Yes, I'd bear the child and raise it
Yes, I'd bear the child and give it up for adoption
No, I would have an abortion
No, I would seek out plan B, but if it didn't work I raise it
No, I would seek out plan B, but if it didn't work, I would give it up for adoption
Please keep in mind my question is regarding what a woman would choose to do, not be forced to do. I appreciate everyone's honesty in their replies, and I am sympathetic to the situations I have read about so far.
Scientific fact: If you took all of the veins from your body and laid them end to end, you would die.
I am VERY strong against a woman giving up a child at birth UNLESS it arranged for alterative good parents IS throwing the child away. Yes, some people are raised wonderfully by adoptive parents. She was. BUT her adoptive mother is the sister of her bio-mother as a young teen and it known the older sister (her adoptive mother) was incapable of having children. She describes her childhood and her adoptive parents as "perfect." BUT she was NOT thrown away. Who would be her parents before her birth was known and known to be great potential parents.
Throwing a newborn into "the system" is just a crap shoot. Some babies win. Some lose. I lost. Many do.
I was a thrown away baby. I was $63.47 to $112.18 plus some food stamps to those people. And, like all the other male children dumped there, just little animals to abuse, assault, torment and use sadistically in ways I won't write of. Female little children were of even less value other than the monthly G-money that they kept receiving for 18 years whether the girl was still alive or not, and none of the girls were for long. I doubt any of those girls survived to adulthood and certainly less than 50% of the males, most of those severely and permanently crippled and multilated physically and psychologically. I was lucky and I managed to escape at age 15. I took a newborn baby girl with me. She wouldn't have lived through the next day had I not. She is now my college age adoptive daughter.
The pro-life posters of the wonderful loving young white couple holding the beautiful little blue eyed white little baby is mostly just a myth. There are exceptions. But those are exceptions to the rule. The "good stories" tend to be pre-arranged adoptions, not children thrown into the system.
And then there are all the children born with severe physical and mental disabilities that are basically just left lying in a corner all their lives in a true living hell, maybe worse than my childhood and youth was.
Unless the birth mother has made specific arrangements for legally bound wonderful parents, in my opinion that birth mother has total moral obligation and duty to raise the child she gave birth to as perfectly as she is able to. No more throwing away babies at birth into the unknown - claiming that is the moral thing to do. It is obscenely evil - my opinion of it.
That's like asking if you would have the nerve to hide Jews during WWII. Unless you were there, how could you say, truthfully?
I do not agree with what you have to say, but I'll defend to the death your right to say it. Voltaire
When you make your peace with authority, you become an authority.- Jim Morrison
Also, I know a woman who gave a child up for adoption because she was only 15 when she got pregnant. She and the father came to the decision together. I didn't know her at that time, but I can say that she is a mother now of other children and is a great mom. She did what she believed to be what was BEST for her child and would completely disagree with you that she threw her child away.
"God is the name by which I designate all things which cross my path violently and recklessly, all things which alter my plans and intentions, and change the course of my life, for better or for worse."
-C G Jung
There are some wonderful adoption programs around that will allow the birth parents to get to know the potential adoptive parents.
Open adoption - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia