Look bud... I'mma try one more time to get the point across... don't get hung up on the scenario that it is a woman or your wife necessarily.
Just that it is the person in the world who means the most to you. That could be your wife, your mother, your child, your brother or sister... whoever.
Would you risk a bullet to spare them from violent rape, or not?
Like I said earlier, I did it for strangers when I was a cop, willingly... I could hardly do less for my moved-loved-one.