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polygamy ? [W: 267,434]

must polygamy be legalized ?

  • it is better than monogamy

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l would like to know your points of view on polygamic marriages which include more than two spouses .
 
if one wants to date more than one person, that sort of eliminates the possibility of commitment to any of them.

on the other hand, i have zero desire to stop anyone else from doing it. i will just say that it isn't for me.
 
l would like to know your points of view on polygamic marriages which include more than two spouses .


Consenting adults. What could be wrong with this? HeHeHe! Hell hath no fury as a woman scorned. Don't let the wrong fish play with your bait during estress.
 
Personally I'm not wild about marriage of any type, but if several consenting adults want a polygamous relationship, more power to them.
 
You put this in polls and made no poll.

Anyway.

The answer is no. I don't think polygamy is a good thing and it shouldn't become a thing, ever. It is a horrible social construct that is meant to breed superficiality in the familial relationship. It can never be enforced in a truly free society because it goes against the very nature of mankind. It usually takes some sort of pressure for it to be an accepted thing.

Furthermore, because the ratio of men to women is roughly the same, there is no doubt that it is not the normal behavior of man to have multiple spouses.

I am however curious if you are addressing this topic strictly from a man to have multiple wives perspective or for a woman to have multiple husbands? The very answer to this question reveals the horrible aspect of this belief. The fact that there is basically no mainstream religion which promotes the idea of a woman to have multiple husbands, but there are at least religions in the world that promote the idea of a man to have multiple wives. And that is mormonism and islam. Without these 2 religions to apply and condition a people to accept it, such a concept would never stand for the mainstream cultural aspect of a society.
 
As long as all parties are consenting adults then why should the government be involved?
 
You put this in polls and made no poll.

Anyway.

The answer is no. I don't think polygamy is a good thing and it shouldn't become a thing, ever. It is a horrible social construct that is meant to breed superficiality in the familial relationship. It can never be enforced in a truly free society because it goes against the very nature of mankind. It usually takes some sort of pressure for it to be an accepted thing.

Furthermore, because the ratio of men to women is roughly the same, there is no doubt that it is not the normal behavior of man to have multiple spouses.

I am however curious if you are addressing this topic strictly from a man to have multiple wives perspective or for a woman to have multiple husbands? The very answer to this question reveals the horrible aspect of this belief. The fact that there is basically no mainstream religion which promotes the idea of a woman to have multiple husbands, but there are at least religions in the world that promote the idea of a man to have multiple wives. And that is mormonism and islam. Without these 2 religions to apply and condition a people to accept it, such a concept would never stand for the mainstream cultural aspect of a society.

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You put this in polls and made no poll.

Anyway.

The answer is no. I don't think polygamy is a good thing and it shouldn't become a thing, ever. It is a horrible social construct that is meant to breed superficiality in the familial relationship. It can never be enforced in a truly free society because it goes against the very nature of mankind. It usually takes some sort of pressure for it to be an accepted thing.

Furthermore, because the ratio of men to women is roughly the same, there is no doubt that it is not the normal behavior of man to have multiple spouses.

I am however curious if you are addressing this topic strictly from a man to have multiple wives perspective or for a woman to have multiple husbands? The very answer to this question reveals the horrible aspect of this belief. The fact that there is basically no mainstream religion which promotes the idea of a woman to have multiple husbands, but there are at least religions in the world that promote the idea of a man to have multiple wives. And that is mormonism and islam. Without these 2 religions to apply and condition a people to accept it, such a concept would never stand for the mainstream cultural aspect of a society.
The fact is, it's none of your business what consenting adults do with each other. You don't get to decide what's normal and what's not, then base laws off your opinions. If even an ounce of you supports individual freedom, you'd support this.
 
Not a fan of marriage. Live and let live. I don't care how other people want to live their lives. It's none of my freaking business as long as we're talking about consenting adults.
 
One woman I don't get to sleep with bitching at me for not taking out the garbage is enough for me.
 
I have 3 cats and each of the 3 is high maintenance. I love all 3 of them and I support all 3 of them. I pet them, give them treats, buy them toys and take them for medical care. Other than the obvious, they are no different than having 3 wives.

I agree with Aderleth, I'm no fan of marriage. However, I feel we should honor any and all commitments between consenting adults or adopted cats. A contract is a contract.
 
One woman I don't get to sleep with bitching at me for not taking out the garbage is enough for me.

Having to cope with PMT twice or more a month is enough to make me a monk.
 
The fact is, it's none of your business what consenting adults do with each other. You don't get to decide what's normal and what's not, then base laws off your opinions. If even an ounce of you supports individual freedom, you'd support this.

This has nothing to do with freedom or liberty. You can pull that case with gay marriage, and you would be right to do so, but you can't pull that case here.
Freedom and liberty come with the right for you to marry and divorce whomever you want as many times as you want. Freedom and liberty means that you can do adultery and not be criminally tried. Freedom and liberty have to do with you being able to not get married and have sex with multiple women and have illegitimate children and whatever. That is all freedom and liberty.

Marriage, as recognized by the state (as in, signing the piece of paper) is not just about consenting adults deciding to do whatever they want. Sex is about consenting adults doing whatever they want. Marriage is an institution that is the property of the state. And the state is not just the government, but it is the people, all the people, who are part of that government. it is not just a requirement for the continuation of society and to provide stability and a healthy environment for raising children so that the state may exist in the future, it is also the building block of our society as we know it. You do not have the right to modify it as you see fit just because two consenting adults want to. You can choose to opt out of the system and fine. But don't enter the system and then claim it is a freedom and liberty issue because it isn't. It has nothing to do with freedom and liberty of citizens.

And yes, I don't get to decide whats normal and whats not. But I don't have to. History and human nature has made that decision for me and for all of us. You have the right to step away from it, and make your own path in life, but you do not have the right to demand that it bends to your will just because of freedom and liberty since as I said, it doesn't enter the domain of freedom and liberty.

Also, on the funny side of things. Isn't marriage the ball and chain? What freedom you want there :p

 
This has nothing to do with freedom or liberty. You can pull that case with gay marriage, and you would be right to do so, but you can't pull that case here.
Freedom and liberty come with the right for you to marry and divorce whomever you want as many times as you want. Freedom and liberty means that you can do adultery and not be criminally tried. Freedom and liberty have to do with you being able to not get married and have sex with multiple women and have illegitimate children and whatever. That is all freedom and liberty.

Marriage, as recognized by the state (as in, signing the piece of paper) is not just about consenting adults deciding to do whatever they want. Sex is about consenting adults doing whatever they want. Marriage is an institution that is the property of the state. And the state is not just the government, but it is the people, all the people, who are part of that government. it is not just a requirement for the continuation of society and to provide stability and a healthy environment for raising children so that the state may exist in the future, it is also the building block of our society as we know it. You do not have the right to modify it as you see fit just because two consenting adults want to. You can choose to opt out of the system and fine. But don't enter the system and then claim it is a freedom and liberty issue because it isn't. It has nothing to do with freedom and liberty of citizens.

And yes, I don't get to decide whats normal and whats not. But I don't have to. History and human nature has made that decision for me and for all of us. You have the right to step away from it, and make your own path in life, but you do not have the right to demand that it bends to your will just because of freedom and liberty since as I said, it doesn't enter the domain of freedom and liberty.

Also, on the funny side of things. Isn't marriage the ball and chain? What freedom you want there :p


I think it's sadly ironic that you are making the exact same argument that the gay haters make. It's not natural and that's why it should be illegal. The government should not be in the business of dictating to people whom they can or can not marry. We're talking about whether it should be legal or not, not whether you like it personally. I'll be sure to bring this up the next time I see you saying absolutely anything about liberty or small government.
 
Must it be legalized? No.
Would it bother me if it was? No.
 
Must it be legalized? No.
Would it bother me if it was? No.

I agree with that. I'm not going to fight for polygamy to legalized. But if other people want to do that work, I wouldn't oppose it.
 
Considering the vast majority indulging in the practice are doing so as a product of a misogynistic culture where men are do dominant over their wives there can be no real "choice" involved from the female perspective due to all the societal pressures that support such a practice, it is clearly an illiberal institution that acts against liberal values.
 
As long as all parties are consenting adults then why should the government be involved?

Because the government is often asked to support the children of polygamous relationships. The women are often on food stamps and welfare.

How polygamy affects your wallet
You may or may not agree with polygamist Warren Jeffs' lifestyle, and you may or may not think he is indeed the dangerous criminal the FBI says he is, but would you believe Jeffs and his followers are costing you money?

"Their religious belief is that they'll bleed the beast, meaning the government," said Mark Shurtleff, Utah's attorney general. "They hate the government, so they'll bleed it for everything they can through welfare, tax evasion and fraud."

It makes some sense. Polygamists have multiple wives and dozens of children, but the state only recognizes one marriage. That leaves the rest of the wives to claim themselves as single moms with armies of children to support. Doing that means they can apply for welfare, which they do. And it's all legal.

"More than 65 percent of the people are on welfare ... compared with 6 percent of the people of the general population," Shurtleff said.

CNN.com - Anderson Cooper 360° Blog

Also, due to one man marrying multiple women, the pool of marriageable women shrinks forcing young girls and women into arranged marriages. In the case of Jeffs, it puts pressure on the girls to be married younger than and younger, often to much older men, thus creating the "lost boys". When the older men see younger men and boys as competition, they are cast out of their homes. So they live on the streets, uneducated and unprepared for life without their families.
 
I think it's sadly ironic that you are making the exact same argument that the gay haters make. It's not natural and that's why it should be illegal. The government should not be in the business of dictating to people whom they can or can not marry. We're talking about whether it should be legal or not, not whether you like it personally. I'll be sure to bring this up the next time I see you saying absolutely anything about liberty or small government.

This has nothing to do with liberty. And I told you but lets counteranalyze your statement shall we. And then we get to the bottom of things.

You are saying that I bring the same arguments the anti-gay marriage people have.

Fine, you can say that but the cases are different.
But if you claim that what consenting adults do, its nobody's business, then you open the door to... incest. Brother and sister decide to get married and have incest. The reason we don't permit it is because there are harmful side effects. Not for them. They'll be fine. But for the children that will result of that... union. We don't permit it because it's messed up and it is an aberration proven by science. It is nothing to do with freedom or liberty. Or if you decide to make this, polygamy, about freedom and liberty for two consenting adults to do whatever they want, then you must provide the same argument and benefit for incest.

Society cannot exist on unlimited freedom and liberty. There has never been a model of society that has existed that way because human nature desires limits. We need limitations as much as we need freedoms and liberties. There is a line in the sand that can't be crossed because you end up in a horrible, horrible place.

Monogamy reduces major social problems of polygamist cultures « UBC Public Affairs

This is just one of many studies that show that monogamy is superior to polygamy. It is in our best interest, as a society, to promote it. And we don't have to do a lot of work in promoting monogamy really, it is the natural way of things. Most people are drawn to monogamy and desire it. It is a desirable thing. The ones who want polygamy, don't really want polygamy, they just want to have affairs. And that's the catch, you can, in our society. Because as I said.

"Freedom and liberty come with the right for you to marry and divorce whomever you want as many times as you want. Freedom and liberty means that you can do adultery and not be criminally tried. Freedom and liberty have to do with you being able to not get married and have sex with multiple women and have illegitimate children and whatever. That is all freedom and liberty."

EDIT: Oh. And history and human nature proves me right in this because the freest nations in the world adopt monogamy as the standard. It is why polygamy only exists in places where there is a superior power to enforce it. Like state, religion, cult, etc.
 
It has no positive effects on society. The children of polygamous marriages are less well adjusted, in religious communities it can lead to exiling of young men, divorce would be ****ing messy, and it would amplify many of the current social problems associated with the breakdown of traditional marriage.
 
So your opinions are based on worst case scenarios where non-consenting women are forced into marriage-slavery?

Then how do you feel about traditional marriage and all those children they produce that don't get a good education and a cashmere sweater for Xmas? Should we ban marriage? How about sex? Surely sex should be illegal under "liberal values".

:roll::roll::roll:


Considering the vast majority indulging in the practice are doing so as a product of a misogynistic culture where men are do dominant over their wives there can be no real "choice" involved from the female perspective due to all the societal pressures that support such a practice, it is clearly an illiberal institution that acts against liberal values.

Because the government is often asked to support the children of polygamous relationships. The women are often on food stamps and welfare.



CNN.com - Anderson Cooper 360° Blog

Also, due to one man marrying multiple women, the pool of marriageable women shrinks forcing young girls and women into arranged marriages. In the case of Jeffs, it puts pressure on the girls to be married younger than and younger, often to much older men, thus creating the "lost boys". When the older men see younger men and boys as competition, they are cast out of their homes. So they live on the streets, uneducated and unprepared for life without their families.
 
Personally I'm not wild about marriage of any type, but if several consenting adults want a polygamous relationship, more power to them.

will we consent to let every action which includes consent adults be legalized ?
 
You're asking for a load of difficulties if you legalize polygamy.
 
So your opinions are based on worst case scenarios where non-consenting women are forced into marriage-slavery?

Then how do you feel about traditional marriage and all those children they produce that don't get a good education and a cashmere sweater for Xmas? Should we ban marriage? How about sex? Surely sex should be illegal under "liberal values".

:roll::roll::roll:

Look to China for what happens when there are not enough women for every man to have a wife. You cannot argue with math.

As to your argument, why encourage with government blessings, a relationship that will make that situation worse?
 
Because the government is often asked to support the children of polygamous relationships. The women are often on food stamps and welfare.



CNN.com - Anderson Cooper 360° Blog

Also, due to one man marrying multiple women, the pool of marriageable women shrinks forcing young girls and women into arranged marriages. In the case of Jeffs, it puts pressure on the girls to be married younger than and younger, often to much older men, thus creating the "lost boys". When the older men see younger men and boys as competition, they are cast out of their homes. So they live on the streets, uneducated and unprepared for life without their families.

Is it any different with children of non-polygamous relationships? I honestly don't know. Is there greater reliance on social services from Polygamists? I would be surprized if there are but I honestly don't know.

As for the second part of your reply I think you raise a good point. Having lived in Utah myself, I saw a number of polygamy situations. If we are talking about arranged marriages and marriages of young girls to older men, I wouldn't support that. I would support polygamy in "concept" and if all of the parties involved truly are consenting adults.
 
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