View Poll Results: Should cheating ex-wives be allowed to contest custody?

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Thread: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

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    re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Quote Originally Posted by ab9924 View Post
    Excellent, but pretty impossible to prove in court.
    Not really. The kids will usually rat them out and the Court at least locally seems to have a guilty until proven innocent stance on stuff like that. Most parents don't seem to care as long as it is a serious relationship where the person will be around awhile. The ones who do care when it is a serious relationship are usually the ones who use their kids as pawns in the emotional drama game they won't let go of after the divorce.

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    re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Quote Originally Posted by ab9924 View Post
    Can't some child welfare be sacrificed to provide some level of justice to a parent?
    Nope.

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    re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Quote Originally Posted by ab9924 View Post
    Can't some child welfare be sacrificed to provide some level of justice to a parent?
    If a child is being divided between parents then that child is already being sacrificed.

    To me - the concept of depriving one parent when they're not a direct or serious danger to the child based solely on the act of cheating is more like wanting to punish that parent for the act - revenge or retaliation - rather than try to make the best decisions for the child amid a ****ty situation that's out of his/her control.

    Children aren't a weapon to wield in order to hurt or punish the other parent in a divorce.

    Someone cheats - isn't a divorce enough?

    So - what is it in your mind that makes a cheating spouse incapable of being able to parent?

    Just because someone doesn't love their partner anymore doesn't necessarily mean they don't love their children.
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    re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    There is no one size fits all answer to this.

    The best answer is "what is best for the kid's welfare?"

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    re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Quote Originally Posted by ab9924 View Post
    Should women be allowed custody of their children after they cheat on their husband, resulting in a divorce, where the husband demands full custody?
    WTF? Of course they should. Cheating on their husband has no bearing on how they will raise their kids. What possible argument is there to NOT grant them joint custody?
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    re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    depends. Heres an example from the local news that shows when a woman should not.

    About 3 years ago (according to the news) a local woman just disappeared from her home leaving her husband and young child with no explanation. The husband divorced her for abandonment and it was granted. A couple of months ago she returned insisting on custody of the child stating that the father had no legal rights to the child. The husband got a restraining order.

    She then kidnapped the child but was later caught and charged with kidnapping. She continued to claim that as the mother she alone had rights to the child and the father had none even after the authorities explained it to her. She continued to maintain her position throughout her trial and eventual sentencing

    When the woman clearly demonstrates a lack of caring for the child or gross negligence she should not be allowed. this would include abandonment, abuse, neglect among others.
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    re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Ugh that's horrid - I can't even imagine how aweful it was for that kid . . . I hope he somehow pulls through it and doesn't hate himself somehow. . . early on kids in such situations get ideas in their head that they did something wrong, they aren't worthy of love - and it haunts them through their entire lives if they don't find a way to cope.
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    re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Okay everyone, so if a woman cheats on her husband, hasn't she already proven with that that she is not able to be loyal or supportive and caring, so a child should not be assumed to receive any loyalty, support, and care from her, when examined in any court of law?

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    re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Custody of the children shouldn't be dependent on what the couple did to each other (or in spite of each other). It should be dependent on which parent is best able to care for the kid(s).
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    re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Quote Originally Posted by ab9924 View Post
    Okay everyone, so if a woman cheats on her husband, hasn't she already proven with that that she is not able to be loyal or supportive and caring, so a child should not be assumed to receive any loyalty, support, and care from her, when examined in any court of law?
    A woman's bond to her child is significantly different than the bond to her husband.
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