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    Re: Parenting and the Internet

    It has nothing to do with the Internet, this is a case of poor parenting. You can't just let your kids go, pay no attention to what they're doing and expect the schools and the Internet to educate them, parents have to be intimately involved in their children's lives.

    My kids have had their own computers since they were 4 and Internet access since they were 7-8. The trick is, my wife and I are involved in their lives, we know what's going on, we know, in general terms, what they're doing and they know there are rules and consequences for violating those rules. I can't say they've always been perfect, my oldest daughter, for instance, is an artist and she got a DeviantArt account before she turned 13 by creating a fake e-mail account for my wife to give them permission to give her an account. She got caught and she got punished, had she just come to us in the first place, we would have given her the account anyhow. She learned her lesson. It's easier to just come to us and talk to us than to reap the consequences of not doing so.
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    Re: Parenting and the Internet

    Quote Originally Posted by Lukas105 View Post
    I beat the hell out of my one bully, lets just say I never had trouble again.
    Same here. Got bullied once, put him on the ground once, we ended up becoming really close friends.
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    Re: Parenting and the Internet

    Quote Originally Posted by SBu View Post
    Another child commits suicide due to online bullying: Answers - and justice - remain elusive in 'bullied' Connecticut student's suicide | Fox News

    What are your thoughts about parenting and the internet?

    Are these parents to blame for recklessly exposing an adolescent to constant internet access? Is it ok for parents to allow their children essentially unfettered access to the internet? In the words of the child's parents:

    "I would look at his computer sometimes because he left it unlocked sometimes and to check on him I would read his email. He was talking about happy things. It seemed like he had friends to talk to. I didn't think I needed to look further."


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    The bullies are to blame for bullying.
    Their parents / authority figures are to blame for failing to be the authorities over the bullies. (IE: failing to intervene, failing to act, failing to punish, and even encouraging it (I've see this happen sometimes).
    The parents of the child (victim) are at fault, as well, for enabling the situation to continue with permission via the un-monitored use of THEIR internet.

    Enough blame to go around - it's a tragic storm of 'everyone's doing a bunch of nothing.'

    My children don't have access to the internet unless I give them PERMISSION - and I monitor what they do. They don't do 'social sites' - they don't NEED to. They social with friends in real life who are NOT bullies and do NOT fight with them, pick on them, or cause trouble.

    In fact, I don't let them associate with the crap kids who have crap parents and are always in trouble.

    Quote Originally Posted by Cephus View Post
    Same here. Got bullied once, put him on the ground once, we ended up becoming really close friends.
    Well good for you guys - sometimes violence doesn't stop it for other children.
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    Re: Parenting and the Internet

    Quote Originally Posted by wolfie View Post
    Nice sentiment MaggieD..but it don't work...If you don't have any kids..you have no idea!!
    I assume you're addressing me.

    I have two boys, well, they're men now ages 27 and 23. What Maggie suggests can and should be done; I did that and more.
    As an aside though, I am surprised and oft bothered by parents who cannot exercise influence and control over their children. Parenting is not an easy task but there are no options once children arrive. Parents Should never abdicate their responsibilities by giving a child unfettered freedom of action and choice.

    I could ramble on but it might best be left for a different thread.

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    KUDOS TO MAGGIE for her awareness !!

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    Re: Parenting and the Internet

    Quote Originally Posted by wolfie View Post
    Parents can't sit with their kids at school..the internet is just an extension of this..
    So, you think that parents can't sit with their kids while using the internet? In other words, can't control kids' access to the internet?

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    Re: Parenting and the Internet

    Quote Originally Posted by Thom Paine View Post
    I assume you're addressing me.

    I have two boys, well, they're men now ages 27 and 23. What Maggie suggests can and should be done; I did that and more.
    As an aside though, I am surprised and oft bothered by parents who cannot exercise influence and control over their children. Parenting is not an easy task but there are no options once children arrive. Parents Should never abdicate their responsibilities by giving a child unfettered freedom of action and choice.

    I could ramble on but it might best be left for a different thread.

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    KUDOS TO MAGGIE for her awareness !!

    Have a nice eve Wolfie

    Thom Paine
    Thank you Thomas Paine..but actually what I was trying to point out..(ps..I like MaggieD) was that sometimes you are not aware what your kids are doing...so do you keep them in..or let em out??

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    Re: Parenting and the Internet

    Well hmmm, while complimenting maggie and responding to Wolfie I didn't answer the thread question...

    I place 100% of the situation in the parental lap. ( the parents of the lost child mostly and parents of the others for similar reasons)

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    Re: Parenting and the Internet

    Quote Originally Posted by SBu View Post
    So, you think that parents can't sit with their kids while using the internet? In other words, can't control kids' access to the internet?
    Eh - schools send up an 'internet use' agreement 'act' that you're supposed to review with your child, and sign. The kid, thereby, accepts responsibility for their online activity while on school grounds and promises not to go to sites they shouldn't visit, and do things they shouldn't do.

    So, at school, I get the sense that they're unmonitored - because, though they're at school, the schools decided they don't care that much and brush off all responsibility.
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    Re: Parenting and the Internet

    Quote Originally Posted by SBu View Post
    So, you think that parents can't sit with their kids while using the internet? In other words, can't control kids' access to the internet?
    Do you not think that children should be allowed privacy??

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    Re: Parenting and the Internet

    Quote Originally Posted by Tucker Case View Post
    We won't ever be able to stop bullying of any sort. It needs to be addressed when it is encountered, but kids also need to be trained in how to deal with bullies. They need to learn techniques that can be used to remove the bullies power. For example, some kids can learn how to "own the joke". This works as well in person as it does online. someone seeks to belittle or degrade you, go along with it and exaggerate their claim to the point of absurdity. If a bully has no power to create teh illusion of superiorty, they will either give up trying or else they will expose themselves as insecure morons who don't know when they've become the joke.
    Or they'll just punch you in the face...
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