It is NOT about the child, because as CPwill points out, if that were what it was all about there would be NO abortion right at all. It would only occur when the woman's life was in danger, if at all.
If it were about the child then the woman contemplating having one would be required to make a more informed decision, not an emotional or calculated one. If she knew there were no "safety nets" because the male does not want a child and could legally opt-out, then she still askes herself can she do it all alone?
Having some experience in CPS you know very well the horrors of dysfunctional families. Men who feel trapped by a "do the right thing" marriage. Women who are angered by men who refused to marry and fight about child support. Children who grow up abused, emotionally disturbed, resentful of being resented.
This issue is NOT about the children. It is about choice. A woman should not make an irrational choice to have an unwanted child. However, if you are concerned about the child then ask yourself this: If it is not a mutual voluntary choice to have the baby then who will suffer most? The child!
Society has changed to allow abortion. Society can adjust to a male's right to opt-out.