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    Re: Should people wait until marriage to have children?

    Hmmmm. I have my own link that says otherwise. In other words, cpwill, there are OTHER factors contributing.

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    Re: Should people wait until marriage to have children?

    Quote Originally Posted by cpwill View Post
    On the contrary, "Just Don't Mix" is an excuse given for "it is tough". Although I wholly agree that there are lots of people who are destructive to each other. It is simply that the correct choice for that is to work on not being destructive to each other, but rather to choose to serve each other.
    Again, the better you fit initially the fewer sacrifices you each have to make. When neither has to sacrifice then both are happy.
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    Re: Should people wait until marriage to have children?

    Marriage isnt an emd all be all anymore. They end in aeperation, divorce, or volatile homes. Its a piece of paper. Being together and having gone through some struggles and good times together before kids seems much more effective. Plus I cant say Im the same person I was at 14 or even 20. People change) in 5-10 years and if your spouse doesnt change alomg with you or you grow apart with kids present and stay together, its a far worse scenario than divorce.

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    Re: Should people wait until marriage to have children?

    Quote Originally Posted by cpwill View Post
    On the contrary, "Just Don't Mix" is an excuse given for "it is tough". Although I wholly agree that there are lots of people who are destructive to each other. It is simply that the correct choice for that is to work on not being destructive to each other, but rather to choose to serve each other.
    No. "Just don't mix" in most cases means "just can't stand" or even "hate." You just assume that people are mentally healthy and well adjusted, easily able to work through their problems. That is nothing but a fantasy.

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    Re: Should people wait until marriage to have children?

    Quote Originally Posted by MaggieD View Post
    Just interesting discussion. Illegitimate child. Poor lil' critter. Where'd we get THAT name?? Ha!
    It beats "bastard," which was once a commonplace invested with much scorn. Now there's a disconnect, and it's just a swear word.

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    Re: Should people wait until marriage to have children?

    l am aware of the importance of a happy childhood and believe the family institution plays the most important role in a society and its improvement . a child needs both a father and a mother and marriage is not a game which you can play whenever you want .people should pay attention to whom they will marry and know what kind of things they hope to get from a marriage before making a decision .l havent married but can guess marriage needs devotion .
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    Re: Should people wait until marriage to have children?

    People should decide for themselves whether or not marriage is good for them or not. It's really not anyone else's business except for the two involved. Many people just can't work out their differences, and who is to say that is because they are "selfish" or what the reason. That is just arrogant.

    And IMO "staying together for the kids" can have just as many destructive results as divorce.

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    Re: Should people wait until marriage to have children?

    Quote Originally Posted by ChrisL View Post
    Interesting story. When I was born the Catholic church refused to baptize me because my parents weren't married when I was conceived, so my mother (who was brought up Catholic ALL the way) took me over to the Protestant church and had me baptized as Protestant. My parents DID get married before I was born though.
    A priest will NOT refuse baptism for merely being conceived out of wedlock. A priest will refuse baptism if he has valid reason to believe that the child will not be raised as a Catholic. The fact that your parents then went to a Protestant church for the baptism indicates to me that the priests refusal was well founded.
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    Re: Should people wait until marriage to have children?

    Quote Originally Posted by Voltaire X View Post
    I'm fine with premarital casual sex and whatnot, but birth control should be used.

    Do you know what the poverty rate in the US is for families that wait until marriage to have children and stay married? 2%.

    The poverty rate for the general population is 13%, more than six times as high. Plus, children that grow up in single parent households are much more likely to end up involved in criminal activity.

    I look down on people that have children outside of marriage. They are hurting their children, their families, themselves, and their country.

    Also I'm an atheist so religion has nothing to do with why I believe this.
    I don't know how it happens in America..but here..if you are not married...and you separate...you are a week-end dad..if you are lucky!!

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    Re: Should people wait until marriage to have children?

    Quote Originally Posted by ChuckBerry View Post
    A priest will NOT refuse baptism for merely being conceived out of wedlock. A priest will refuse baptism if he has valid reason to believe that the child will not be raised as a Catholic. The fact that your parents then went to a Protestant church for the baptism indicates to me that the priests refusal was well founded.
    Oh, that's a good reason for denying an innocent baby the chance to be cleansed of original sin. What a bunch of effing hypocrites!

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