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Thread: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

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    re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Sexual fidelity has nothing to do with fitness to be a parent.

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    re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    I said other...I think it depends on the situation.......
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    re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Quote Originally Posted by ab9924 View Post
    Can't some child welfare be sacrificed to provide some level of justice to a parent?


    Depends on what you mean by sacrafice child welfare... as a parent being screwed by my ex I can't think of a situation here I would want my child over their best interest. Most of the time they can over lap though. Our case is decided in Court this Friday.
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    re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Quote Originally Posted by Paschendale View Post
    What does sexual fidelity have to do with fitness to be a parent?
    It goes to show moral or ethical responsiblity. If one is a cheater then they are not trustworthy to anybody. This affects parenting.
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    re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    I fail to see how cheating on your spouse makes you an unfit parent.

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    re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Quote Originally Posted by Bodhisattva View Post
    It goes to show moral or ethical responsiblity. If one is a cheater then they are not trustworthy to anybody. This affects parenting.
    Accordign to Science Daily the number of potential cheaters is quite high - 40 to 70% might cheat . .. are 40-70% automatically untrustworthy? According to these statistics - most of us know someone who's cheated during their marriage . . . do you realize if anyone has? 40-70% is 4/10 or 7/10. Well I know more than 10 married couples and I can't envision any of them cheating on their partners.

    Such blanket-condemning thought process isn't based on reality - it's based on the assumption that one singular decision or incident nets that the individual - for their entire life thereafter - is a bad, horrid person. It's just not true. While it might be a bad decision and it might have negative consequences - it doesn't mean the person can't pay the bills on time, can't feed the family, can't take kids to the hospital when they're sick and stay up with them at night. It doesn't mean that one can't do a good job at work - not nipping money out of the till and so on.

    I don't believe in not giving someone a 2nd chance - or an opportunity to correct their wrongs and amend a bad situation. I don't believe in holding one action against someone in every aspect of their life. People can and do change.

    People shouldn't be defined by just their bad decisions in life. . .which, again, brings us back to it just being circumstantial and based on the situation, how everyone deals with it, and the course of action everyone takes.

    Do you believe your bad decisions should govern everything else about you? I definitely don't - my dad never forgave me for getting pregnant during high school . . . as if I couldn't grow up, mature, and change at all in the last 15 years since then. . . like I'm incapable of doing anything else but ****ing everything that moves (seriously - he said that to my *current* husband - that he thought I had sex with everything that moves. . . my husband defended me quite honorable.)

    So - no one should be condemning anyone except for those directly affected - if it's your co worker and it doesn't involve you then you shouldn't judge them. And if it is direct and personal - then just keep in mind that NOT EVERYONE is like THAT one person.

    Not everyone is like my ex husband - ok?
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    re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    My brother, the man who makes digsbe look like an evil heathen, cheated on his wife while she was in a depression and he became lonely and emotionally needy. You would be surprised at who cheats.

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    re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Quote Originally Posted by kerussll View Post
    I fail to see how cheating on your spouse makes you an unfit parent.
    Makes you a bad human being? And usually bad human beings are bad parents? Or it could be that you are weak to commitment... I can come up with MANY reasons.

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    re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Quote Originally Posted by celticwar17 View Post
    Makes you a bad human being? And usually bad human beings are bad parents? Or it could be that you are weak to commitment... I can come up with MANY reasons.
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    re: Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

    Quote Originally Posted by Bodhisattva View Post
    It goes to show moral or ethical responsiblity. If one is a cheater then they are not trustworthy to anybody. This affects parenting.
    So is being a cheater like being an alcoholic? Once one, always one? When does it stop? Should we break out the Scarlet Letters?

    On a related note, I will tell you, I love my child but I wouldn't piss on the other half of her gene pool if he were on fire. The relationships are completely and totally different and CANNOT be compared. How I treat my partner/spouse and my child are not comparable. My child is a part of me.

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