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    Does constructive encheatering make you a cheater?

    Many cheaters cheat because they are just like that. Many cheaters cheat because their partners push them into it. And many cheaters cheat to line up the new person before breaking up and risking the unsupportive singleness period. Which category do you belong to?

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    Re: Does constructive encheatering make you a cheater?

    Quote Originally Posted by ab9924 View Post
    Many cheaters cheat because they are just like that. Many cheaters cheat because their partners push them into it. And many cheaters cheat to line up the new person before breaking up and risking the unsupportive singleness period. Which category do you belong to?
    I've never cheated. To my knowledge, no one has cheated on me...in a single relationship or a married one. Not everybody cheats!
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    Re: Does constructive encheatering make you a cheater?

    Quote Originally Posted by ab9924 View Post
    Many cheaters cheat because they are just like that. Many cheaters cheat because their partners push them into it. And many cheaters cheat to line up the new person before breaking up and risking the unsupportive singleness period. Which category do you belong to?
    I fell in love with someone else while I was dating a guy I didn't really like. I've been happily married to him ever since. We didn't have sex - but it was still cheating in my book . . . 2 relationships of some nature before one ended. It was obviously more than a friendship. I broke up with him as soon as he came back to the state.

    Apparently I always felt we were just casually dating - he was planning on proposing. Perspective differences. Both people need to be on the same page to make a relationship work at all. There was no way I would have been able to marry him - he was difficult to say the least and made me feel utterly repulsive as a human being because he wouldn't touch me with others around (holding hands, that sort of thing)

    I figured I would have been the ultimate bitch if I broke up with him when he was stationed out of state - so I took the next rung down.

    Since highschool - I have been single for all of 2 months. . . and I hated it. So maybe I do have an aversion to a relationshipless status.
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    Re: Does constructive encheatering make you a cheater?

    Quote Originally Posted by ab9924 View Post
    Many cheaters cheat because they are just like that. Many cheaters cheat because their partners push them into it. And many cheaters cheat to line up the new person before breaking up and risking the unsupportive singleness period. Which category do you belong to?
    Is none an option? LOL

    There are a whole range of reasons people cheat. The worst I ever heard was the wife so wanted to hurt her husband she cheated on him. Not because she was attracted to the other guy, was hurt and was seeking comfort, was in a platonic friendship that went too far or had a sexual addiction issue. She just wanted to inflict pain on her husband and found a guy willing to assist.

    I think most people who cheat are using unfaithfulness as an temporary anesthesia to mask an inner emotional pain possibly triggered by some unhealthy characteristic of their marriage. And/or there is a self-worth/affirmation need not being met by their spouse and more likely not only not being met but being undermined by their spouse.
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    Re: Does constructive encheatering make you a cheater?

    Quote Originally Posted by ab9924 View Post
    Many cheaters cheat because they are just like that. Many cheaters cheat because their partners push them into it. And many cheaters cheat to line up the new person before breaking up and risking the unsupportive singleness period. Which category do you belong to?
    None of the above, and nobody pushes anyone into cheating. If you don't want to be with the woman, dump her. It's as simple as that, but apparently, that's too complicated for people these days.
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    Re: Does constructive encheatering make you a cheater?

    Encheatering? What's that?

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    Re: Does constructive encheatering make you a cheater?

    I hate cheaters. Thankfully we have 2nd amendment remedies for them these days.

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    Re: Does constructive encheatering make you a cheater?

    Very simple. I don't cheat at all. Have never been cheated on either. Not all people are utter scumbags.
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    Re: Does constructive encheatering make you a cheater?

    Quote Originally Posted by ChrisL View Post
    Encheatering? What's that?
    Encheatering is when someone plays with your head and senses for the purpose of forcing you to cheat on them, against your unsuspecting mind/attitude. Then, once you complete the cheating, they turn around and use it against you.

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    Re: Does constructive encheatering make you a cheater?

    what do you mean by strategic reasons?
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