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    Do your responses change based on the sex/gender of the poster?

    This is something I've been wondering about for a long time and I want honest answers from you DP'ers so don't lie to me.
    When I first joined DP I didn't make my sex/gender clear immediately because I didn't want to be judged based on whether I was a male or female. It didn't last long because as I've mentioned in the past I'm a little bit sexist, I love being female (sex/gender) and I think it would suck to be a guy so not declaring that I'm female was too much for me.

    The poll question I have for you is:

    Do you respond differently if you know whether the person you're responding to is a guy or a girl?

    For an extended discussion list the reasons why?
    I believe half of the things I say and say half of the things I believe.

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    Re: Do your responses change based on the sex/gender of the poster?

    Quote Originally Posted by Monserrat View Post
    This is something I've been wondering about for a long time and I want honest answers from you DP'ers so don't lie to me.
    When I first joined DP I didn't make my sex/gender clear immediately because I didn't want to be judged based on whether I was a male or female. It didn't last long because as I've mentioned in the past I'm a little bit sexist, I love being female (sex/gender) and I think it would suck to be a guy so not declaring that I'm female was too much for me.

    The poll question I have for you is:

    Do you respond differently if you know whether the person you're responding to is a guy or a girl?

    For an extended discussion list the reasons why?
    No. It just doesn't occur to me to do so.

    When I respond to a poster, I'm addressing their mind, not their genitals.

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    Re: Do your responses change based on the sex/gender of the poster?

    Admittedly, yes. Not when it comes to the substance of any argument or anything but there are things I'll say to dudes that I mostly won't say to women (mainly things like name-calling). It's just how I was raised. Am I being sexist?

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    Re: Do your responses change based on the sex/gender of the poster?

    Quote Originally Posted by SmokeAndMirrors View Post
    No. It just doesn't occur to me to do so.

    When I respond to a poster, I'm addressing their mind, not their genitals.
    Gender isn't about genitals though, just societal norms on how those viewed as male and female are supposed to act. You wouldn't change a response to some general issue based on whether one was male or female?
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    Re: Do your responses change based on the sex/gender of the poster?

    I don't think I do. At least not consciously. I do have a tendency to expect other women to debate issues in an intelligent, informed manner, without getting needlessly emotional and, when they don't, I get really annoyed. I immediately think that one woman's inept debating style will reflect on the rest of us. Which is really stupid, I know. lol I can't help it, though. I really do tend to expect more from other women posters than from the men. Fortunately, most of the gals here are super smart so it's all good.
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    Re: Do your responses change based on the sex/gender of the poster?

    Quote Originally Posted by Monserrat View Post
    Gender isn't about genitals though, just societal norms on how those viewed as male and female are supposed to act. You wouldn't change a response to some general issue based on whether one was male or female?
    You post wasn't about gender alone. Sex is, largely, about genitals and secondary sex characteristics.

    But if we're looking at it from the gender side, you get the same answer, except replace "genitals" with "mannerisms."

    A person's brain power is independent of whether they prefer dresses or pants. Again, I'm addressing their intellect.

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    Re: Do your responses change based on the sex/gender of the poster?

    Quote Originally Posted by Arcana XV View Post
    I don't think I do. At least not consciously. I do have a tendency to expect other women to debate issues in an intelligent, informed manner, without getting needlessly emotional and, when they don't, I get really annoyed. I immediately think that one woman's inept debating style will reflect on the rest of us. Which is really stupid, I know. lol I can't help it, though. I really do tend to expect more from other women posters than from the men. Fortunately, most of the gals here are super smart so it's all good.
    I see men do that here pretty much just as often as I do women. I think DP may be the ultimate study disproving the "women are uniquely emotionally impulsive" myth.

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    Re: Do your responses change based on the sex/gender of the poster?

    Quote Originally Posted by X Factor View Post
    Admittedly, yes. Not when it comes to the substance of any argument or anything but there are things I'll say to dudes that I mostly won't say to women (mainly things like name-calling). It's just how I was raised. Am I being sexist?
    Possibly? If the rules regarding interaction between men and women being different make society sexist then definitely yes.

    I think understanding that there are differences besides the obvious physical differences is a good thing. I feel like the pc thing to do these days is to try to pretend that we're the same, when we're not. I don't really get why it's so important to try to make men and women the same.
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    Re: Do your responses change based on the sex/gender of the poster?

    Quote Originally Posted by Monserrat View Post
    Possibly? If the rules regarding interaction between men and women being different make society sexist then definitely yes.

    I think understanding that there are differences besides the obvious physical differences is a good thing. I feel like the pc thing to do these days is to try to pretend that we're the same, when we're not. I don't really get why it's so important to try to make men and women the same.
    It is interesting, isn't it, that on one hand, we're supposed to support and applaud diversity (and I really do), but when it comes to the sexes, the politically correct thing to do is deny any differences.

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    Re: Do your responses change based on the sex/gender of the poster?

    Quote Originally Posted by X Factor View Post
    It is interesting, isn't it, that on one hand, we're supposed to support and applaud diversity (and I really do), but when it comes to the sexes, the politically correct thing to do is deny any differences.
    I'm just glad that I wasn't an adult in the workplace in the 80's where women wore those hideous shoulder pads in the workplace to try to square out there shoulders like a man. It was awful. My mother use to try to make me wear them when I was young, I hated it.

    I know women nowadays who cut their hair short because they think it's more businesslike aka they're still trying to look like a man in order to be taken seriously. I refuse to. I like my hair long and people will take me seriously because 1. I'm usually smarter then they are and 2. I'm perfectly okay with annoying the hell out of them until they do (aka being persistent)
    I believe half of the things I say and say half of the things I believe.

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