the enemies he had made did him. Actually, the story is really quite a good one and it is well worth reading the Wikipedia article on Caesar (Cesar).

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    Re: Is it a good idea to sent this Christmas Card to the person(s) who fired me?

    Dude, it was 2 and a half years ago. Time to move on. I guarantee they have. I doubt they remember who you are. Although it's possible, since they felt uncomfortable enough with you to get a lawyer to tell you to stop messing with their employees. That's another reason I wouldn't send it. They're already weirded out by you.

    If I got a letter like that after 2 and a half years, my first thought would be that they are clearly NOT over it, and then I would wonder if perhaps I should increase my security for a little while.

    Let this go. Seriously.

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    Re: Is it a good idea to sent this Christmas Card to the person(s) who fired me?

    Sending this would be like sending a card to an ex. Not a good move.

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    Re: Is it a good idea to sent this Christmas Card to the person(s) who fired me?

    No, it just makes you look bitter and a chump - plus wacko. The person you are sending it to doesn't care, while you are fixated on it.

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