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    Re: Were these parents too harsh on their daughter?

    Quote Originally Posted by marywollstonecraft View Post
    the parents should be ashamed of themselves.

    yes kids can be obnoxious, they can get totally out of control.

    but this kid obviously had some issues which would not be helped by that kind of public humiliation.
    Ironically, most kids with behavior problems only reflect the problems experienced at home. It's not that there are no bad kids. But, most of the time bad parents are behind the bad kids.

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    Re: Were these parents too harsh on their daughter?

    Haven't read the entire thread, so if this has been mentioned, my apologies.

    I think they were too harsh. There's no need to humiliate a child. They have too many self-esteem issues anyway, and now this kid is going to have to face the humiliation of going to school every day, and having people make fun of her. Kids are fragile. Take away her cellphone, or her internet priviliges. Don't publicly embarrass her. That's just wrong.
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    Re: Were these parents too harsh on their daughter?

    As someone in the last years of his teens, unmarried, and without children, I am sure my opinion on this matter will be discounted by some of you. But it is my opinion that, rather than correcting this 13 year old girl's behaviour, the resentment this will engender will blossom into a deep seated dislike of her parents. It will certainly do the opposite of inducing more respect for her parents.

    When I was very little, I remember my dad saying that there was no such thing as a wicked child - there were only inept, selfish, or lazy parents. I think he knew what he was talking about.
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    Re: Were these parents too harsh on their daughter?

    I agree with you Leo, on the point that it will cause a resentment later on for the parents from the girl.

    I disagree with your Dad, though, that there are no bad children. I have raised 5 children. 3 are great, 2 are not so great. Same surroundings, same upbringing, same parents. I do believe that some kids are just born differently.
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    Re: Were these parents too harsh on their daughter?

    Quote Originally Posted by Rocketman View Post
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    Gee, I went to school way back in the '50s, and my memory is still OK.
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    Re: Were these parents too harsh on their daughter?

    Quote Originally Posted by Rocketman View Post
    Not as teenager that knows there are consequences for their actions. Now someone raised in a liberal home might.
    You've managed to conflate a massive case of self-deception with partisan hackery. Congratulations?

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    Re: Were these parents too harsh on their daughter?

    Quote Originally Posted by Superfly View Post
    I agree with you Leo, on the point that it will cause a resentment later on for the parents from the girl.

    I disagree with your Dad, though, that there are no bad children. I have raised 5 children. 3 are great, 2 are not so great. Same surroundings, same upbringing, same parents. I do believe that some kids are just born differently.
    yes, but they aren't bad. they have problematic behaviours perhaps.

    I agree - same kids, same parents, same upbringing ... there can be differences that leave us shaking our heads and wondering what we did "wrong" as parents ... when we didn't.
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    Re: Were these parents too harsh on their daughter?

    I would never do this specific punishment, but I don't think it's as bad as others forms of punishment, either. In fact, as a general concept, our society could do with re-introducing a certain amount of public shame for undesired and unwise behaviors.

    I have to laugh at those who point the blame solely at the parents, though. The notion that people, even kids, are programmable robots who will do the right things if we simply push the right buttons, it patently absurd. People, even kids, are independent beings with divergent personalities, and there will always be some who won't conform.
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    Re: Were these parents too harsh on their daughter?

    It's amazing how many people are experts on parenting when we have a thread on it. I never realized so many are so smart about something they've read online. We should probably make a poll to see who's been a parent to correllate with the data. I wonder if some even read the article.
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    Re: Were these parents too harsh on their daughter?

    Quote Originally Posted by marywollstonecraft View Post
    yes, but they aren't bad. they have problematic behaviours perhaps.

    I agree - same kids, same parents, same upbringing ... there can be differences that leave us shaking our heads and wondering what we did "wrong" as parents ... when we didn't.
    The bottom line is that we all make choices that affect our lives. Some people make poor choices despite the best of parenting and mentoring, others make good choices despite poor parenting. Every one of us is an individual.
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