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Should women be allowed custody? [W:124]

Should cheating ex-wives be allowed to contest custody?

  • Yes, custody is ex-wives' right, unconditionally.

    Votes: 7 14.9%
  • No, by cheating, they reduced their rights, husband needs upper hand.

    Votes: 12 25.5%
  • Other.

    Votes: 28 59.6%

  • Total voters
    47
It's illegal in a marriage contract...doing things illegal to the point where it hurts people, only a bad human being would do that.

Can you point me to a copy of a marraige contract that I can read?

I don't think I have ever seen one.

Thanks
 
What?

What possible difference does cheating have to do with raising a child?

It's whether she is a good mother or not - nothing else is relevant.
 
Should cheating ex-husbands be allowed to contest custody?

Is God male?
 
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Can't some child welfare be sacrificed to provide some level of justice to a parent?

Justice to the parent?

Who cares?

The only thing that matters in child custody is what is best for the child.

All other considerations should be TOTALLY irrelevant, imo.
 
Other (thanks for that choice)
This must be case by case.
Judges have a very tough task.
The children must be the "winners" (actually they must lose as little as possible)
No one wins in a divorce.
If only the parents could realize how much they hate their children when they do cheat.
 
What?

What possible difference does cheating have to do with raising a child?

It's whether she is a good mother or not - nothing else is relevant.

"Cheating" has MUCH to do with raising a child.

The child needs the love of both parents.

NOT just one....and our government...
 
How would the child know about the cheating?

That is not a subject to be discussed with a child.

THAT, I do not know about...
Children are much smarter than we think they are.
Much depends on their age/upbringing/environment.
 
I was married for 30 years. My wife developed an internet relationship with a kid 25 years my junior, the relationship became closer, and then she left me for him. As to my 12 year old, the issue isn't what is good for my ex or myself, but what is best for him. Right now, that means he stays in the same house he's always lived in, but sees me each day and spends the night once a week. He has adjusted, I have adjusted, I actually get along better with my ex than when we were married, and we never use the child as a tool to hurt one another. That's the issue I have with the whole premise of the thread in that it places the issue of child custody as a battle between the adults instead of a consideration for the welfare of the kid.

As far as I'm concerned, the welfare of the child should be the ONLY thing that matters.
 
I was married for 30 years. My wife developed an internet relationship with a kid 25 years my junior, the relationship became closer, and then she left me for him. As to my 12 year old, the issue isn't what is good for my ex or myself, but what is best for him. Right now, that means he stays in the same house he's always lived in, but sees me each day and spends the night once a week. He has adjusted, I have adjusted, I actually get along better with my ex than when we were married, and we never use the child as a tool to hurt one another. That's the issue I have with the whole premise of the thread in that it places the issue of child custody as a battle between the adults instead of a consideration for the welfare of the kid.

As far as I'm concerned, the welfare of the child should be the ONLY thing that matters.

My male partner cheated on me endlessly...I tried to keep the family together..I tried really hard...

He would never bother with his children..ever..

Once I'd decided to move away and take my children with me...all of a sudden..he couldn't live without seeing them..

Children are used as weapons during a bitter divorce..
 
I can see where the OP is coming from, but custody should go to the most emotionally supportive and stable parent.

Men and women cheat for different reasons. Women are generally seeking emotional gratification and a sense of excitement... That romantic spark from earlier in her marriage.

Men seek sexual gratification and an ego boost. They want respect and someone to hear threm out.

If a man fails at supporting his wife emotionally is he going to likewise damage his child's psyche?

Even in cases of female infidelity custody often goes to the mother because they generally are the more supportive parent figure.
 
I find it odd that you restricted your poll to women only, and didn't use the word "parent" instead. May I presume that you do believe that cheating men should be allowed custody, regardless of their infidelity, and the "unfit cheating parent should lose custody" moniker belongs only on the mother?

It may be because child custody cases, from what I've heard (I could easily be wrong here), tend to benefit the woman better.
 
It may be because child custody cases, from what I've heard (I could easily be wrong here), tend to benefit the woman better.

This is very true. It is changing slowly but it is still very slanted in the females favor. One reason is the "if it ain't broke" system that sees women as primary care givers since men work. Once separation, men that want more care of children are often denied due to the fact that the woman was the primary care giver and the Courts don't want to see that change. I am going through this now. It is uphill the entire way.
 
Should women be allowed custody of their children after they cheat on their husband, resulting in a divorce, where the husband demands full custody?
Highly circumstantial on a case by case basis. No answer is universal.
 
Other (thanks for that choice)
This must be case by case.
Judges have a very tough task.
The children must be the "winners" (actually they must lose as little as possible)
No one wins in a divorce.
If only the parents could realize how much they hate their children when they do cheat.

Maybe you should leave it up to the family itself - broken or together - to figure out if someone hates the children at all or even if it's bad at all that a divorce is going on instead of outsiders who aren't involved at all and who know next to nothing trying to thrust their hands into the mouth of truth hoping it gets bitten off.

It's a rotten, false concept that being together is always best. . . hopefully it is best. Hopefully it is - but ti's not a standard rule of life. My mother's life is much better off because her biological parents put an end to their horrid ridiculous catastrophe of a marriage. At least the kids were able to come home to a peaceful house at the end of the day.
 
The only thing that can ever matter is the good of the children, and I don't hink (having had some experience) that parents who hate one another are fit to be consulted.
 
But, isn't the husband and her child the same because it was her explicit choice to have both of them?

Have you been married and had children? I'm a bit confused about your understanding of the bonds of marriage and with one's children.
 
I dont believe in divorce, but if its the resort then I believe it should be a grey area. The government should inspect how the welfare of the children would be with each parent.
 
Depends on the person and the situation. Was she a good mother and a good wife who was largely ignored, and made to feel worthless? Or was she selfish and witchy? Cheating is no good to begin with, but I'd definitely cut her some slack in the former situation.

Amen. It should always depend on whats good for the children and what they want.
 
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