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    Re: Is it a good idea to sent this Christmas Card to the person(s) who fired me?

    Quote Originally Posted by vasuderatorrent View Post
    My feelings were way different at the exit interview. If I wrote a sincere letter at that point it would have been much different.
    Let's say for a minute when you left the job that you hated them with the fury and passion of a thousand burning suns. You've now moved on, forgave them, and bear them no ill will. To you this may have been a huge part of your life that you were very bitter about for a long time, but to them it may not have been that big of a deal. Do they realize exactly how upset you were with them that would even warrant an apology letter?

    I've been through a phase of my life very similar to yours. I was so bitter, for so long, and I picked up binge drinking to try to deal with my anger. I considered for a long time writing to the people who wronged me, but I eventually decided no good could ever come from it.
    Quote Originally Posted by LowDown View Post
    I've got to say that it is shadenfreudalicious to see the rich and famous fucquewads on the coast suffering from the fires.

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    Re: Is it a good idea to sent this Christmas Card to the person(s) who fired me?

    Quote Originally Posted by vasuderatorrent View Post
    I'm trying to express the end of my grudge. Was I that off base with my intent?

    What kind?
    Then send the card. Talk with him on the street, when you meet. Have a coffee shop coffee with him or her.

    I have seen guys employ their earlier bosses or a previous boss call to offer a job from a different company.

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    Re: Is it a good idea to sent this Christmas Card to the person(s) who fired me?

    Let it go. It's been almost 3 years. They might not even remember who you are.

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    Re: Is it a good idea to sent this Christmas Card to the person(s) who fired me?

    Let me add - I know that it's hard to let go of something like that. I was let go from a job.. sheesh, 12 years ago now? When the bottom fell out immediately after 9/11, I was let go. I was an Assistant Manager in a BMW Collision Department, and was let go so they could hire a kid who worked for $5 an hour. He didn't know my job, but didn't need to. I was crushed, and I grieved over that for years. Loved the job. I understand why they let me go but I held on to that for a long time.

    Honestly - I always dreamed of going back in there, showing them how well my life turned out and thumbing my nose at them. Then I realized that they probably didn't even remember me, and all I'd be doing is making myself feel worse, because I was holding on to something that they clearly were not.

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    Re: Is it a good idea to sent this Christmas Card to the person(s) who fired me?

    Quote Originally Posted by vasuderatorrent View Post
    As some of you may know from other threads, I was fired from a job on May 26, 2011. I was thinking of sending a Christmas Card to the four suspects who made the decision to fire me. The Question I have is: Is it a good idea to send a Christmas Card to the person(s) who fired me with the following wording?



    Anyone who can't make up their mind whether or not to send a Christmas card without help from others probably deserved to be fired.

    In any case, why would anyone use a Christmas card which usually bring wishes of joy and happiness to send a message like this?
    Last edited by shrubnose; 12-15-13 at 07:19 AM.

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    Re: Is it a good idea to sent this Christmas Card to the person(s) who fired me?

    Quote Originally Posted by spud_meister View Post
    2 years late? You're an idiot.



    Your message is a little harsh, but based on what this person has said I'm inclined to agree with you.

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    Re: Is it a good idea to sent this Christmas Card to the person(s) who fired me?

    Quote Originally Posted by joG View Post
    Usually it probably is not a good idea.
    It does depend on the circumstances though. If the company went down or closed the product line you were in?Why carry a grudge and you might have common interests again sometime.



    Correct.

    It's not a good idea to blow up a bridge which you may want to cross back over sometime in the future.

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    Re: Is it a good idea to sent this Christmas Card to the person(s) who fired me?

    Quote Originally Posted by shrubnose View Post
    Anyone who can't make up their mind whether or not to send a Christmas card without help from others probably deserved to be fired.

    In any case, why would anyone use a Christmas card which usually bring wishes of joy and happiness to send a message like this?
    You say something as cold hearted as that, then turn around in the very next post and call someone else's post a little harsh?

    Pot, meet kettle.
    Quote Originally Posted by LowDown View Post
    I've got to say that it is shadenfreudalicious to see the rich and famous fucquewads on the coast suffering from the fires.

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    Re: Is it a good idea to sent this Christmas Card to the person(s) who fired me?

    Quote Originally Posted by Superfly View Post
    Let me add - I know that it's hard to let go of something like that. I was let go from a job.. sheesh, 12 years ago now? When the bottom fell out immediately after 9/11, I was let go. I was an Assistant Manager in a BMW Collision Department, and was let go so they could hire a kid who worked for $5 an hour. He didn't know my job, but didn't need to. I was crushed, and I grieved over that for years. Loved the job. I understand why they let me go but I held on to that for a long time.

    Honestly - I always dreamed of going back in there, showing them how well my life turned out and thumbing my nose at them. Then I realized that they probably didn't even remember me, and all I'd be doing is making myself feel worse, because I was holding on to something that they clearly were not.



    I had a very similar experience after 9/11.

    Guess what? management at the company that laid me off helped me to get a better job making more money.

    Sometimes you just have to move on and do the best that you can do in life.

    :

    None of us are the only person on this planet.

    Hiring and firing decisions involve a lot of people other than the person hired and fired.

    IOW: It's not all about you.

    Here's a good way to look at your past:
    Last edited by shrubnose; 12-15-13 at 07:43 AM.

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    Re: Is it a good idea to sent this Christmas Card to the person(s) who fired me?

    Quote Originally Posted by RabidAlpaca View Post
    You say something as cold hearted as that, then turn around in the very next post and call someone else's post a little harsh?

    Pot, meet kettle.



    I could have said that it was very harsh.

    Some people have a problem facing reality.

    I don't.

    What has happened in the past is over and done with.

    We have to accept that simple fact and move on and make the best of our life.

    Or walk around looking at the ground all of the time.

    Everyone has to make their own choice.

    I choose to enjoy my life as much as possible, I don't worry about things which happened in the past which I can't change.
    Last edited by shrubnose; 12-15-13 at 07:58 AM.

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