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    Re: For men only

    Quote Originally Posted by sawyerloggingon View Post
    My wife had her annual physical yesterday and said if her test come back clean she won't need another (guess I have to say it) pap smear for 5 years. They now test for some virus and if you don't have it and have been married 10 years you are very low risk for cervical cancer. My response was the woman knows if she has been with another man in the last 10 years but she can't know for sure if her husband has been with anyone else. The doctors are setting up a big decision here for a man that has cheated on his wife when she comes home and tells him about her 5 year grace period. Tell her you have cheated may get you a divorce,don't tell her and you may be giving her cancer.What would or even will you do when this happens to you?
    l am not man ,sawyer but l will say something

    l believe a vast majority of men tend to cheat on their spouses although they claim they will never do it

    the only reason some of them dont cheat is that they dont want to lose their wives and fear to harm their family life.

    personally l wouldnt like to hear such confessions unless l suspect that l am being cheated on .

    except when there is a health risk..
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    Re: For men only

    Quote Originally Posted by Medusa View Post
    l am not man ,sawyer but l will say something

    l believe a vast majority of men tend to cheat on their spouses although they claim they will never do it

    the only reason some of them dont cheat is that they dont want to lose their wives and fear to harm their family life.

    personally l wouldnt like to hear such confessions unless l suspect that l am being cheated on .

    except when there is a health risk..
    You have a low opinon of men if you think the vast majority cheat on their wives. I for instance have never cheated on any of my wives.

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    Re: For men only

    Is this question assuming the cheating sex is unprotected sex?

    First, if you are cheating on your wife you are an ass. If you are cheating on your wife without a condom you are monster. Sorry.

    The only unprotected sex I have ever had has been in committed relationships in which we were living together or married, and we had blood tests. Outside of that, such as in my bachelor days, I ALWAYS used condoms. So if I ever lost my marbles and cheated on my wife it would be protected and I would likely not tell my wife. Assuming it was a one-off kind of thing. If it was an actual affair, in which I wanted to keep seeing the woman, I would break up with my wife.

    People who say the wife (or husband) has a right to know are painting with too broad of a brush, though. There are many people who would NOT want to know. I would want to know. My wife would not want to know. She has told me before, usually upon hearing about someone we know cheating on their significant other, that if I ever cheated on her to not let her find out.

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    Re: For men only

    Quote Originally Posted by Sarcogito View Post
    Is this question assuming the cheating sex is unprotected sex?

    First, if you are cheating on your wife you are an ass. If you are cheating on your wife without a condom you are monster. Sorry.

    The only unprotected sex I have ever had has been in committed relationships in which we were living together or married, and we had blood tests. Outside of that, such as in my bachelor days, I ALWAYS used condoms. So if I ever lost my marbles and cheated on my wife it would be protected and I would likely not tell my wife. Assuming it was a one-off kind of thing. If it was an actual affair, in which I wanted to keep seeing the woman, I would break up with my wife.

    People who say the wife (or husband) has a right to know are painting with too broad of a brush, though. There are many people who would NOT want to know. I would want to know. My wife would not want to know. She has told me before, usually upon hearing about someone we know cheating on their significant other, that if I ever cheated on her to not let her find out.
    Your wife have an interesting take... It's a tough question to ask, I would want to know, but I would also immediately break up with my wife/GF. So I'd be asking my spouse to throw herself under the bus... which I think she should out of respect for me, because she didn't show any respect for me earlier...

    I would never cheat... even if I wanted to, it's not something i would be capable of doing unless I was practically raped by a super model. Just who I am.

    But in the hypothetical situation... I wouldn't say anything. The whole virus link to cancer thing is an increase risk, not guaranteed. But this isn't really fair because I would never do that.

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    Re: For men only

    I didn't answer the poll because I'm a woman, but I have to say the poll doesn't make sense.

    Most people who cheat do it secretly - if they didn't, it wouldn't be cheating, it would be an open relationship. Likewise, asking people who know they wouldn't cheat whether or not they would tell is silly. Of course they say they would tell their partner, because they are honourable and wouldn't cheat in the first place!

    People who cheat aren't necessarily bad people, but relationships with a monogamous structure are going to have the secrecy factor come into play most of the time.

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    Re: For men only

    Quote Originally Posted by celticwar17 View Post
    Your wife have an interesting take...
    It might partially be cultural as well. My wife is Cambodian and in Cambodia, and other parts of Asia, it is the norm for men to have women on the side. It doesn’t mean the women like it, they just accept it as the norm and hope the men keep it to themselves. I am not saying there aren’t Cambodian men who are loyal to their wives, I am just saying in my three years living there I didn’t meet any who declared themselves to be. So if that is the world you grow up in, I am sure it affects your outlook.

    That said, I have met American women with that attitude, though admittedly they aren’t as common.

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    Re: For men only

    Quote Originally Posted by sawyerloggingon View Post
    Tell her you have cheated may get you a divorce,don't tell her and you may be giving her cancer.What would or even will you do when this happens to you?
    If I felt the need to cheat, it means I'm no longer committed to her, and that the relationship would be over before I went to another woman.

    But for the sake of the thread, if I did cheat, then I would tell her. By then, the relationship is unsalvageable, and I may as well end it with honesty.
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    Re: For men only

    Quote Originally Posted by Sarcogito View Post
    It might partially be cultural as well. My wife is Cambodian and in Cambodia, and other parts of Asia, it is the norm for men to have women on the side. It doesn’t mean the women like it, they just accept it as the norm and hope the men keep it to themselves. I am not saying there aren’t Cambodian men who are loyal to their wives, I am just saying in my three years living there I didn’t meet any who declared themselves to be. So if that is the world you grow up in, I am sure it affects your outlook.

    That said, I have met American women with that attitude, though admittedly they aren’t as common.

    On my father's side of the family, it's common for the men to keep a mistress. Nobody talks about it, nobody wants to know, and nobody better find out.
    I love the NSA. It's like having a secret fan-base you will never see, but they're there, watching everything you write and it makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside knowing that I may be some person's only form of unconstitutional entertainment one night.

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    Re: For men only

    Quote Originally Posted by digsbe View Post
    If you cheat and you are married you are obligated to tell your spouse, they have every right to know.
    Absolutely correct.

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    Re: For men only

    I am content with what I have and if she cheated on me I would not want to know. It will destroy your marriage.

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