View Poll Results: Should cheating ex-wives be allowed to contest custody?

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Thread: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

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    Re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Quote Originally Posted by celticwar17 View Post
    You seem to have no idea how divorce works. One parent can have primary custody, but both parents still share responsibility in trading off the kids. It's up to the court to decide and weigh in ALL the factors. Cheating on the spouse IS a factor... much like everything else.
    The question posed by the OP was whether women should be allowed custody at all when the man asks for full custody. Answer: of course. If cheating is he only strike against the one parent, they should be given equal custody.

    I know how divorce works now, but we're talking about hypothetically changing it.

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    Re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Quote Originally Posted by megaprogman View Post
    There is no one size fits all answer to this.

    The best answer is "what is best for the kid's welfare?"
    As a child of a divorced couple, I completely agree... My mother got custody of me and my two brothers, simply because she was the mother. Let's just say if I had a choice, I'd have been with my father.
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    Re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Quote Originally Posted by ab9924 View Post
    Should women be allowed custody of their children after they cheat on their husband, resulting in a divorce, where the husband demands full custody?
    Custody should be awarded to the most fit parent. Sometimes even a cheater is more fit than the other parent.

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    Re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Quote Originally Posted by ab9924 View Post
    Should women be allowed custody of their children after they cheat on their husband, resulting in a divorce, where the husband demands full custody?
    I don't see why the two would be connectedc.

    What the woman did in her bedroom or somebody elses doesn't change how she parents her children.

    What is the real question here? Revenge?

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    Re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Quote Originally Posted by Green Balls View Post
    My first ex cheated on me and is still with the man she left me for. She got custody of the kids. I was paying almost $1300/month in child support for 2 kids. I finally got it reduced to $772/month (after 3 years of paying the higher amount). Why I am the one being punished for a decision she decided to make? Another stab in the back is seeing my 12 year old daughter posting videos of herself on the internet on a site where several grown men (perverts) have added her as a friend and probably masturbate to her videos.

    Unfortunately nothing can be done about this. So I pay, but I get no say. I hope she doesn't end up like the girl who committed suicide, but it looks like she is heading down that road. And I can't do a thing about it.
    How does your daughters address change your ability to be a strong father figure in her life?

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    Re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Quote Originally Posted by ab9924 View Post
    By internalizing cheating I meant that the child is smart enough to see that one of the parents cheated, and when staying with the cheating parent, the child learns that cheating is okay or even a good thing. When something hurts you for a long time, it becomes a part of you and you become it, and then you will do the same thing as what hurt you initially. This is how people learn to do every bad thing, especially when a custody court orders them into that situation.
    How would the child know about the cheating?

    That is not a subject to be discussed with a child.

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    Re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Quote Originally Posted by Kr1ll1n View Post
    They can when you take things like this in to account;

    Another Cause of Early Puberty in Girls: Absent Dads | TIME.com
    How much earlier?

    In the 50s some girls were entering puberty at 9 or 10 years old.

    How much sooner is that really happening and how much has to do with the hormones in the meat they eat than an absent father.

    Are we to assume that a girl in a home where the father is presnet will enter puberty later than a girl where the father is absent and what about all the familes down through history where the father was not in the home, and I am talking about 1000s of years of history. Did that change the biological make up of the girl of the house?

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    Re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Quote Originally Posted by celticwar17 View Post
    Makes you a bad human being? And usually bad human beings are bad parents? Or it could be that you are weak to commitment... I can come up with MANY reasons.
    How is doing what nature tewlls you to do make you a bad human being. If you would have said a bad religious person, that would be more accurate but not a bad human being.

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    Re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Quote Originally Posted by Mason66 View Post
    How does your daughters address change your ability to be a strong father figure in her life?
    Because my ex will not allow me to have contact with my children. I have tried, but she always controls the communication and then says the kids don't want to talk to me. I don't have enough money to hire an attorney to fight her in court. I already have a $2000 lawyer bill from getting my child support reduced.
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    Re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Quote Originally Posted by Mason66 View Post
    How is doing what nature tewlls you to do make you a bad human being. If you would have said a bad religious person, that would be more accurate but not a bad human being.
    It's illegal in a marriage contract...doing things illegal to the point where it hurts people, only a bad human being would do that.

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