Thank you for sharing your views, and listening to mine.
While my views are valid as pertains to my family, yours are equally valid- I'm sure- as pertains to your family.
People have different values, and try to impart these to their children as best they can.
I'm sure the stay-at-home parents on this thread don't defend their views because they feel "guilty" for not having a job.
Likewise, it would be nice if they'd acknowledge that my views on how best to raise a family are the result of a lifetime of accumulated wisdom and experience (as are theirs), rather than merely an elaborate construct to disguise the fact that I supposedly feel "guilty" for working outside my home.
I don't work because I hate families, or because I am anti-child.
I'm sure Doughgirl and other stay-at-home parents don't stay home because they hate working, or because they oppose gainful employment in general.
All of us have obligations to ourselves, our children, our partners, our communities, and our society in general.
I perceive that being a whole person involves fulfilling your obligations to all of these people and entities, not merely focusing all of your energies on one or another.
It's definitely a balancing act.