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    Re: Were these parents too harsh on their daughter?

    Quote Originally Posted by Surtr View Post
    I don't think it was too far at all. Depending on what she did, I probably would have grounded her ass, cut her off from the world when not in school, and removed her ability to use the internet, phone, tv, and even radio. But for some, that's going too far as well. If she did something extreme like call her mom a bitch, or something, she'd get a ****ing slap across wherever the belt landed.
    Thing is, a kid doesn't just start getting bad grades. If her parents were on top of it from the get-go, they'd notice she wasn't doing homework, studying, etc., etc.

    Positive reinforcement works better than a belt.

    An aside. My brother-in-law had a bloodhound that they insisted be put into the basement whenever they went out. This was always a wrestling match, with hubby or wifey practically falling down the stairs trying to get him in the basement. Yelling! Screaming! Swatting! OMFG!

    One day I'd had enough. I got a Milk Bone, took six steps down, offered it up, and down he came. They rewarded him in the future and never had another problem. In fact? He couldn't WAIT to get down those stairs.

    Works with kids, too.
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    Re: Were these parents too harsh on their daughter?

    Quote Originally Posted by CanadaJohn View Post
    Perfect - no one but your son and perhaps his friends knew he was being punished in this manner and he wasn't subjected to ridicule. Teaching children that choices have real life consequences is one of the most valuable lessons a parent can teach a child.
    yeah he was ridiculed a little, but it was good for him. What he did was almost funny but as a parent you can never smile at a time like that. He was pulling into a parking space at a local resturant with a girl right next to him, he accidently hit the accelerator instead of the break and plowed right through to front of the store. I think someone touched him at the wrong moment!

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    Re: Were these parents too harsh on their daughter?

    Quote Originally Posted by Viktyr Gehrig View Post
    I do not believe that you can teach a child respect by showing her disrespect.


    Quote Originally Posted by Rocketman View Post
    I don't think so. She humiliated her parents numerous times after being asked to stop through various forms of punishments and talks. I was one of those kids as well. I laughed at talks and standing in the corner. Humility comes from handling disappointment. Kids NEVER told a teacher to **** off or kiss their ass when I was in school, now teachers call that routine. Kids today think they are untouchable and can't be held accountable for anything and that is sad in itself.
    I will agree that humility comes from learning how to handle disappointment. Not from wearing clownsuits. As for the way students treat teachers today, blame the school system for not throwing their butts out when they hit 16. And providing no other meaningful consequences for their disrespect.
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    Re: Were these parents too harsh on their daughter?

    Quote Originally Posted by Rocketman View Post
    Parents Force Girl to Hold Sign as Punishment for Being Disrespectful. Tough Love or Too Much?

    Worried about their 13-year-old daughter's increasingly disrespectful behavior, Gentry and Renee Nickell of Crestview, Florida, decided to make her punishment humiliating and public. On Saturday, the teen (whose name has not been released) spent 90 minutes standing at a busy intersection with a hand-written sign describing her sins.

    It read: "I’m a self-entitled teenager w/no respect for authority. I’m also super smart, yet I have 3 'D’s' because I DON’T CARE."

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    I actually rather like the idea. The fear of public humiliation can be a strong motivator to correct one's behavior.

    It sure as Hell beats a whipping.

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    Re: Were these parents too harsh on their daughter?

    i don't really support parents publicly shaming their kids. my parents didn't have to do that to me when i was being a little bastard. it would have done more harm than good anyway.

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    Re: Were these parents too harsh on their daughter?

    Quote Originally Posted by Rocketman View Post
    My son totaled his truck when he was 16. No one was hurt thank God but he didn't think he should be punished. I put his little ass on the bus for 6 months and he not only never had another wreck but he never got a ticket or into much trouble. It was the best punishment I ever gave him.
    Having to ride the bus because of having wrecked your truck is just a natural consequence. If there is a consequence to the teen's actions, the best way to handle it is to let them accept that consequence and move forward.

    There are two basic approaches to discipline: The "the stove is hot" approach, and the "don't touch the stove" approach. They may sound the same, but are quite different.

    The stove is hot is a warning. If the child does not heed the warning, he burns his fingers and learns the natural consequence to his actions.

    Don't touch the stove is a command. The child touches the stove, and is burned for disobedience.

    You wrecked your truck, and now have to ride the bus is a consequence, not a punishment. It's the best way to handle problems and teach kids responsibility.

    Public humiliation is probably the worst way to handle problems with teens.
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    Re: Were these parents too harsh on their daughter?

    Quote Originally Posted by Dittohead not! View Post
    Having to ride the bus because of having wrecked your truck is just a natural consequence. If there is a consequence to the teen's actions, the best way to handle it is to let them accept that consequence and move forward.

    There are two basic approaches to discipline: The "the stove is hot" approach, and the "don't touch the stove" approach. They may sound the same, but are quite different.

    The stove is hot is a warning. If the child does not heed the warning, he burns his fingers and learns the natural consequence to his actions.

    Don't touch the stove is a command. The child touches the stove, and is burned for disobedience.

    You wrecked your truck, and now have to ride the bus is a consequence, not a punishment. It's the best way to handle problems and teach kids responsibility.

    Public humiliation is probably the worst way to handle problems with teens.
    it was very humiliating for him because I wouldn't let him ride with other kids either

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    Re: Were these parents too harsh on their daughter?

    I'm thinking that stupidity must run in the family.

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    Re: Were these parents too harsh on their daughter?

    Quote Originally Posted by Rocketman View Post
    Parents Force Girl to Hold Sign as Punishment for Being Disrespectful. Tough Love or Too Much?

    Worried about their 13-year-old daughter's increasingly disrespectful behavior, Gentry and Renee Nickell of Crestview, Florida, decided to make her punishment humiliating and public. On Saturday, the teen (whose name has not been released) spent 90 minutes standing at a busy intersection with a hand-written sign describing her sins.

    It read: "I’m a self-entitled teenager w/no respect for authority. I’m also super smart, yet I have 3 'D’s' because I DON’T CARE."

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    A little humiliating, which could in turn create resentment more than repentance. BUT.... Spare the rod, spoil the child (still applies even though she wasn't physically punished).
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    Re: Were these parents too harsh on their daughter?

    Quote Originally Posted by Rocketman View Post
    Parents Force Girl to Hold Sign as Punishment for Being Disrespectful. Tough Love or Too Much?

    Worried about their 13-year-old daughter's increasingly disrespectful behavior, Gentry and Renee Nickell of Crestview, Florida, decided to make her punishment humiliating and public. On Saturday, the teen (whose name has not been released) spent 90 minutes standing at a busy intersection with a hand-written sign describing her sins.

    It read: "Iím a self-entitled teenager w/no respect for authority. Iím also super smart, yet I have 3 'Dís' because I DONíT CARE."

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    Speaking from the viewpoint of a parent who did use tough love, with my son who was being a ****head at 17, this is nothing like actual tough love. Tough love would have been drawing a line in the sand, then when she crossed it, she has the choice of moving out on her own, and acting however she wishes, or acting like a respectable member of the household. Tough love is used when all other attempts and resources have failed. This sounds like a case of a sulky teenage girl who never learned how to act in a socially acceptable manner- something that should have been learned by the age of 6 yoa.
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