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Would you marry a stripper?

Would you marry a stripper?

  • Yes, if I believed she truly loved me for me and not because I was saving her.

    Votes: 29 43.9%

  • No, nothing but trouble there.

    Votes: 37 56.1%
  • Total voters
    66
spanky said:
Here's a question for stripper lovers, although I haven't been to one in several years where I live it's either just topless with alcohol or bottomless and dry.

Which for you?
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South Carolina establishments can be full nude. They can also sell alcohol.

North Carolina is just topless AFAIK.
 
spanky said:
The history of her giving lap dances to every dude in town.

You know, for 10 bucks.
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I have a friend from high school who honestly thought the guy she was with was a keeper and they'd eventually get married, then the next, then the next, then the next.... Before she knew it she'd been with so many guys she couldn't recall how many there had been from her early-20s to mid-30s. Compounding things further, it was a small community where everybody knew each other. She didn't say it exactly this way but I easily imagine she could walk down the street any given day and not bump into a former lover, most new prospects for marriage would likely be friends of relatives of one of her past partners and she eventually packed up her life and moved to a larger city. A really nice girl who was just a little naive, allowed herself to be taken advantage of in search of true love, had difficulties with long-term relationships and like a teenager just dumped her boyfriends (or got dumped) at the first sign of conflict starting with her high-school sweetheart who's heart she crushed :cry:; a pattern she never seemed to break until recently.

That said, you can't bounce from relationship to relationship and not experience major social consequences if you live in a small town where everybody knows each other, especially not females.
 
Smeagol said:
I have a friend from high school who honestly thought the guy she was with was a keeper and they'd eventually get married, then the next, then the next, then the next.... Before she knew it she'd been with so many guys she couldn't recall how many there had been from her early-20s to mid-30s. Compounding things further, it was a small community where everybody knew each other. She didn't say it exactly this way but I easily imagine she could walk down the street any given day and not bump into a former lover, most new prospects for marriage would likely be friends of relatives of one of her past partners and she eventually packed up her life and moved to a larger city. A really nice girl who was just a little naive, allowed herself to be taken advantage of in search of true love, had difficulties with long-term relationships and like a teenager just dumped her boyfriends (or got dumped) at the first sign of conflict starting with her high-school sweetheart who's heart she crushed :cry:; a pattern she never seemed to break until recently.

That said, you can't bounce from relationship to relationship and not experience major social consequences if you live in a small town where everybody knows each other, especially not females.
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what does this have to do with marrying a stripper?
 
justabubba said:
what does this have to do with marrying a stripper?
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Nothing, but I'm thinking Smeag was the jilted HS sweetheart and wanted to get that off his chest.

Hey Smeag, your like 40, get over it.
 
I would never marry a stripper.

Only an ecdysiast.
 
justabubba said:
what does this have to do with marrying a stripper?
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I was responding to:

Quote Originally Posted by spanky View Post
The history of her giving lap dances to every dude in town.

You know, for 10 bucks.
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...noticing a parallel in both the hypothetical stripper who gave lap dances to "every dude in town" and the non-stripper who created an almost as extensive sexual history with a significant portion of a community's population for free and seeing similar social consequences and in particular less likely to be desired as wife material.
 
Smeagol said:
I was responding to:



...noticing a parallel in both the hypothetical stripper who gave lap dances to "every dude in town" and the non-stripper who created an almost as extensive sexual history with a significant portion of a community's population for free and seeing similar social consequences and in particular less likely to be desired as wife material.
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"Almost as extensive"? "Significant portion of a community"? If the girl in question had a new boyfriend every year it would amount to the number of lap dances the stripper gave in one night.

So were you the jilted HS boy?
 
spanky said:
I'm surprised there are so many men who have dated strippers...didn't know there were that many around.
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You'd probably be surprised at the number of people you know who have worked as strippers at one time or another.
 
Medusa said:
if they are immoral ,you dont have to date them ...

they are immoral but the guys who prefer dating them are never..

haha

decide

you make generalizations and then claim it depends on their personality
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One is past, one is future, clearly indicating that I have changed over time also. I was 18-20 when I dated strippers, I'm now much older than that. At that time I would date women who were 18, I would not do so today. Gaining knowledge, maturing and experiences change all of us to some extent or another. Yes, at that time I had no understand really of morality or much of anything, so yeah, I acted amorally, now, I am different than I was then.
 
Its differnt if they just did it to put themselves through college or use it as a proffesion . Proffesional ones I dont trust they know how to use sex to manipulate .... take me to your bank account kind of manipulation
 
Personally, I think it's a calculated risk. In other words...it's all about the behavioral risk factors of which there are several.
 
Smeagol said:
I have a friend from high school who honestly thought the guy she was with was a keeper and they'd eventually get married, then the next, then the next, then the next.... Before she knew it she'd been with so many guys she couldn't recall how many there had been from her early-20s to mid-30s. Compounding things further, it was a small community where everybody knew each other. She didn't say it exactly this way but I easily imagine she could walk down the street any given day and not bump into a former lover, most new prospects for marriage would likely be friends of relatives of one of her past partners and she eventually packed up her life and moved to a larger city. A really nice girl who was just a little naive, allowed herself to be taken advantage of in search of true love, had difficulties with long-term relationships and like a teenager just dumped her boyfriends (or got dumped) at the first sign of conflict starting with her high-school sweetheart who's heart she crushed :cry:; a pattern she never seemed to break until recently.

That said, you can't bounce from relationship to relationship and not experience major social consequences if you live in a small town where everybody knows each other, especially not females.
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Yeah, you may have 30 lovers behind you
Hell I can feel you, but I sure can't find you
Seems like you would have found your own self, by know
Late at night your old lovers' tears come back
Faces in you dreams, fingers in you back
Voices of the memories, crying out loud

I can see you are an angel
Whose wings just won't unfold
Turn up your harp
Polish your old halo
Yeah, the only kind of man
That you ever wanted
Was the that you knew
that wouldn't stay very long
You're sitting there crying like
I'm the first one to go

Jaded Lover ~ Jerry Jeff Walker
 
Risky Thicket said:
Yeah, you may have 30 lovers behind you
Hell I can feel you, but I sure can't find you
Seems like you would have found your own self, by know
Late at night your old lovers' tears come back
Faces in you dreams, fingers in you back
Voices of the memories, crying out loud

I can see you are an angel
Whose wings just won't unfold
Turn up your harp
Polish your old halo
Yeah, the only kind of man
That you ever wanted
Was the that you knew
that wouldn't stay very long
You're sitting there crying like
I'm the first one to go

Jaded Lover ~ Jerry Jeff Walker
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JJW. I've sung along with that song countless times and I'm surprised at how much more sad it is reading the lyrics in black and white. Or maybe that's because it is in tandem with this thread.
 
Can some of them men who have bed strippers tell us what's the difference between them your average everday bar one nighty?
 
Gina said:
JJW. I've sung along with that song countless times and I'm surprised at how much more sad it is reading the lyrics in black and white. Or maybe that's because it is in tandem with this thread.
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I thought it kind of fit. I've always loved the song. I don't think in the past that I viewed it the way it works above.
 
spanky said:
"Almost as extensive"? "Significant portion of a community"? If the girl in question had a new boyfriend every year it would amount to the number of lap dances the stripper gave in one night.

So were you the jilted HS boy?
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I'll get over it one day. :mrgreen:

Honestly, she can't even remember how many there's been. A really nice girl and will always have a special place in heart and God can give anybody a new start. In our hometown everybody knows everybody and I don't doubt for a minute she felt she had to move if she ever hoped to find a guy who wanted to marry her. In our culture I think we treat intimacy too casually and dump people who care deeply about us for the slightest offenses. The later treatment carries over into how many people treat marriage and we know the statistics with children caught up in the middle. I have two very good friends right now who are divorced and going through a divorce for the absolutely most ridiculous reasons I think is due to the throw away relationship mentality their exs developed prior to then carrying into their marriages.

More than anything else I know we have some little sisters here and just wanted to indirectly warn them not to treat themselves with anything less than the dignity they deserve or they can look back and see themselves in a similar situation wondering what have they done with their lives.
 
Smeagol said:
I'll get over it one day. :mrgreen:

Honestly, she can't even remember how many there's been. A really nice girl and will always have a special place in heart and God can give anybody a new start. In our hometown everybody knows everybody and I don't doubt for a minute she felt she had to move if she ever hoped to find a guy who wanted to marry her. In our culture I think we treat intimacy too casually and dump people who care deeply about us for the slightest offenses. The later treatment carries over into how many people treat marriage and we know the statistics with children caught up in the middle. I have two very good friends right now who are divorced and going through a divorce for the absolutely most ridiculous reasons I think is due to the throw away relationship mentality their exs developed prior to then carrying into their marriages.

More than anything else I know we have some little sisters here and just wanted to indirectly warn them not to treat themselves with anything less than the dignity they deserve or they can look back and see themselves in a similar situation wondering what have they done with their lives.
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so, she was your plaything and should now regret it
but you were her plaything ... where are your regrets? did you have to leave town?

and as to those couples divorcing for what you believe to be ridiculous reasons, who the hell are you to know? the only people who know about a relationship are those who are actually in it

as you can probably tell, this holier-than-thou bull**** is offputting
 
Smeagol said:
I'll get over it one day. :mrgreen:

Honestly, she can't even remember how many there's been. A really nice girl and will always have a special place in heart and God can give anybody a new start. In our hometown everybody knows everybody and I don't doubt for a minute she felt she had to move if she ever hoped to find a guy who wanted to marry her. In our culture I think we treat intimacy too casually and dump people who care deeply about us for the slightest offenses. The later treatment carries over into how many people treat marriage and we know the statistics with children caught up in the middle. I have two very good friends right now who are divorced and going through a divorce for the absolutely most ridiculous reasons I think is due to the throw away relationship mentality their exs developed prior to then carrying into their marriages.

More than anything else I know we have some little sisters here and just wanted to indirectly warn them not to treat themselves with anything less than the dignity they deserve or they can look back and see themselves in a similar situation wondering what have they done with their lives.
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What was your offense to her?
 
justabubba said:
so, she was your plaything and should now regret it
but you were her plaything ... where are your regrets? did you have to leave town?

and as to those couples divorcing for what you believe to be ridiculous reasons, who the hell are you to know? the only people who know about a relationship are those who are actually in it

as you can probably tell, this holier-than-thou bull**** is offputting
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She was never my "plaything." I was a perfect gentlemen. Tell you what, I don't have the time or inclination to address this so go ahead and think whatever you want and to those who my comments spoke something to, those where the people I was hoping communicate to.
 
Smeagol said:
She was never my "plaything." I was a perfect gentlemen.
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so, she ****ed everyone but you
now i understand your angst

Tell you what, I don't have the time or inclination to address this so go ahead and think whatever you want and to those who my comments spoke something to, those where the people I was hoping communicate to.
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heard you loud and clear
 
Realistically, why not? I mean, strippers aren't hookers-- they aren't giving out sex, they're just taking off their clothes for people. No strings attached. I, for one, and entirely comfortable with the human body, so I don't see anything wrong with strippers and I would have no problem marrying one even if they chose to keep their profession.
 
Smeagol said:
She was never my "plaything." I was a perfect gentlemen. Tell you what, I don't have the time or inclination to address this so go ahead and think whatever you want and to those who my comments spoke something to, those where the people I was hoping communicate to.
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Perfect gentleman? Are you saying you never had sex with her? Play with her boobies, anything?
 
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