View Poll Results: Do you respond differently to posters based on their sex/gender?

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    Re: Do your responses change based on the sex/gender of the poster?

    Quote Originally Posted by notquiteright View Post
    In a political discussion I try my best to ignore the sex in a political discussion. In a social one I revert back to my upbringing, though I have rip into females from time to time.

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    An ass is an ass, now matter what's up in front -- this is almost profound, but I'm not sure yet ... let me think about it some more ...

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    Re: Do your responses change based on the sex/gender of the poster?

    Quote Originally Posted by Monserrat View Post
    I'm just glad that I wasn't an adult in the workplace in the 80's where women wore those hideous shoulder pads in the workplace to try to square out there shoulders like a man. It was awful. My mother use to try to make me wear them when I was young, I hated it.

    I know women nowadays who cut their hair short because they think it's more businesslike aka they're still trying to look like a man in order to be taken seriously. I refuse to. I like my hair long and people will take me seriously because 1. I'm usually smarter then they are and 2. I'm perfectly okay with annoying the hell out of them until they do (aka being persistent)
    Or maybe they just like short hair?

    I go back and forth. My hair was pretty short for a couple years. About a year ago, I decided I missed it long, so now I'm growing it back out.

    A woman doing something that is typically "male" in the West does not mean she wishes to act like a man. Maybe she just... likes it.

    Do you think all the hair bands from the 80's were trying to look like women? Or is that somehow different?

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    Re: Do your responses change based on the sex/gender of the poster?

    Quote Originally Posted by Monserrat View Post
    This is something I've been wondering about for a long time and I want honest answers from you DP'ers so don't lie to me.
    When I first joined DP I didn't make my sex/gender clear immediately because I didn't want to be judged based on whether I was a male or female. It didn't last long because as I've mentioned in the past I'm a little bit sexist, I love being female (sex/gender) and I think it would suck to be a guy so not declaring that I'm female was too much for me.

    The poll question I have for you is:

    Do you respond differently if you know whether the person you're responding to is a guy or a girl?

    For an extended discussion list the reasons why?
    I think I tend to respond to other posters based more on my perception of their intelligence level, than their gender identity, but I could be wrong. I think that responses based on sex are more pervasive and subconscious than many of us realize at an intellectual level.
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    Re: Do your responses change based on the sex/gender of the poster?

    Quote Originally Posted by lizzie View Post
    I think I tend to respond to other posters based more on my perception of their intelligence level, than their gender identity, but I could be wrong. I think that responses based on sex are more pervasive and subconscious than many of us realize at an intellectual level.
    That's a great point. Don't get me wrong, I don't think gender is the only thing that would make me respond in a different way to different people, but I can't deny that it could definitely be a factor.

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    Re: Do your responses change based on the sex/gender of the poster?

    YES. Women get either less or more reaction from me based on their political lean. I will be much less impolite to a conservative woman while a Liberal one will get much MORE unpleasantness from me than a guy making the same argument would.

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    Re: Do your responses change based on the sex/gender of the poster?

    Quote Originally Posted by ChrisL View Post
    That's a great point. Don't get me wrong, I don't think gender is the only thing that would make me respond in a different way to different people, but I can't deny that it could definitely be a factor.
    I think so too. I've noticed that since I lost my husband, being in the presence of certain men stirs a response in me that isn't necessarily sexual overtly, but is comforting at a level that I have trouble describing intellectually. It's one of those things that seems to be ingrained at a very basic level, and seems to have something to do with sensing something that I lack at the emotional level. It's hard to describe.
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    Re: Do your responses change based on the sex/gender of the poster?

    Quote Originally Posted by Monserrat View Post
    The poll question I have for you is:

    Do you respond differently if you know whether the person you're responding to is a guy or a girl?

    For an extended discussion list the reasons why?
    Not for subjects where gender isn't an obvious factor in the discussion. For example, if we're talking about nuclear weapons or taxes, I don't pay attention to it. However, if it's topic on some sort of women's issue or sexism, I might consider the gender of the poster.

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    Re: Do your responses change based on the sex/gender of the poster?

    Quote Originally Posted by lizzie View Post
    I think I tend to respond to other posters based more on my perception of their intelligence levell.
    I add another dimension to that one, myself -- whether or not they are capable of original thought. There are plenty of posters who are reasonably intelligent after a fashion, yet their politics are very formulaic and doctrinaire. They may have enough intelligence to memorize and repeat information, perform complex calculations or otherwise function at a high level intelligence-wise, but what they lack is that spark of originality that allows them to think outside the box.

    In my world, intelligent and conformist is hardly any better than unintelligent and conformist. Give me intelligent and original any day.
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    Re: Do your responses change based on the sex/gender of the poster?

    On another note, I have noticed that a lot of men on DP tend to treat women more "delicately" than they do men. The same men are usually more willing to ignore traits that they would criticize in men when they see women. While I think such different treatment is usually coming from a well-intentioned place, I would still consider it a problem as it is usually rooted in seeing differences between men and women that aren't real.

    Also, several people have an issue with the fact that I (and some other posters) don't reveal our gender. That demonstrates that gender is a factor in people's evaluation of posts.

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    Re: Do your responses change based on the sex/gender of the poster?

    Yes (if I happened to notice their sex before I answer - which is not common).

    If it's a woman, I assume they have slightly (emphasis on the word 'slightly') more common sense/less of a combative stance then a man, so I will take a slightly less defensive and slightly more matter-of-fact approach.

    If the woman starts acting/talking like a semi-idiot - then the above goes out the window.
    Last edited by DA60; 07-02-13 at 11:51 AM.

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