Yes, custody is ex-wives' right, unconditionally.
No, by cheating, they reduced their rights, husband needs upper hand.
Other. Overall factors should be weighed in who is more fit to raise the child after divorce, everything should go into that from sobriety, to general attention to the child, stability, moral character. It all matters.
Neither side in an argument can find the truth when both make an absolute claim on it.
I was discovering that life just simply isn't fair and bask in the unsung glory of knowing that each obstacle overcome along the way only adds to the satisfaction in the end. Nothing great, after all, was ever accomplished by anyone sulking in his or her misery.
It is best, in a divorce, that the parents come to a mutually acceptible agreement, between themselves, regarding custody before they ever set foot in the courtroom.
Naturally, this is typically only going to happen if both parents are currently-rational adults operating in a responsible manner.
Failing that, the judge should consider the needs of the children as paramount, but both parents should have some say and reasonable access to the children, unless one (or more) are abusive or otherwise clearly dangerous.
Fiddling While Rome Burns
Carthago Delenda Est
"I used to roll the dice; see the fear in my enemies' eyes... listen as the crowd would sing, 'now the old king is dead, Long Live the King.'.."
My first ex cheated on me and is still with the man she left me for. She got custody of the kids. I was paying almost $1300/month in child support for 2 kids. I finally got it reduced to $772/month (after 3 years of paying the higher amount). Why I am the one being punished for a decision she decided to make? Another stab in the back is seeing my 12 year old daughter posting videos of herself on the internet on a site where several grown men (perverts) have added her as a friend and probably masturbate to her videos.
Unfortunately nothing can be done about this. So I pay, but I get no say. I hope she doesn't end up like the girl who committed suicide, but it looks like she is heading down that road. And I can't do a thing about it.
Scientific fact: If you took all of the veins from your body and laid them end to end, you would die.
"God is the name by which I designate all things which cross my path violently and recklessly, all things which alter my plans and intentions, and change the course of my life, for better or for worse."
-C G Jung