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    Re: Should people wait until marriage to have children?

    Quote Originally Posted by ChrisL View Post
    Interesting story. When I was born the Catholic church refused to baptize me because my parents weren't married when I was conceived, so my mother (who was brought up Catholic ALL the way) took me over to the Protestant church and had me baptized as Protestant. My parents DID get married before I was born though.
    I'm not a fan of the Catholic Church. In fact, "not a fan" is way too kind.
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    Re: Should people wait until marriage to have children?

    Quote Originally Posted by Mathematician View Post
    On a related note, I just wish people would put two ounces of thought into screwing before they do so. This is one of many cases where people don't think about risk versus reward worth a darn, thus a significant number of children are born to parents who aren't financially ready or aren't mature enough.
    I think it was supposed to be that way. Otherwise, no one would have kids because they would be TOO smart.

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    Re: Should people wait until marriage to have children?

    Quote Originally Posted by MaggieD View Post
    I'm not a fan of the Catholic Church. In fact, "not a fan" is way too kind.
    Me neither. Not only was my mom a Catholic school student, but we used to live right across the street from a church. Some of the rudest people I've ever seen coming and going from that place.

    Oh, and that's another VERY interesting story, guess which church it was? It was St. Mary's Church in North Attleboro, MA. I don't want to say anymore and derail the thread though. Google if you're curious though.

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    Re: Should people wait until marriage to have children?

    Sorry, I don't mean to diss anyone's religion. I know there are a LOT of good Catholics out there, my aunt is one of them. But you guys have a lot of posers too.

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    Re: Should people wait until marriage to have children?

    Quote Originally Posted by ChrisL View Post
    I think it was supposed to be that way. Otherwise, no one would have kids because they would be TOO smart.
    Think of how much better life in society would be if only independent and responsible people had kids. Waiting until my 30's for marriage and kids paid off big time.
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    Re: Should people wait until marriage to have children?

    This all depends on the couple. My sister, for example, doesn't believe in marriage for a variety of reasons but has two kids and has been with her significant other for nearly 10 years now. I don't think of it in the terms of marriage but if you are ready to have kids.

    Your birth control stat is a little biased though, generally middle class and college going girls use birth control and thus don't have kids until after marriage. On the other hand, I completely believe that this is the way it should be

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    Re: Should people wait until marriage to have children?

    Quote Originally Posted by Mathematician View Post
    Think of how much better life in society would be if only independent and responsible people had kids. Waiting until my 30's for marriage and kids paid off big time.
    Of course it would.

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    Re: Should people wait until marriage to have children?

    We were engaged, and planned to have a big wedding but a little over a year after our daughter was born we married. Doesn't matter as long as your adults about it. I strongly believe you need two parents though.
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    Re: Should people wait until marriage to have children?

    Quote Originally Posted by MaggieD View Post
    Well, to each their own. First, the problems of a living-together arrangement don't rear their ugly heads until it's time to not live together anymore. That "piece of paper" entitles a married couple to certain rights not available to two people deciding to live together. Here are some of the Federal protections a married couple have that aren't available to others:

    • Social Security survivor benefits
    • Many, if not most, employers don't allow someone to add a domestic partner to their health insurance; those that do? The premium paid by the employer for the partner's health insurance is taxable to the employee.
    • If there is no will in place (most people don't have one, unfortunately, the partner is going to be completely by-passed if there is any estate.
    • If a husband dies, the wife is able to transfer his IRA into her own and avoid taxes. If a partner dies? The other partner may not even get the funds; if the other partner was named as a beneficiary, she would have to pay ordinary income tax on the IRA proceeds.
    • Most companies' medical care leave does not extend to partners.
    • Under current laws, "partners" are excluded from the Federal Employees Health Benefit Program.
    • COBRA laws do not require employers to provide COBRA for partners.
    • Been a stay-at-home mom? If you split, you have no inherent right to temporary alimony to get you on your feet.
    • You cannot file a joint income tax return resulting in a tax penalty.
    • Estate planning benefits are lost on a partner.
    • Unless you have a healthcare power of attorney in place? You will, in most cases, be excluded from any decision-making in case of serious illness. You may find yourself on the outside looking in as family members step up.
    • There is absolutely no guarantee that, in the case of a split, you will get an equitable property division.
    • You have no right to sue a third person for the unlawful death of your partner. (You do if you are the spouse.)

    That's all true, however unwed stay-at-home moms can collect food stamps, discounted or free school lunches, Medicaid, free babysitting services, section 8 housing vouchers and cash assistance that they wouldn't get if they were legally married to their baby daddy and had his name on the birth certificate.

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    Re: Should people wait until marriage to have children?

    Quote Originally Posted by Muhammed View Post
    That's all true, however unwed stay-at-home moms can collect food stamps, discounted or free school lunches, Medicaid, free babysitting services, section 8 housing vouchers and cash assistance that they wouldn't get if they were legally married to their baby daddy and had his name on the birth certificate.
    Great. If you think there are many women happy who live off the meager allowance that welfare brings them, I don't know what to tell ya'. Poverty sucks.
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