View Poll Results: Should cheating ex-wives be allowed to contest custody?

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Thread: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

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    Re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Quote Originally Posted by celticwar17 View Post
    It's illegal in a marriage contract...doing things illegal to the point where it hurts people, only a bad human being would do that.
    Can you point me to a copy of a marraige contract that I can read?

    I don't think I have ever seen one.

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    Re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    What?

    What possible difference does cheating have to do with raising a child?

    It's whether she is a good mother or not - nothing else is relevant.

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    Re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Should cheating ex-husbands be allowed to contest custody?

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    Last edited by Klown; 11-24-12 at 04:41 AM.

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    Re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Quote Originally Posted by ab9924 View Post
    Can't some child welfare be sacrificed to provide some level of justice to a parent?
    Justice to the parent?

    Who cares?

    The only thing that matters in child custody is what is best for the child.

    All other considerations should be TOTALLY irrelevant, imo.

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    Re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

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    This must be case by case.
    Judges have a very tough task.
    The children must be the "winners" (actually they must lose as little as possible)
    No one wins in a divorce.
    If only the parents could realize how much they hate their children when they do cheat.

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    Re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Quote Originally Posted by DA60 View Post
    What?

    What possible difference does cheating have to do with raising a child?

    It's whether she is a good mother or not - nothing else is relevant.
    "Cheating" has MUCH to do with raising a child.

    The child needs the love of both parents.

    NOT just one....and our government...

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    Re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Quote Originally Posted by Mason66 View Post
    How would the child know about the cheating?

    That is not a subject to be discussed with a child.
    THAT, I do not know about...
    Children are much smarter than we think they are.
    Much depends on their age/upbringing/environment.

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    Re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    I was married for 30 years. My wife developed an internet relationship with a kid 25 years my junior, the relationship became closer, and then she left me for him. As to my 12 year old, the issue isn't what is good for my ex or myself, but what is best for him. Right now, that means he stays in the same house he's always lived in, but sees me each day and spends the night once a week. He has adjusted, I have adjusted, I actually get along better with my ex than when we were married, and we never use the child as a tool to hurt one another. That's the issue I have with the whole premise of the thread in that it places the issue of child custody as a battle between the adults instead of a consideration for the welfare of the kid.

    As far as I'm concerned, the welfare of the child should be the ONLY thing that matters.
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    Re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Quote Originally Posted by Gardener View Post
    I was married for 30 years. My wife developed an internet relationship with a kid 25 years my junior, the relationship became closer, and then she left me for him. As to my 12 year old, the issue isn't what is good for my ex or myself, but what is best for him. Right now, that means he stays in the same house he's always lived in, but sees me each day and spends the night once a week. He has adjusted, I have adjusted, I actually get along better with my ex than when we were married, and we never use the child as a tool to hurt one another. That's the issue I have with the whole premise of the thread in that it places the issue of child custody as a battle between the adults instead of a consideration for the welfare of the kid.

    As far as I'm concerned, the welfare of the child should be the ONLY thing that matters.
    My male partner cheated on me endlessly...I tried to keep the family together..I tried really hard...

    He would never bother with his children..ever..

    Once I'd decided to move away and take my children with me...all of a sudden..he couldn't live without seeing them..

    Children are used as weapons during a bitter divorce..

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    Re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    I can see where the OP is coming from, but custody should go to the most emotionally supportive and stable parent.

    Men and women cheat for different reasons. Women are generally seeking emotional gratification and a sense of excitement... That romantic spark from earlier in her marriage.

    Men seek sexual gratification and an ego boost. They want respect and someone to hear threm out.

    If a man fails at supporting his wife emotionally is he going to likewise damage his child's psyche?

    Even in cases of female infidelity custody often goes to the mother because they generally are the more supportive parent figure.

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