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Thread: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

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    Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Should women be allowed custody of their children after they cheat on their husband, resulting in a divorce, where the husband demands full custody?

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    re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Historically, women have received full custody of the children, regardless of the reason of the dissolution of a marriage. Today, however, this is changing, especially since women are sometimes more to blame than the men. With that being said, yes, I think men have a right, as long as they are good fathers, to have the chance at full custody of the children, especially in cases where there might be an issue with the 'fit-ness' of the mother.

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    re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Quote Originally Posted by ab9924 View Post
    Should women be allowed custody of their children after they cheat on their husband, resulting in a divorce, where the husband demands full custody?
    Cheating shouldn't be the overall determining factor - unhappy couples in divorce suits wage all sorts of falsehoods against the other. My ex accused me of cheating around Ridiculous.

    Custody should be based on other more reliable facts and issues.
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    re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Depends on the person and the situation. Was she a good mother and a good wife who was largely ignored, and made to feel worthless? Or was she selfish and witchy? Cheating is no good to begin with, but I'd definitely cut her some slack in the former situation.

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    re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Is it true, that child custodies are always decided with the "what's best for the child" propaganda, and at least one of the parents is always badly shafted, like justice is only a joke of a power game?

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    re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Quote Originally Posted by Aunt Spiker View Post
    Cheating shouldn't be the overall determining factor - unhappy couples in divorce suits wage all sorts of falsehoods against the other. My ex accused me of cheating around Ridiculous.

    Custody should be based on other more reliable facts and issues.
    Is that a "what's best for the child"? Amazing isn't it? It is sooo easy to screw you if you are a parent.

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    re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Quote Originally Posted by ab9924 View Post
    Is that a "what's best for the child"? Amazing isn't it? It is sooo easy to screw you if you are a parent.
    No - the kids are the ones screwed by being shared and deprived of one or the other all for the shortcoming of human beings. Reduced to merely an inconvenience and a scheduled task to be seen to promptly. That's the sad part.

    When it comes to it - I think things like 'are they safe to be around, are they neglectful of the child's needs' and so on need to be more of a focus . . . if you cheat it may or may not be related to other issues of the more serious nature.

    But honestly - if someone cheats it's usually a sign that there's already something wrong in the marriage. The cheating just makes a more convenient or unavoidable end (given that it actually happened). And who knows - if both parents are assholes - or the dad's a drunk and the mom's a cheater then I think the obvious solution is to not expect the drunk to care for kids until he's sober.

    See - it's all situation based and depends on what REALLY is going on.

    the kids are more important and if that means one parent is shafted because of thei rbad decisions then maybe they should change who they are and reconsider their path.
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    re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Custody Orders in my area almost always include a no unrelated overnight guest of the opposite sex while the children are in the house without the consent of the other parent provision that applies to both sides. That sort of negates the relevance of cheating going forward.

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    re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Quote Originally Posted by Fisher View Post
    Custody Orders in my area almost always include a no unrelated overnight guest of the opposite sex while the children are in the house without the consent of the other parent provision that applies to both sides. That sort of negates the relevance of cheating going forward.
    Excellent, but pretty impossible to prove in court.

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    re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Quote Originally Posted by Aunt Spiker View Post
    No - the kids are the ones screwed by being shared and deprived of one or the other. An inconvenience and a scheduled task to be seen to promptly. That's the sad part.

    When it comes to it - I think things like 'are they safe to be around, are they neglectful of the child's needs' and so on need to be more of a focus . . . if you cheat it may or may not be related to other issues of the more serious nature.

    But honestly - if someone cheats it's usually a sign that there's already something wrong in the marriage. The cheating just makes a more convenient or unavoidable end (given that it actually happened)
    Can't some child welfare be sacrificed to provide some level of justice to a parent?

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