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Let's keep the discussion kinda focused somewhat on the topic please.
Let's keep the discussion kinda focused somewhat on the topic please.
Let's keep the discussion kinda focused somewhat on the topic please.
This will be a multiple choice poll, pick all that apply.
At one point in time, there was an at times interesting discussion on this. Lots of new people around, so going to try it again. The poll lists a number of situations. At which of those situations should a fully post-op transgendered person identify themselves as being that to you?
Note: A bunch of options, please be patient while I type in all the poll options. A poll is coming to go with this.
Edit for clarity: please do not pick just the earliest possible time...ie if you choose "before a first date", please also "before seriously dating" and so on. It makes the relative standing easier to interpret. Thank you.
This will be a multiple choice poll, pick all that apply.
At one point in time, there was an at times interesting discussion on this. Lots of new people around, so going to try it again. The poll lists a number of situations. At which of those situations should a fully post-op transgendered person identify themselves as being that to you?
Note: A bunch of options, please be patient while I type in all the poll options. A poll is coming to go with this.
Edit for clarity: please do not pick just the earliest possible time...ie if you choose "before a first date", please also "before seriously dating" and so on. It makes the relative standing easier to interpret. Thank you.
I find it one of those things where it is really hard to make a good call based on my opinions. I am not squeamish about the topic, I do not have to know in most situations. But there would certainly be a line where it would be important to know, not so much due to sex, but due to not being told meant hiding something from me kinda thing.
For me it'd be due to sex.
Not disclosing everything about your past isn't exactly uncommon amongst people. Not everyone is a completely open book; many people have skeletons in their past that they'd assume keep in the graveyard and not dig up for every future mate, even spouses of long periods of time.
I've learned from times when women would ask me how many women I've been with in my life, and me not cushioning the blow enough. Of course, the relationship doesn't last anyway when people try to determine the future by deciphering the past.
When they feel comfortable revealing it. They're really under no obligation to to reveal it at any point, especially if they're post-op.
I'd prefer to be told, especially since it means my partner cannot produce half of the cells needed to procreate (assuming post op), but only so that we can make plans together to achieve our future goals.
Dating fulfills lots of needs, but the underlying purpose behind it all is the sex. Unless you've got religiously induced sexual repression, it's always best to find that out early if you're sexually incompatible, so as to minimize the sting of fruitlessly invested time, money and emotion.
Trannies shouldn't exist.
I would say that might be a dealbreaker for some people. It's best to get it out in the open before the first date, otherwise it's very deceptive and just .... wrong.
I don't think it matters as much with friends.