View Poll Results: At What Point Should A Transgendered Person Identify Themselves As Such?

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  • When you first meet them

    6 12.24%
  • When you become friends with them

    11 22.45%
  • When you bewcome close friends with them

    8 16.33%
  • Before a first date

    28 57.14%
  • Before dating deriously

    24 48.98%
  • Before sex the first time with them

    19 38.78%
  • Before becoming engaged

    16 32.65%
  • Never

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Thread: At What Point Should A Transgendered Person Identify Themselves As Such?

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    Re: At What Point Should A Transgendered Person Identify Themselves As Such?

    I believe that a transgendered person should tell anyone who they're in a romantic relationship with that they are transgender. Ideally on the first date, so it's right out in the open from the beginning. But at an absolute bare minimum before any kind of sexual activity is involved. Having sex with someone who doesn't know you're transgender is wrong on a lot of levels. In fact, in some states I think that could be classified as rape.
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    Re: At What Point Should A Transgendered Person Identify Themselves As Such?

    If you are becoming friends, then during that buildup period. I don't just declare a friendship is established personally so I think it should probably come up sometime during the conversations where you find out about a person's family, other friends and background when there is no romantic interest, just friendship. It really isn't that important to me though, I would just want to know to avoid any awkward situations, not when talking about just friendships.

    When it comes to romantic interests, it should be before there is any physical affections, such as kissing or intimate touching. For me, this took place somewhere around the first date, either before, during, or when a second date is established (a second date for me always meant I was interested in serious dating). I think this is important for a potential romantic interest to know. It will likely limit that person's potential to establish relationships but unfortunately it isn't right to expect something like this not to be a big issue for a large amount of people. I guess I would put it around the level of a single parent telling a potential interest they have a child.
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    Re: At What Point Should A Transgendered Person Identify Themselves As Such?

    Definitely before they get romantic with anyone, that person deserves to know such things. Relationships are built on trust anyhow, or so they say.

    As for friendships, if you're genuine friends and becoming close, it's probably best to get the cat out of the bag.
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    Re: At What Point Should A Transgendered Person Identify Themselves As Such?

    I'd say friends. Friends talk about things, especially the major parts of each other's lives. That would definitely count. The right thing to do would be to tell anyone who you are close to or may ever become intimate, even slightly.
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    Re: At What Point Should A Transgendered Person Identify Themselves As Such?

    What is it with these polls?

    Same sex?
    Transgender?

    What do you people think about all day?


    To answer this question?

    I have no idea - whenever they feel like it...every situation is different.

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    Re: At What Point Should A Transgendered Person Identify Themselves As Such?

    Trannies shouldn't exist.
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    Re: At What Point Should A Transgendered Person Identify Themselves As Such?

    Quote Originally Posted by Mathematician View Post
    Trannies shouldn't exist.
    Maybe you should round up your christian buddies and kill all the trannies then, right? Seeing as how they shouldnt exist but have the pesky habit of doing it anyway.
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    Re: At What Point Should A Transgendered Person Identify Themselves As Such?

    At sometime before you hop in the showers with them at the YMCA.

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    Re: At What Point Should A Transgendered Person Identify Themselves As Such?

    I'm presuming we're only talking about trans-genders and individuals (SS or OS) with whom a romantic relationship is possible. I'd say around the "Close Friends" area, but "Before the First Date." By discussing the TG matter after becoming close to someone, the reaction will either pave the way to a first date or close off the option altogether.

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    Re: At What Point Should A Transgendered Person Identify Themselves As Such?

    Quote Originally Posted by Josie View Post
    I would say that might be a dealbreaker for some people. It's best to get it out in the open before the first date, otherwise it's very deceptive and just .... wrong.

    I don't think it matters as much with friends.
    Im not sure it matters that much to me, and I would hope it wouldn't matter that much for many. But it seems to me for those it matter to, better to let it be known before it becomes to intimate.

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